Background: we have been dating casually for about 3 months. We have met a few times for coffee and been out on dates twice. We email daily and talk on the phone about weekly. She has a 5 year old daughter who she hasn't brought into the relationship yet, which I respect. I want more from our relationship, but I don't want her to feel pressured. How can I convey that to her without scaring her away?
2006-07-27 03:41:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, this seems like the place I want to be as a woman.
Just let her know your feelings have escalated for her and you want a more formal relationship. Be confident when you are saying this, do it in a neutral setting.
It sounds as if you havent been intimate yet ... and I commend you. But if I was that woman, I would be waiting for that news about two months ago.
Everyone yearns for stability... as long as you dont be too pushy. Just say it in a semi playful but confident mode.
Best of luck. I wish that woman was me.
Much love and much respect to you.
2006-07-27 04:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by rizzio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her general relationship questions to see if she is currently looking for someone. That someone could be you, but if you don't want to pressure her keep it general and see where that goes. If a girl is interested in you she may throw you a few hints. If she is not looking for a relationship at the moment she will say that, and if the question is brought up generally then you won't feel rejected. Space out your questions so she doesn't feel like she is being grilled. Ask her something like "Are you looking to hook up with a guy or are you happy staying single?" and see what kind of reaction she has to that. If you present it like a friend would, she may not feel as much pressure.
2006-07-27 03:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her if they, underline they, would like to go on a picnic and to the beach, zoo, whatever this weekend? By including her daughter, you are letting her know that you want to take the relationship a step further. If she says no to bringing her daughter without a valid reason, then you know she isn't ready. Don't give up trying though. Wait awhile and in the meantime ask her out more perhaps to do things that are more frequently than you have until now and maybe to do things that are more family oriented?
Good luck.
2006-07-27 03:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask to see her out for coffee or on dates more often. There's nothing wrong with that and the more you see each other the more comfortable you both will be to move on to a more serious relationship. I hope you dont mean marriage cause you guys havent been dating long enough, just try and see her more often it'll be fulfilling without rushing into something that may scare her away.
2006-07-27 03:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her, ask her if she thinks you and she will move into a more intimate relationship or is she still weighing out the pros and cons of how things are going?
She may be wondering why you haven't made the moves - historically, it usually has been the man's job to do that - yes, even in 2006.
2006-07-27 03:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some advice from someone who's been there and done that. NEVER! I say NEVER date a female with kids. This means trouble for the relationship. You continue on, you will regret it for the rest of you life.
2006-07-27 03:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is best. Maybe she wants the same and is scared to step forward.
2006-07-27 03:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the last answer is the greatest one
and I have to agree with her
women don't like unconfident guys
so tell her what you think and be gentle if she didn't want to tell her that you can wait and do what she wants ok!!
2006-07-27 03:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by theyoungflame1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her like this babe wuld u like if u wunt to speed are relationship up.
2006-07-27 03:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by crystalleanne94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Tell her what you want, but tell her that if she is not ready you are willing to wait.
2006-07-27 03:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋