A guy, whos known for being a bit of a player says when you first start dating....
l'm not after sex, thats not why l'm with you......
What's his game?
2006-07-27 00:45:28 · 30 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please tell me that you are functionally disabled and really don't understand that this guy is out to get in your pants. Especially since you know his reputation.
2006-07-27 00:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, yes and thrice yes. We are really that bad, ALL of us. You know those guys saying "Yes...some of them" or "Yes....but not all of them", guess what? They too are trying to play the game n tell you what you want to hear to get into your pants (even tho we realise meeting anyone on here is a million-to-one chance).
Why am I being so honest with you? In the hope that my honesty makes you feel comfortable and impresses you and all other women on here and I may benefit in them being attracted to me more. It's a human instinct and has been done since the beggining of time.
Having said that the guy may actually genuinely like you, but you're going to trust your own instinct on that. The only real test is to get him to make a bit of a sacrifice for you.
2006-07-27 01:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by AFD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam... if you know he's a bit of player... then you know him saying that he's not after sex means the exact opposite...
Grow up a little dear... wisdom will come with age and experience of which you don't have either at the moment...
I don't mean to be cruel honey, really I don't, but get on with your life and go out and have fun!
2006-07-27 00:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey - thats the best known line in the book!
Call his bluff by saying - oh just as well coz I never sleep with a guy until we've been dating for 5 months.
Chances are he'll be out of there withing 5 seconds!
If he stays, well, maybe he actually really likes you and is prepared to change his ways!!!
Good luck!
2006-07-27 01:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His game is SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!1 if he a bit of a player, does that not answer your question. Stay well clear and find a nice, trustworthy sort of guy that will treat a lady the way she should be treated. He is out there just looking for his perfect woman
2006-07-27 06:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by mr_scotsguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means that as a diversion, and that is really low. He says that as a way of getting you to drop your guard, as it were, and put any thoughts you have of him wanting to bed you to rest. He wants you to 'feel' comfortable and then he'll move in for the kill - telling you what some girls want to hear. Especially girls, like yourself, who may know of his reputation. That's is an underhand trick!! You deserve better than that.
I would never do that to you. Look at my little hand in my picture - funny isn't it? Ha, ha!! : ) You have a good day, and be careful of guys like that - they only have one thing on their mind, and it's not always in the best of intentions, nor is it in the interest of girl or her feelings. Take care!! ; )
2006-07-27 01:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Yinhung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing he still wants sex with you but wants to smooth talk you and feed you the lines. When hes ready he will strike but for the moment he wants get to know you, maybe he does really like you and is treating you with more respect than the other girls he has been with. Maybe he uses these lines with all the girls.
2006-07-27 01:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by welsh_darkhorse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a simple case of accurately translating the things he says, like translating things from one language to another.
Frinstance -
"I am not after sex." - I am after sex.
"I am interested in you as a person." - I am after sex.
"Free for lunch/dinner/coffee/a drink/a movie?" - I am after sex.
"Hello." - I am after sex.
"I know this great little place ... " - I am after sex.
"Sorry, look, I'm a bit busy tonight ... why don't I call you when things quieten down a little?" - We have had sex and you no longer interest me.
2006-07-27 01:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's after sex! He's lulling you into a false sense of security, possibly to remedy his poor reputation. There again, you could be the one for him! Good luck and have fun finding out!
2006-07-27 00:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a line, I would tell him to get lost. I always believed that if anyone comes out with a comment like that they mean the reverse. Good luck
2006-07-27 00:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by halloweenpumpkinuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will say anything and I mean ANYTHING to get into your pants. A guy told me this once!
He is saying this to you because he is pandering to your ego. In other words, he wants you to think that you are soooooo special that with you, he'll be different.
He won't be. Don't come crying to us if you let him screw you over.
If you must sleep with him, use a condom if he's such a ****.
2006-07-27 01:03:48 · answer #11 · answered by whatdoineedtodo2getanavailableid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋