How can you Love/Like Yourself if you Don't?

Question

I've gotten alot of advice on this from previous ?'s, but feel the answers were general and not applying to me.

I get the point of needing to get life in order, but I didn't like myself even when it was in order. or when in better physical, financial, etc shape. So I know doing that won't get me to like myself, it'll merely remove more years from my life just to get me back here.

So, how does one like themselves. I respect what I spiritually, even if such a mix of multiple faiths makes me isolate from others. My problem is of the few interestts i've had (hiking, chatting, video games, and meditation, they're all solo activities). I can't seem to find one that involves contact with other persons. I have explored hundreds of ideas that involve others, but find it replusive.

I guess in the end I get tired of hearing the same advice which hasn't helped and which only removes more time from life. I don't wanta be 5-15 yrs older and still at same point. It's just a lost life

Answer 1

I understand what you mean. I guess that when you've lost all self esteem, and can't do anything but think negatively about yourself, there's only one thing that you can do. You have to start being successful again - that will increase your self esteem. Start with the small tasks - the really small tasks, like run on the spot for 1 minute. If you do this successfully, and im sure you will (trust me), your brain will register it as a success, and, as a result you'll feel better about yourself. The brain doesn't care how big the success is, as long as it is a success. Keep on doing the small things successfully, and eventually you'll become a success, and when you do, you'll like yourself way more than you do now. I promise.

Also, take in what "Sassy OLD Broad" has said, her words make alot of sense. Triple Peace out.

Answer 2

OK...you may have heard this one too, but the way to regain your own life is to give of yourself. You are so wrapped up in "YOU" that you have ignored the rest of the world. That's pitiful. Why not take some time and go do some volunteer work? Go read to blind veterans. They gave their service to your country and you would be doing them a great favor. Go serve food at a homeless shelter. Seeing others less fortunate than yourself with help you come out of this. You have to make an EFFORT...and stop whining about it. It's up to you, honey. You want a wasted life, that's what you will get. Life is what you put into it and it seems like you're just not willing to invest anything that doesn't center around yourself. Finding others "repulsive"...?? Come on...you need some therapy if you can't even exchange a few words with "others". Get up off of your selfish butt and go do something nice for someone!!!

Answer 3

No one on the internet is going to be able to answer your question. Mostly because we don't have all the information. What are the things that you do like about yourself? What are the things you don't?

Of the things you dislike, are they changeable? If not, how can you work towards accepting them as prt of you?

If they are changeable, are you changing them because you want to or because you feel that others don not accept that part of you?

If you want to change them, what action plan do you have to make the change?

See, there are too many questions for random strangers to be able to give you accurate advice, but I'll bet you already knew that.

I wish you the best of luck.