hi could someone please help me i split up with my ex 4 mou ago and got a new girlfriend am know living with her but i dont love her like my ex my ex is still on my mind 24/7 i really really dont want to live here i dont want to hurt or upset my gf coz of the way she feels for me am in a really big mess i just want to pack my things and go when my gf is in work but i cant be a looser and do that to her so can some one please please help me thanx
2006-07-27 00:22:37 · 13 answers · asked by red-dragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should have been honest to yourself before moving with somebody so soon! By doing so you are betraying yourself and your new GF. Before messing around any longer, tell your new GF that you are felling confused about your relationship, need time by yourself and, therefore you are moving out immediately. Tell her to give you a week and not to call you, because you'll do. Then reflect seriously about what you do want and if there is a place in your life for your new GF. If after this week of reflection you don't miss her, you don't need her and you don't love her, just make an appointment and tell her that you don't feel in love anymore. Be a man and tell her face to face, no matter what. Remember, you put you both in this mess, so you have to deal with it. Good luck.
2006-07-27 00:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone got a new girlfriend on the rebound and knows it! Which is why you ar so reluctant to leave! Ultimately though if you dont love her the way she deserves, you need to be cruel to be kind in the longrun.
I think you need to sit your current girlfriend down and explain to her that you made a mistake in rushing into another relationship so fast, and whilst you value her friendship, you feel that its not fair on either of ye to remain in the relationship.
Be prepared for lots of tears and begging to reconsider the situation - but be strong and tell her you need to move on.
Dont do it whilst shes at work though - thats really scraping the bottom of the barrell
As for you ex - if you feel this strongly, maybe you should give her a call.
And take this as a lesson - dont break up with a girl and be moved in with someone else in the space of 4 months!!!
2006-07-27 07:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you split up with someone four months ago and met and moved in with someone since.... a bit quick don't you think?
Firstly, does your ex actually want you back? If the answer is no, then you need to consider if you have any feelings for your current girlfriend and if the answer is no, then get out of the relationship....
If your ex does you want you back and you want that to, then you must tell your current girlfriend.... yes she'll be upset, but I'm sure she'll get over you....
2006-07-27 07:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether you could ever patch things up with your ex, your heart is not in your current relationship, so you owe it to your girlfriend to leave her to get on with her life and meet someone who does appreciate her. Maybe to save her feelings, you dont need to go into detail about still having feelings for your ex, but stay calm, say its not working and pack and leave.
PS - are you 100% sure that you are not going to feel the same about this gf once you have left ?
2006-07-27 08:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her shoes, would you want her to stick around if she was living with you but thinking of her ex? Move out TODAY, she will be upset yes but it's better than living a lie and besides, she will get over it.
However, i'd tread carefully where your current ex gf is concerned. Does she feel the same way? Would you want to take a chance on hurting her again if things didn't work out second time around? Take it one step at a time. First step, move out. There is no other way, trust me.
2006-07-27 07:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Keith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did make a mess of it. No matter what you do it's going to hurt her.
Ducking out behind her back is cowardly. If you do that you’re going to have to deal with your cowardice too. Just talk to her. Be brave. Tell her the truth, to a degree. Tell her you went to fast and wasn't ready and your sorry, and that your going to move out. She will be upset and cry no matter what. Unless she’s not as into you as you think or is really strong at handling bad news. Absolutely leave out the part about being all into your ex unless you want her to really hate you. It’s not really needed. It’s your problem not hers, so you deal with it. I'm sure you can straighten this out.
2006-07-27 07:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lets see, u've been broke up for 4 months and already living with someone new, correct? for one thing the person u r with is only ur rebound lover. u should be straight up with her and let her know that things have gone too fast and this is not what u needed. if u wait too long, ur only hurting the girl ur with now. do it fast and be gentle and then grow up for being so immature to take such a big leap with moving in with someone u obliviously dont love.
2006-07-27 07:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by kathleen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you jumped into a relationship, straight after your last G/F you are on the bounce and you'll be feeling guilty about enjoying yourself.
Is your current G/F happy with you? Them grant her the respect she deserves as a human being and tell her that you may have jumped into a relationship too early.
2006-07-27 07:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Whisper4691 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Your being unfair to your new girlfriend if you still have feelings for your ex. be upfront and honest and tell her you need more time to be on your own for a while
2006-07-27 07:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Louise B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her go visit her!and find out if she feels the same way!
2006-07-27 07:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋