Interracial relationships, Pro's & Con's?

Question

Wanted to hear people's opinions and experiences. Do you have a lot in common and if not were you able to grow from the experience?

Answer 1

its all about what YOU make it mean... people are raised by beliefs of their family..and depending on how raised, it is viewed differently. You have to decide what it means to you..and go with that.. no one can tell you what is good or bad..cause I am sure there are both pro's and con's...by peoples experience, but that doesnt mean it is going to be that way for you. I dated someone of a different race, and had a child w/ him. I took heat, and lost friends over it..but then I knew that those friends werent really friends, but that is because they were taught differently. It doesnt mean they were wrong... it just didnt "fit" what they knew. As long as you are accepting of it... go for it...IT WILL ONLY MATTER TO PEOPLE WHO DONT MATTER TO YOU.

Answer 2

The pros would be that you get to learn about each others customs and belief since knowledge is power.Also color shouldn't be a factor as long as the two people like/respect one another.We as a society have to say that the color of ones skin doesn't reflect who they are as an individual.The cons might be that the families or friends might not approve or that particular area that they're from is biased about people sticking to their own kind so they are constantly stared at or mocked.You shouldn't enter a interracial relationship without thinking about the ramifications of it,but at the end of the day all that matters are the two people that are involved in the relationship to begin with.

Answer 3

I was born in the Philippines, but I've lived in the US since I was six months old. I have been a US Citizen since 2000. I grew up in the south a majority of my life. Guys always found me beautiful, but that didn't change the fact that I was of a different race. So once I graduated I moved to Ohio. I dated two guys, married the second. And both, and their familes & friends, gave a warm embrace. I loved it. I gradually grew out of the "complex" that I had been stuck in for so long. People rarely treated us differently. We were always welcomed, always adored. They'd always comment on how beautiful are children would be. But then of course, you'd get the looks from the deep south hillbillies or upper class yankees that just don't see that as right. It's taboo to them. It's more and more acceptable, but there are still those who do not agree. It's so great for you because you've found someone who looks past color or ethnicity and loves you... Yet lingering not tooo far back are those that are out to break you. It's tough, but if you are willing it will work out. My adopted parents are of different races: my dad is American born and raised in TN.. My mother is from the Philippines. They have three biological children.. They've done well. The only places we've had run ins, was in the south.

Answer 4

Pros and cons are very little different than any other relationship. If you are the type to be influenced by perceived opinions, then it may be a problem. It is very common now a days, and the biggest cons are mostly in the past.

The differences I had with my girlfriend had a lot more to do with her being a woman and me being a man than our races.

Answer 5

Pros: You have someone in your life for love and romance and sex and companionship.Those are BIGGIES!!

Cons: You have to deal with what other people might think. This matters more depending on where you live. I've dated several black women and we walk hand in hand and no big deal because I live in Los Angeles. But I can think of places where if I were to walk down the street holding hands with a black women, I would get some dirty looks and worse. But the real problem is your relationship with your partner's family/friends. How are you going to get his/her mother and father to accept you and what if they never do?

Answer 6

The only con is that other peoples ignorance may offend you sometimes, but just as long as you over look those people you will be fine. The pros would depend on your preferences, the person who you date and their personality. Plus biracial children usually get the best of both sides, (looks>> hair, skin tone, eyes, etc...)

Answer 7

pro's you get on enough to go out, you'll enjoy each others company. you may learn a diffrent way of life, if you different. kids with a nice complexion. lol. duinno about that personally. culture diffs?
cons-there are still a lot of stupid people out there who cant see interacial couples as 4 real. culture diffs may become a problem, if its superficial, it will most definately show, other person may c u as aprize of some sort.

Answer 8

I am in an inter-racial relationship right now (I am married, my wife is of mexican background and I am white). We have some things in common, and some that make us different. We're in love and happy. I think that we've both grown from the experience, although I don't think in my day-to-day life about the relationship being "inter-racial" per se.

Answer 9

Pros: You get to see how a different culture lives . You get to see people as people in genearl. Your life is opened up to new experiences.

Cons: Raciest haters, Cultural values colliding, Raciest Haters,

Answer 10

The only thing bad is your children will have to face consequences whether you like it or not in this day. My friend has two teenagers who had major problems fitting in at school, one became so depressed that when he went to college the college had to send him back home after someone found his diary.