if your son lives with hismother and u want 2 go 2 america for 2 years are u considered a bad father
2006-07-27 02:08:19 · 16 answers · asked by the dog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not if you go and visit your son and call him and that... a bad dad is someone who is not around at all and doesnt give his child a chance to get to no him.. I would say if you want to go to America go but make sure you go and see your son and call him
2006-07-27 02:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making a tough choice. Children can change a lot in two years and you miss risking some of the best bits. If your heart is really set on America which is o.k because you still need to be able to have your own goals as a person, perhaps you could arrange interim visits in order to stay in touch with your son say every few months. You don't say how old your son is but for really young children web cam and Internet phone are a good way of staying in touch. For older children who can use a p.c/type e.t.c can use mail and messenger. The important think is to maintain as much contact as you can. Your son will still feel you love and care about him if you keep this up. Don't worry about being a bad Dad after all people work on oil riggs and away from home on contracts e.t.c and although this obviously makes contact difficult, plenty of families are able to survive it. Wish you all the best.
2006-07-27 09:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by fizzycrystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son, that's the important thing. If he is little, then yes, you would be a bad dad if you just cleared off and left him. Do you think his mother could do this? No of course not. And don't listen to all the rubbish people will say about it being your life, do what you have to do etc... if you leave a little boy who is your flesh and blood, you don't deserve to have him in the first place. If he is an adult, on the other hand, yes, go and enjoy yourself.
2006-07-27 10:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by lunarsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because if they dont see you any more, and live with there mother doesnt mean that you cant have your own life , they snatched your life by taking your sons to live with there mother, you could always ask your sons to go with you but if its a no , enjoy your life that you have every right to, but not longer than 2 years because still there need there dad.
2006-07-27 09:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sons need their fathers. You need to stay. Go to America after he turns 18.
2006-07-27 14:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. Are you going to america for a job? Explain to your son why you are going. You can easy keep contact through phone, letter and email. When you settle out there perhaps you could invite him over for a holiday. I'm sure he would love it, I know I would.
2006-07-27 09:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Captain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband goes away for work all the time and our son is 6 months old, but i understand for us to have the lifestyle we do that he has to work like this, because hes funding our lives,
i love him for this even more and will make sure our son is fully aware when hes old enough to know why his daddy is not here very often.
good luck
2006-07-27 09:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmn.... no... not really as long as you still get some good quality time with your son on holidays... and you can afford to get over to see him....
Don't miss out on your son growing up though... you will regret it in the long term
2006-07-27 12:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Saccharin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends are you going to be coming back to visit him, and keep in contact when your out there?
If not then yeah you would be a bad dad.
But im sure your not!
2006-07-27 09:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by MoJoJoJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would your kid say about this, you would mess his head up especially if his mom meets another man and the kid starts to think of him as his dad and then you suddenly turn up again out of the blue to mess his head up again, if you ask me you should consider the child's feelings first, but it doesn't make you a bad dad, just a selfish one.
2006-07-27 09:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋