He is a good kid at heart, however, he is very stubborn, argumentative and has a hard time following rules. And when he is punished he can't stick to his punishment.
What would be good punishment? How do i nip this in the bud?
2006-07-27 03:38:32 · 20 answers · asked by casearas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
9 years is not a bud ! It is half way through. Not like old times, the child-like innocence is lost very soon in this generation. No harm really, but parents are on a real fast-fast-forward, as far as nipping at the bud is concerned. And the sprawling media content offers tremendous transparency regarding many things that hitherto youths could find for themselves only when they are on their own.
Punishment would only foster hatred. The vulnerability of society for a city bred child is by itself a punishment in many ways.
We have to participate meaningfully, intensely, wholeheartedly, communicative, and cheerfully, as much as possible (that is if children are really our priority !), in all their activities, and suggest options, explaining the consequences of their choices, and not in the least of all, admit our ignorances and failures, honourably and gracefully.
2006-07-27 03:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you say he can't stick to his punishment, well its you who cant stick to it. I did the same thing. I would ground my 9 yr old boy and then it would be easier on us to just give in and let him watch TV or go outside etc....but then I realize the damage I was doing to him and me...so I thought oh No...I need to be a strong Mom and let him see that. So even though it crushed me to keep saying NO to him I had to stick to his punishments. After about a month I really got the hang of it and he did too. So now he knows when Mommy speaks I mean business. Good Luck to you, You do really need to let him know you are BOSS!!!
2006-07-27 04:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by baseballmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand how he can't stick to his punishment? you need to make him as a parent stick to his punishment. because if you do not stay focused on him and his punishment that shows him he doesn't have to stay focused either. i have a 9 year old also. take the video games away and only let him have limited time a day. you will notice a difference.
2006-07-27 03:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by cathy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "he can't stick to his punishment"? It's up to you to enforce the punishment. If you say "No TV" then don't let him watch it. If you ground him, then you must see to it that he stays home. Take away something he likes like a Play Station. It sounds like you are being inconsistent.
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2006-07-27 03:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the material things that mean the most to him. No computer, ipod, video games, music, movies, phone, & make him do chores when he's being a bad boy. What ever you do don't follow that guys advice way up there about ingnoring him. My mom did that with my little brother. Now he's 16 and in prison.
2006-07-27 03:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't think it will work but you don't want to show fear to a 9 year old boy he will feed off of that and the older he gets the more he will not respect you. BEAT THAT ***, IF HE GRABS THE BELT. WRESTLE HIS *** DOWN AND BEAT IT SOME MORE. You have to take control. I love my mother to this day but when I was 13 thought I was bigger than moms.. Moms beat me down like I stole something. Draw the line now, or pay for it later in life
2006-07-27 04:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by ERIC W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't stick to his punishment??? There's your problem. Your rules are meaningless because you can't/don't enforce the consequences. Why should he listen to you? Create guidelines, boundaries, and consequences and enforce them. Period. Man, you need a book on parenting or a counselor to help you or this kid will be ruined.
2006-07-27 03:45:14 · answer #7 · answered by Margaret Thatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the first step you should first, you should take away his valuables whatever means the most to him any entertainment of any kind (cd's, ipods, mp3, pc, tv, games, etc...). After that step, kindly tell him the "problem" (no yelling, it'll only adgetate him). If he still refuse to listen ignore his demands of "what he needs or wants" basically a grounding. And if that doesn't work threaten boot camp for him.
2006-07-27 03:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14yr old the same way and I ground him from friends over and off the computer for 1 or 2 days cause kids really have no concept for time other than it kills them to grounded.
2006-07-27 03:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by tushpush1966 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
i am 14 I think I can help on thing is to not maen to were he want like you thats my mom! Just sit down with and talk with hi because IT WORKS alot better than a punnishment beleev me. If you can talk with him it seeps into him and a punnishment is just there anery with me or somthing and all it does is just to do it a gen because it doesnt have the same effect as a good 19-20 minute talk
let me no how it works out my E-Mail is swwg2193@yahoo.com my name is steven
2006-07-27 04:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋