Ok I have a boyfriend and we have been going out for about 3years now. When I met him I was hanging out with my friend that everyone thinks is my sister because we look alike. My boyfriend said that he used to think that she was me sometime, which ppl do but he knew the diff because she was bigger than me. So about 4month in the relationship when I’m in love with him he's tells me that he had a crush on her I loved him too much to leave so I say with him. Anyways I don't feel right when they are around each other’s because she thinks he looks good well most girls do and she knew he used to like her. My question is, they are planning a trip to the beach and they ask me to come and I should bring him. I know it's been like 2 years but it don't mean that he might not still like her. If you were me would you go y or y not Please help me.
2006-07-27 03:10:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to go, then go. If you do choose to go, sit him down and talk about the situation. Ask him if he still likes her the slightest bit. I think if it has been 3years that he loves you a hell of a lot more than anything, and i don't think that he would allow her to come between you two. But sit and talk, cuz you will never know for sure unless you ask
2006-07-27 03:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would and the reasons are:
1. If he still likes her you should know from now before u get even deeper in this relationship.
2.If you find out he still likes her you know that you cannot stay with him and that u made a big mistake for accepting him back..
3.The best way to get over your fears is to stare them in the eye.. Go with him and the rest of your friends have fun and im sure hÃs eyes would only be on you.. He stayed with you for so long obviously because he loves you..Otherwise he would be with ur friend..
To see his reaction tell him about the beach and ask him if he's into it .. Then ask him in a cute funny way "babe u got over her didnt u?" and give him a big smile.. Its a diplomatic way to find out if he feels uncomfortable that she will be there or that he doesnt care ..
Go have fun and don't worry!
Best of luck !! =P
2006-07-27 10:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him for 3 years, not sure what the problem is. Honestly you shouldn't even be seeking advice from someone other your man. Communication babe, Talk to him and let him know how you feel, I don't believe any relationship is going to last without good communication. You should have put your feeling on table when you first started to have feelings for him and let him know how you felt about his crush and your friend. Talk too him, you all obviously love each other, it will work out.
2006-07-27 10:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dee Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you want to go then why not. You can not always live in fear that he is going to cheat on you with your friend. If you feel so strongly about this and it bothers you so much then tell him how your feeling. If your friend is flirting around with your boyfriend, then she isnt much of a friend is she? Personally, I dont like drama in my relationships and would probably dump the guy and the friend.
2006-07-27 10:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont trust your man or your friend, you have a bigger issue than weather or not to go to the beach. you need to look at your situation. Once you have feelings for someone you always do. And girls are girls. Friend or not - she'll dog your man. kick them both to the curb and find someone new!
2006-07-27 10:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go , im a guy and ill tell you first hand , most guys are ***** . I mean than in the way its said! Your just bf / gf , if he does still think she hot , hes probably waiting for the oppurtune time to get freaky wit her .
2006-07-27 10:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all who are they? her and her bf or what? I mean if you love him you should trust him. I mean bring him with if you honestly trust him. But if you bring him I guess explain to him that you are kinda werid about the whole him liking her her liking him thing. I'm positive he'll undrestand. LIke I said if you really love him you should trust him.
2006-07-27 10:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's a tough situation... But if I were you, I would still go for reasons that you already know. Be smart and be alert at all times. Follow your intuitions. Good luck.
2006-07-27 10:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jinky Winky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he is going then for sure you should go but if you want you probably could tell him he isnt going and just go by your self cause if you feal any dought than you should not let him...or at least not let them be alone for even a sec. cause they can start likeing eachother enough to go around your back from just one kiss and they could kiss in one sec.....just take him and watch him...you could even leave him thre alone with her and watch from a little away and see if he does it cause if he does it then you shouldnt even be with him he is a cheater and cant be trusted.....i hate cheaters soo f*&^& much...lolol
2006-07-27 10:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY ASK U TO THE BEACH???? THEY????
are you kidding? He belongs to you and THEY are the one ask u about a trip???
If i were you, i will kick his ***. Please don;t care too much about how good lookin he is( I hope you are not stayin with him coz of this).
I know that you said u love him. BUt, you don't wanna go deeper and deeper in to this feeling while you actually realize that you are not sure about this.
so, wat do i say?
talk to him. and see how he react.
don't wait until it's too late for you to call it off.
2006-07-27 10:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by kylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋