Okay, I'm not sure what to do but I really really love my boyfriend. We've been living together for the past year and I'd be more than happy to marry him. He's told me he has "plans" for me too, when we've talked about marriage..But we've only talked about it in short, brief, sort of teasing conversations. Nothing overly serious. Nothing saying that Yes, I do want to marry you one of these days, or sometime soon. Should I just randomly burst to him "Hey, I really would love to marry you" or...something like that? Or should I just be patient, wait, and pray it happens. It's really stressing me out. Help!
2006-07-27 01:27:45 · 21 answers · asked by picturegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no do not do that and he will always use this to **** u off in future.
2006-07-27 01:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys need time to fully wrap their brains around the concept of marriage with all of its implied conditions like loyalty, honesty, and responsibility. He may just be giving the notion some serious consideration. If you ask him, and I'm not necessarily against that, but if you ask him and he answers in any other way except "yes", what will you do? Are you ready to take the chance on being turned down? Clearly you love him, but think about how your entire relationship could change if he doesn't say "yes". You didn't indicate your age or his, so I'm assuming your both fairly young, nor did you indicate if he's still in school, employed, in jail, whatever. My personal advice is to give it more time and wait. He may be trying to figure out the best time to ask you.
2006-07-27 01:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you decide that this is what you want, I sincerely hope that you won't listen to anyone who says that your boyfriend isn't into you or that you should never ask a man to marry you!
Second, you should decide what you really want out of this. Do you really want to ask him to marry you, do you want to drop a huge hint that you're ready for marriage, or do you want to have a real talk with him about marriage.
If you just want to have a talk with him - I know it sounds silly but the easiest thing to do is just to say to him "I want to have a serious talk about marriage and our relationship." Tell him how you feel - that you want to marry him and that you just love him that much. Tell him you just want reassurance that he loves you as much and doesn't see you as a fling or anything of the sort.
If you want him to know for sure that you're ready for marriage now, just saying that you would love to marry him is a good start. You could also mention things to him about wanting to spend your life together, etc.
If you want to propose to him - I would say something a little more official that just "Hey...I would really love to marry you." Make it a real proposal and ask the question of would he marry you. The only thing you may want to consider on this front is that he said he has "plans" for you. "Plans"?? Does that mean HE is planning something? I'll tell you, my husband planned out my proposal and saved up for the ring for about 6 months. I know that sounds crazy but it was his thing, and in the end it couldn't have been more perfect.
Personally my advice would be that before you try either of the other two, try having a serious talk with him. It will be easier after that to guage where he is coming from and what he really wants. Good luck!!
2006-07-27 02:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me- I had a heart to heart with him. We sat down and had a long discussion about what we wanted out of life and where we saw ourself 5 years from now... 10 years from now. If he is a mature adult (which he should be if you want to marry him) there is nothing wrong about discussing marriage. I started off mine as hey honey, we need to talk about our lives and were you see us in the future. If he can't answer you, then he's just not ready and it might be time for you to move on. Lots of couples joke and hint about marriage- this has happened to me in past relationships. But if you are really ready then you need to sit down and have a talk with him. "hinting" suggestions ect... won't get you anywhere, they might actually make the situation more comfusion. Approach it like an adult.
Good Luck!!
2006-07-27 01:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends mom was going out with this guy for 5 years. She asked to marry HIM in front of 7-11! HA! shes an awesome lady. but about 2 years ago he fell off a ladder and past away.
2016-03-16 06:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to be married so bad for?
You don't believe he loves you unless you are married?
What does being married give you that you don't have now?
If it's the ring, then just ask for jewelry. It's far easier than getting married.
2006-07-27 01:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by _Kraygh_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember all good things are worth waiting for! Yes, Have patience, he may be planning to ask you under better conditions, or even surprise you big times. Wait it out. I would, but I guess everyone is their own person, what ever you feel is right at the moment. Just don't scare him away. Just don't push it, sometimes it pushes them away.. Good Luck to ya!! :D
2006-07-27 01:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you have expressed how you feel to thousands of people on line, surely you can let him know how you feel. Just be honest with him.You both live together right, well why don't you make him a candle lit dinner and propose over a glass of champagne, Make it romantic. Good luck to you both
2006-07-27 01:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can never get him to have an in depth conversation about getting married then i would say he is not all that into you .he is using you til he finds the right girl for him .move on .when you are gone he will either come back and be in the mood to talk about marriage or he's out for good
2006-07-27 01:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is indeed stressful. If I were you, I would take my borfriend into a romantic walk along the seashore and take a look at the stars. When I have already set the romantic mood, I will be telling him how happy life could be if we would finally decide to settle down. It is kinda subtle but it is surely directed towards his heart.
2006-07-27 01:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by febri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be wayyyyyy more subtle...rent movies about marriage and what not but I personally believe that since guys are so squimish about commitment and marriage it makes it that much more special when it's the guy that ask the big question. Good luck!
2006-07-27 01:32:02 · answer #11 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋