I just feel so sad and feel like crying!
I have a baby of 7 months i am stil in a relationship with his father but i just feel my life is at a standstill. my bf has his fbal every wekd and meets up with his friends he meeting them this wekd i feels alone. and i dont know what to do. im just pissed off
2006-07-27 01:55:17 · 22 answers · asked by comeo!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find friends for yrself and show him that u r haappy even without him. we are like this. sorry
2006-07-27 01:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sad because he is going out every weekend? I think you feel that way because you are always home with the baby and you feel neglected and alone when he goes out. You need to take a break. Your boyfriend is taking a break every weekend but you are not taking any breaks. Leave the baby with your mom or a babysitter and go take a "personal" day. Get your hair done, or your nails done, go to the movies, just do something you like. You need to do this at least once a month so you can recharge your batteries. A happy, rested mom is a good mom. Becoming a mom does not equal neglecting yourself!
2006-07-27 02:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is being very selfish. He's a father now and should be spending quality time with you and the baby. I'm sure it's tough being alone all the time and caring for a little one. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, hopefully he will listen. You need to get a good support system going, because it doesn't sound like you have one. Friends can really be a life saver and if you have a few, start visiting with them more. I understand your frustration and you have a right to feel this way. If it doesn't get any better see your doctor, because you might be experiencing depression since having your baby.
2006-07-27 02:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by mangosmoothie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing, you are bound to feel lonely and isolated with a small baby but listen it will get better i promise. I think you need to have a talk with your B/F though and tell him its really unfair that he deserts you every weekend, my husband plays rugby every weekend but he agrees to keep Sundays free for me. Do you have family and friends close by? Could they babysit for you a couple of evenings so you can get out a bit? Being stuck at home with a young child can be frustrating. How about mother and baby so you can meet other new mums? Invite friends over to you if you cant get sitters, people are always willing to help out when you are a new mum so dont be afraid or to proud to take any help offered. Are you sure your not suffering from post natal depression? If you think you might be then see your doctor there are lots of things they can do to help, i hope you feel better soon xxx
2006-07-27 02:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel better yet?Now get down off the soap box cause the baby's crying,it's feeding time,you knew having a baby is a 24\7 job.There's going to be more of the same ahead for a long while.Ya need to get poppa into taking care of his baby too.You should get a break sometimes just like him.Good luck.
2006-07-27 02:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a 7 month old baby doesn't mean your life is over. You can still go out and do stuff.. go to the mall, go for a coffee.. make some friends of your own and do stuff with them. There is no reason to sit around the house moping over things you can change.
2006-07-27 02:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have a sort of a post partum depression. Having a child is a big change in your life and a big responsibility. You have other priorities now and many previous activities are now unaccesible to you, while for you bf little has changed. If he is there for you, then it's ok. Initiate activities for you to do together, just the 2 of you. This period will end eventually. Just pull yourself together, think about that beautiful child that you have and don't fall into the trap of self pitty and simpathy. Good luck!
2006-07-27 02:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Yoshi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its postnatal depression? if so ask your midwife or doctor for some help
i felt like his at times and if im honest i still do occassionally now, arrange some time for YOU!!!
blokes dont seem to realise how stressful it is looking after a kid, arrange for either your bloke or a family member or friend to have your kid for a few hours, go and get pampered or arrange to go out with your mates...
or find a mother and baby meeting and make new friends for you and your child....
i understand its tough hun but try to stay positiveand remember
just because you are a mummy it doesnt mean thats all you have to be!
2006-07-27 05:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your bf about it, join a group of mothers in your area, that way you can socialise with others in the same position as you are. And go to see your GP, it never a bad idea to check just in case, you might have post natal depression.
Good luck.
2006-07-27 02:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, you should reign your boyfriend in a bit, tell him that you and him are going to spend a weekend together, and let the father look after the baby!, hope you feel a bit better
2006-07-27 02:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by shadowrunneruk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont sit at home,go out,go shopping,take your little one to the park,or go see a movie,if you need a break get a sitter and ask your husband if you can hang with him,if not go out with your girlfriends,do anything,just get out of the house for awhile,Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-27 01:59:37 · answer #11 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋