2006-07-26 23:28:22 · 5 answers · asked by fairygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no idea how old you are, or how long you two have been dating, but I would say that you should try to close the distance before you call him out on it and have a conversation, stuff like that freaks some guys out. do some things that you like to do together (not just sex) have a conversation about whatever you guys talk about and listen more than you talk, it might give you a clue as to how he feels. If that does not work then bring it up in a non threatening way and see how he feels.
2006-07-26 23:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't...talking about the negative always brings it to the forefront, and if he's not feeling the same it'll cause a rift that wasn't there to begin with. Since you're not into drama, first look from the outside...are you feeling lonely or leftout, is he going out with his buds and not taking you...get a hobby, volunteer, go out with your g/f's, sometimes just being busy changes your whole perspective. Is the sex changing ie. less, not as intense or not at all. Men won't admit it but they do like romance too, try being more loving out of bed. Leave a love note in lipstick on the bathroom mirror, step behind him while he's watching tv and rub his back...catch him doing nice things for you and tell him what you like about it instead of just saying thanks (you're such a sweetie for getting my coffee, the movie you picked was so funny - I've found guys prefer to be complimented on what they do for you even more than hearing us say "thank you so much, you're so wonderful") Don't get me wrong, don't fawn over him, that just seems to make guys pull away anyway. Do remind him though what attracted you to him to begin with (I remember the first time I saw you smile...you made me weak in the knees). You may still feel distant even after doing some of these things and if so, leave him...not permanently, go to a g/f's for a couple days "just a little R&R with the girls, hon" or your moms, if you're adventurous enough, go outta town and take in the theater or museum alone. You will feel better about yourself and more empowered. This will give him the time to contemplate the "distance" and maybe get him on his feet to close that distance. Believe me, if HE brings it up you'll both be able to work on it (because he feels in charge). If, in the end, what you're really afraid of is that he's not into you anymore it's better to find out sooner than later, but if that's the case remember to throw your head back and think to yourself "His loss...next" :-P
2006-07-27 07:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by breezypalm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would he create a drama if you were in a crowd? Would he create a drama if your parents were around? If he is the kind who doesn't retaliate then you could most probably talk to him one to one. But I guess you know him enough to know that he will act up. Maybe what you could do is tell him over the phone that you have something serious to talk about your relationship with him and invite him over with your brother (if you have one) or parents around in the house. It is better to get it all out now rather than suffer in silence.
2006-07-27 06:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Joe C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about, explain to him how you feel. It's not going to get better, if u don't.
2006-07-27 06:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it over a nice dinner.
2006-07-27 06:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋