Im 13, almost a C cup. Mom is nice understanding but strict on my breasts and bras. She decided to chose my bras cause shes experienced. Got me good bras but with full coverage thick tissue and 4 hooks in the back I hate them cause make me sweat in the heat and are uncomfortable But its her decision, shes kinda nice but I have no say on this. She says its for my best and thats how its gonna be. Tried everything to talk her out but she doesnt even want to talk any more, just say its decided period. I tried a small rebellion dont like this Im a good girl got a light punishment to learn I cant rebel. Dad told me to listen to her and she says its out of love. She wont back off, Am I stuck to them? Is there any way out or do I just have to wear my bras? How do I live with them? One of the bras I gotta wear is at
http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,0,0,39236__products-detail.htm?brand=147&ovs_ber_wgr=104&ovs_ber_fgr=1478&ovs_ber_cup=C u agree its not the kind of bra a 13 girl enjoys
2006-07-27 00:45:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dear Amanda. I also had big breasts when I was growing up, but in my case my mom didn't make me wear what I needed to. Now, I wish I had worn those types of bras your mom is making you wear. My breasts are not too bad, but gravity has done its work, and I'm still young (so it's not like I'm a grandma, not even a mom). My breasts are not all the way down to my knees (lol), but I would like them to be a little bit higher and firmer, and not wearing bras (or the right bras) made them "fall" a little, and they don't look as nice as I wished anymore. Wearing something with a lot of support when having big breasts is REALLY, REALLY IMPORTANT. You need some bra that holds them in place, believe me, if you don't want to end up with your breasts near your waist line.
What you need is an underwire bra (see link below), and there are several of those, some that have more support than others. The one your mom got you probably qualifies the best, but I agree that it doesn't look that sexy (although, sweetheart, at your age, nobody has any business in looking at your bra). But still, why don't you try showing her this model, it also provides support (not as much as the one she got you), and looks a little bit better: "Le Mystere 'Dream Tisha' Underwire T-Shirt Bra"
Good luck, and if things don't change, don't get sad or angry. She's really doing this because she loves you and knows what can happen to your body if you don't take appropriate care of it. And sometimes, the best way of taking care of your body is not neccesarily the sexiest...
2006-07-27 01:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Amanda, that bra is a bit too much. I have a 14 year old daughter. She is very full busted. She used to choose demi cups and skimpy bras. I have also stepped in and said that she had to wear full coverage. It really is not good for big breasts not to be fully supported. They will sag sooner, plus you cannot move without the bouncing, and it just does not look nice when you show flesh and cleavage and breasts that feel like they're naked under your clothes. And finally, it will affect your posture, if your breasts are not supported. So try and understand your mother's concern. On the other hand, it should not be as extreme as the bra she picked for you. Maidenform, and Wacoal (which is expensive), make very nice full coverage bras, with wider straps, but not as bulky as the one you show. Try and speak with her again. Tell her that you do realize that she is looking out for you, but that they are so bulky and hot, and that there are some middle of the road options. If you feel that she really does not want to discuss this with you, see if you can have your father support you on this, or maybe an aunt (your mom's sister) or a grandmother, your mom's mother rather than your dad's, unless your mom does not get along with her mom. See if any of your girlfriends who are big and are allowed to wear lighter bras can have their moms talkl to her. Good luck!
2006-07-27 01:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Hun! I do understand that you don't like the look of these Bra's but sometimes you do have to accept that there are good intentions. It is true that wearing the best as you develop will make things easier and your boobs in a better "place" lol later on. I know some of what it is though, your mum will be finding it hard to deal with the fact that you truly are maturing a lot faster that she had anticipated and a lot of people see "fancy" bras as sexual for others rather than just pretty and nice to wear. I don't know if she gives you a clothing allowance, but I would suggest being VERY calm and asking her if it OK if (with her approval) you get your own underwear as now you feel embarrassed having her get such personal items for you. the key is to act mature, listen to her reasoning and remember that while you are growing quickly you are still your mums baby girl and she might be finding it hard to deal with seeing her baby grow into a lovely sensible, mature young woman. Hope that helps! XXDianaXX Who is a mummy who developed just like you did but who has daughters too now lol
2016-03-27 01:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh crap.... i c what u mean! grandma bra!!!! um ok... so have u mentioned that they make u sweat?? is she doing this because she thinks you would buy a skimpy, sexy bra and then get if off with the boys????
well im from new zealand, here we have a shop where they can do professional fittings. How about you suggest to your mom that you both go out togther (have a girlie day) and have a shop assistant help you out and give advice.... that may convince your mom to steer toward a more modern kind of look and feel....
good luck
2006-07-27 00:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by simo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it seems like a total pain in the *** now but these are really good supportive bras and will mean when you're older you'll be able to wear much prettier bras as your boobs won't have sagged. (I'm a woman using my husband's account by the way, not a pervy Brit guy!)
Your Mum is absolutely right about them and you will get used to wearing them after a while. Maybe she could let you have one prettier bra for wearing once in a while as a compromise?
2006-07-27 00:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bapboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If mom wont listen try pleading your case with another family member,like maybe aunt,grandma,anyone,tell your mom once again that this is totally embarrasing for you to wear this to school.I am strict on my 14 yr old and do choose most of her clothing,but she does get to choose her own bras and panties.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-27 01:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mom.. I know you don't want to hear this.. It will keep the peace... when you are old enough then you can wear what you like... When you go shopping just ask her once if you can pick what you like.. if she says no then that's ok.. She may reward you for good behavior... One day you will be a mom and you would do what you think is best for your kids and they will disagree!
2006-07-27 01:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by cinsaint1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really love you they can't force themselves onto you you choose for your life but i think you have to wear them for now when you get older you talk to your mum and tell her how you feel about bras and you decide but for now i think you should wear them or else you might get punished again
2006-07-27 00:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Roonal.18™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your breast high. Or one day you will get them bellow your knees. Listen to mum she might be right. If you're in tendency of getting fat, then you need to keep them firm on your chest. You know there are muscles above your breast that keep them high. One day, they will slack down. That's the end of your beautiful breast. Try to talk to mum explaining the reason technically. From what I saw, you can go on topless with that. What does mum think. Tell her to get something different, that can get your breast firm to your chest. She might listen
2006-07-27 00:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by good-for-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear the bras. it's definitely worth it in the long run, as a good supporting bra will give your breasts amazing shape.
2006-07-27 00:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋