Girls help me out on this one?

Question

say that someone has been talking to a girl for several months and they have talked about going out and things. they talk about everything and i do mean everything. one day its her birthday and you get her a gift, birthday card, and a pink rose. he tells her that he is going to be able to make it to her party. then she says, "Well, I don't know if you would want to go or not. There are going to be mainly guys there and only a few girls". She also says to the guy that she will be dancing with a bunch of the guys and probably won't be able to see him much and that he probably won't know anyone there. The guy says to her, "Well you can do w/e you want to it's your party, it won't bother me if you dance with the guys, and I don't care if I won't know anyone there; I'm going for your for you and your birthday party, not for them". Then the girl says to the guy, "Well, I'm just saying you probably won't have any fun, because you wont know anyone there and if I was in your situation, I wouldn't be having much fun". So I know this was a long story but what do you think? Is the girl trying to hint around that she doesn't want the guy going? If so why do you think that is so? Any answers will be helpful.

Answer 1

she doesnt dig the guy. next!

Answer 2

it sounds like this girl wants the guy to stay away. it's her birthday and she seems to know that she wants to dance with whomever she wants without having someone throw jealous glances from across the room. not to say that you would do such a thing; but she wants to cut down on the drama. be honest with yourself, how would you feel if you went and she was so caught up with enjoying herself that she really didn't talk to you, dance with you or introduce you to her friends. doesn't sound like too much fun, especially since she is the only one that you know. my advice is to stay home and not worry at all about her birthday party. if you really want to spend some special time with her, take her to breakfast the next day. or, just do something that two of you can share without the fuss of a lot of people. good luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like it but, I would go anyway and take a g/ or bud~ friend with you ~ what do ya have to loose. Even if this girl won't have a chance to dance with you, have fun and mingle and dance w/ the friend your with.

She sounds dysfunctional, each person plays one role, and any attempt to behave differently is met by indignation or even aggression.
Functional relationships skills begin with the realization that intimacy is rarely built upon stiff rules, that most things can't be reduced to black or white.
Of course, even a minor deviation can turn friends to foe, so keep the party going!

HAVE FUN

Answer 4

Either she is really not wanting the guy to go because he won't have fun or she is trying to say that there might be someone else there that she is interested in and does not want to hurt that guy. I wouldn't go because it really seems that she does not want that guy there and she might be hinting that it is not going to work out between them. I suggest for him to talk to her after her party and find out what it really was about.

Answer 5

She doesn't want the guy there. There may be a couple of reasons why. She might already have a boyfriend and this ' relationship ' is on the side. Or, she might think that this guy is getting too serious and she doesn't want to meet up with him. Or, she is really shy and just doesn't want to be seen by him. Or, even, there might not even be a party, it was all made up to impress on how popular she is. Do what you want. You aren't beholden to do what she wants. Then again, were you invited to this party ?

Answer 6

I think shes trying to get a rise out of you. Go to her party anyway, it could be that maybe she was making it up about dancing with other guys and all that other stuff to see how you would react. All you men out there think women are confusing, heres the secert other women think the same thing.

Answer 7

She doesnt want the guy there cause another guy is gonna be there so if I was a guy or even if this was happening to me and a gut didnt want me to come to his party I would go just cause they didnt want me there cause its not right that she is saying one thing and then switching up since there will be people around

Answer 8

Well obviously she knows how this guy feels about here but either A doesnt feel the same so she doesnot want him to get upset seeing her with other guys B doesnt feel the same and does not want to be around the man or

C FEELS THE SAME BUT DOES NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP (I DONT THINK ITS THIS ONE)

so the guy needs to take the hint and move on.

Answer 9

Duh, how dense are you she isn't hinting; she is telling you not to come to the party. This is not a one man girl. she likes lots of guys attention and would not make a good wife. Move on for a girl friend, It won't hurt to talk to her, but there will only be pain for you if you get in an intimate relationship. This type never changes, They will always wan this attention her whole life.

Answer 10

She doesn't want you to come. But probably because she is her true self with you when you talk and if you were there you'd see this entire other side to her and you might not like her. Around her friends and other guys she's probably someone completely different. And because she cares about you she doesn't want you to see this side of her. But she also doesn't want to change this other side of her because its fun.

Answer 11

Yes I think she is definitely trying to say she does not want you to come. You should not go to the party. She is being a bi*tch talking to you like that! You should just leave her alone! What she said to you was very mean. I would never say that to someone even if I really did not want them to come to my party. You do not need to be treated this way! Just leave her alone; she is not worth your time!