We have a guy at work who is always very quiet and if we offer eachother some chocolates, fruits, ice cream, he always says no. He now also complained about too much talking in the office and that one person is crude (which is not true_.
Is there a sect that he might be a member of?
2006-07-27 01:04:30 · 30 answers · asked by Wednesday 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He is obviously a member of that secretive sect that are referred to as "Nerds". "Nerds" tend not to interact with normal people, however, they usually wear identifying items (such as pocket protectors, etc.), so that they can spot other members.
Some of the more modern "Nerds" don't wear such items and are fairly progressive, however, they are distinguishable by the fact that they won't participate in conversations about sports, women or television. However, if words like "CPU", "terabyte" or "redundant drive arrays" are used in a conversation, they immediately become quite animated and join in.
I wouldn't worry too much about them, just smile and say "Linux" once in a while to them to let them know that you are on friendly terms.
2006-07-27 01:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um, it seems to be like this guy is either quiet and intorverted or that he is afraid he will get in trouble at work for eatching ice cream and talking too much. My guess is he is just trying to be the best worker he can be. I am pretty sure he is not in a sect; most likely he just had a bad week or something. Maybe ask him if he would like to join yall during lunch break or something. He may be a little more relaxed then.
2006-07-27 08:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Chris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy you're talking about me - it's not me, is it? Ha, ha!! : )
bobcat (another anwserer) is right - it's a woman thing (they're so clever - you've got to love them!!). You should ask him - just say something like: 'Let us know, if we are bothering you won't you?' He'll probably just say there isn't, but at least you've showed that you have tried, and have considered it to be 'bugging' him. But I don't think you should all change just to suit him though. The problem is with him, he's being a bit of a square. He needs to learn how to muck in a bit - it's good for team morale. By offering him something and him not accepting it, just shows he's refusing to be a part of it all and is in a way a little rude on his part. I personally wouldn't worry about him complaining though - he's likely to be the only doing so, so it'd be clear to me as a director that may be he has a problem fitting in, and may not be suited attiude-wise to working in the office. Don't get me wrong though, I take my work seriously but what is going on around you is good!! It's positive energy and he does need to learn that. But all you can do is leave him be - it's his chose. A shame really!!
Hey, look a my little fat hand in the picture - funny isn'it? Ha, ha!! : ) Have a good day, and carry on!!
2006-07-27 08:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Yinhung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DILB is right avoid sects in the workplace!
Well each to his own, you are doing the right thing to try and include him, he may just be very shy, or concerned he can't return the gift giving, or perhaps he is diabetic and can't eat sweet things, but doesn't want his illness made public.
Crudeness is a matter of culture, I don't swear, but frequently do say dam, or oh god, which I wasn't away was particularly offensive, but when I was visiting Montana, it was pointed out that they find this offensive due to strong Christian values, so I try to avoid these terms when I am there.
Sounds like a nice office to work in if you are all buying goodies for each other, wish I worked with you, but one of the downsides to working from home is a lack of company from co-workers.
What are you offerring around today?
2006-07-27 08:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just quiet and believes that when you are at work you are supposed to be working! He could resent the fact that he IS working while everyone else is talking and eating. He probobly doesnt want to participate in inappropriate behavior in the workplace. Some people see work as a social situation an its not, you are being paid to do a job not eat and visit.
2006-07-27 08:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe he's got some issues or stuff he's dealing with. from what i see, you have two choices..either leave him alone, or better yet, be a proactive person and gently become his friend (that's if you are willing) he's probably just a quiet kinda guy, harmless and timid.. probably just needs someone to initiate conversation about general stuff..to make him feel safe about talkin with u :)
good luck :)
oh, and if others at work make fun of him, i beg you don't join in..if ur embarrassed to tell them anything, at the very least don't join them, i mean don't laugh and show ur ok with this.
2006-07-27 08:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Wildfire7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is quiet and a bit of a killjoy doesn't mean he is in a sect! He is just a bit anti-social. Best leave him alone.
2006-07-27 08:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plymouth Brethren?
2006-07-27 08:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by d.perrot@btinternet.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like the full story, and you sound very paranoid. However everyone is entitled to behave how they wish, he obviously got the job for a reason, you are all there just to work. Maybe he just dont like you.
2006-07-27 08:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Triis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have one of these too. Here wear ear plugs in to keep the noise out, he is very religious 55 single man who lives at home with his mum.
2006-07-27 08:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by halloweenpumpkinuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋