I have been married before and changed my name legally by deed poll before I divorced, I have been using my new chosen name for 6 years and am now divorced. I feel the child should take my surname as the baby's father already has 2 boys who have taken his name, so the family name will continue. I would like my son to take my surname. What do you think?
2006-07-27 01:31:34 · 19 answers · asked by Debbie C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Let your baby have you're name! You aren't married and you are the one giving birth! Congratulations by the way!
2006-07-27 01:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by traci00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having the same problem. I don't know if i should give my child his last name. My sister had a baby boy two years ago and the father has been there on and off but now the are done for good and my sister gave her child his last name know she has to fight for her child so he does not get him. the father is a bad father. So it is you choose not his.
2006-07-27 01:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by cheridever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you don't want your son to resent you later on for not giving him his fathers name. Besides this will help him feel part of his own fathers family, if you give him a different name he will feel like the odd man out. It has nothing to do with who will carry on the family name. Why are you living with this man if your not going to get married, and why didn't you use birth control if he already has two other kids and your not married? He sounds like a real winner to me, argh!
2006-07-27 01:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by waddabunchabologna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you and the father have to decide together. Either way will work. I chose to give my girls their dads last name. We then got married then divorced. Go figure lol
2006-07-27 01:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a great idea. I havent changed my name but im considering also for the baby to have my name in case anything ever happened. im not married either so.
2006-07-27 03:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by sapphiredreams_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this choice is up to you and the father of the child, you should discuss this with him in todays day and time there is nothing wrong with a child having the unmarried mothers name. Good Luck!
2006-07-27 01:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by shellkate1244 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with the father of my baby and she has both of our last names.
2006-07-27 01:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Hooney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is something that you and your partner need to discuss if my husband and i have another boy we are considering giving him my maiden name so that my family name will go on. we are married and have a little girl that was born before we were married and has his last name the boy we just lost has my husbands last name but we have disscussed having out boy have my maiden name for his we have also disscussed changing our last name to my maiden name instead of keeping his. explain your feelings to your bf and he might just agree to let the baby have your last name.
2006-07-27 01:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk about it with the father. My sister didn't marry the father of her oldest daughter what they decided to do was hyphenate the names so both were a part of it. good luck
2006-07-27 02:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think how the child will fell when he'll grow : are you sure that it wouldn't be better for him to have his father's name? How will other children/ people treat him? Will he fell awkward to have your name and not his father's?
2006-07-27 01:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by aither_24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋