What is the proper ettiquette, invite family or not invite family?
2006-07-27 03:32:22 · 16 answers · asked by tweety 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The correct etiquette would be to invite the family members. There is no reason to exclude them regardless if they are members or not and there is no reason that the church should object. Remember that the party is for your daughter NOT the church and your daughter should be able to invite anyone that she wants to....
2006-07-27 03:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tytania 4 · 16⤊ 4⤋
Close family can be invited, but probably not all aunts, cousins, second cousins, etc. The shower by/from the church is a way for the "church family" to offer her support and blessing to her at this time. If the extended family would like to have a shower for her, they should plan their own. Remember, the cost gets high, and depending on the size of the church and number of women attending, it could be a strain on the women giving the shower. At our church, we do bridal showers, not baby. The shower committee pays for everything out-of-pocket. Most churches are struggling financially now, and don't have much extra money budgeted for things like this, yet there is no proper way to ask for a donation. You can't charge admission...
Congratulations on the coming arrival of a grandchild!
2006-07-27 10:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Strange question... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not invite family who are not church members. If the church is giving the shower, it's often for their own members who wish your daughter well and usually they invite the mothers on both sides. There is nothing that says that you cannot hold a shower for your family on your own.
2006-07-27 10:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen that before. My sister in law had her church friend give her a baby shower and they did not invite her family, not even her mom, whom lives with her. Not to mention, when she got married at the church. I found out she was getting married because she asked me to help her find a wedding gown, so I took my mother in law to the ceremony with out her permission, heck I was not even invited, but I made it a point to crash the wedding. I think that not inviting the family is SO rude and shows no manners for them. they family should be invited and aske to at least help out on the preparations.
2006-07-27 10:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Justanothergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your pastor. I would think that you should be able to invite who ever you wanted. After all - there is a chance that someone might choose to become a member of the church! But just be sure it is ok.
2006-07-27 10:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the people hosting the shower if it is something just for church or if it's for the mother-to-be's friends and family too. If it's just for church that's fine but then make sure you have another shower for friends and family. Friends and family will want to share this exciting time too. Congratulations.
2006-07-27 10:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite whoever you want. It does not matter if they attend any church. The shower is for the baby and mother, and I've never known one that would not be appropriate at a church.
2006-07-27 10:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by justaskn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, the hostess of the party is free to invite or not invite whomever she wishes. However, I agree that it would be nice to invite the family. I'm sorry you feel left out.
2006-07-27 13:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite family in spite of it being organized by the church... I am sure they would appreciate that special event as much as the church-goers.
2006-07-27 10:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are we so pretending with our etiquette? Why can't we put religion aside, and love someone for once, even if they aren't members of our church or even go to church. Yes, invite them!
2006-07-27 10:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say invite the family and anyone she is especially close friends with, its about her not the church
2006-07-27 10:41:01 · answer #11 · answered by stodgypodgy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋