ok, a little embarassing so be nice!
had a thing with a work guy last year. only really ended around last november. a few weeks ago he started telling me he 'wants' me. i know it's just a booty call so i told him to dream on.
thing is.......he has started to tell me what he wants to do to me, and how badly he wants me. he said he always gets what he wants and this time is no different! he is very flirty with me and our work colleagues have noticed this.
he talks really dirty to me too. Ok, my question is.........do you think that a guy who acts that way towards you can really respect you?
2006-07-26 23:21:59 · 66 answers · asked by Jan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he thinks he is smooth. he wants the booty call. and if you give it to him, be prepared to do it each time he asks. or else rumors might start popping up around the office. best bet is to leave it alone. he is in a dry spell and not getting any right now. he thinks he can fallback on you. plus, you dont know who he's been with since november. dirty talk doesnt stop std's
2006-07-26 23:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by redeye069 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I think the guy must have a serious problem if he has the nerve to talk dirty to you on the job. What that constitutes is "sexual harassment". If he respected you, he would have better manners than to speak to you in that manner, much less to let someone else hear him do it!! If you once liked him and got along with him, you should take him aside, discreetly, and ask him politely, but straight forwardly to stop behaving that way on the job because he is going to create the false impression that you and he have an affair going on and possibly cause you to have a questionable reputation in the eyes of your coworkers. This could go even further and cause you or him to get fired! If you already knew his intentions was a "booty call" and you told him to "dream on". Now, tell him "don't even think about it" and "STOP IT"!! and if he says anything else insulting to you, report him to the authorities before he causes you to lose your job and your self-respect. Do not wait for him to cause a scene, He sounds like the "elevator does not go all the way to the top floor."
2006-07-26 23:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is over then you should not encourage this guy.
It could only spell more heart ache for you in the long run. You may just have to be firm and blunt about this or risk being ridiculed by the work mates.
More than likely the guy will get what he wants ONLY if you let him.
And then he could dump you unceremoniously.
One does not need to talk dirty to convince you that he wants you. There are many other nicer ways that can make you feel wanted. That is if he is genuine about his feelings for you.
2006-07-26 23:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by kalidas_b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right . . . it's just a booty call. If he did love you/respect you, then he would handle the situation differently and not be talking about how he gets what he wants. He would be putting you and your desires first. So now is the time to show some respect for yourself and not allow this guy to use you again. I seriously doubt if you allow yourself to be used again if it will end as nicely as it did last time.
2006-07-26 23:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by whozethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never.
Tell him how uncomfortable you feel with his dirty talk -- and especially at work, and see if he stops.
If he's cool about treating you well and stopping with the talk, and if you're still into him, hey no worries -- go for it, girl!
But if you're still weirding out on him -- do what you can to get him away and don't give him a second thought. And if he gets too crazy, there's always sexual harassment! Threaten him with it and I'd bet anything that he'll back off. If not, go to your boss. No company wants to be known as a sexual harassment company.
Good luck. :)
2006-07-26 23:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Zabela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must you ask? The answer is NO!
No intellectual procedure could support such behaviors. These actions do not only display the lack of dignity and noble conversational skills, they also manifest the presence of disregard for the female members of society. So it is a far more disturbing issue than just uttering a phrase or two, it ultimately promotes female objectification.
2006-07-26 23:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never, not even in bed...tursted me.
He sounds like a guy who likes 2 play ur mind, get rid of him before u like him more...that when u get really confused.
Ignor him and don't look at his body at all times.
He ain't gonna leave till he get in bed with u.
This guy needs 2 know that u have full control in urself and u ain't intrested.
Talk smart..example: he says wants u...tell him that if u want me u wouldn't be telling me that u be showing but ur just a guy what u know...lol that really show him.
Ur a women not a girl...keep ignoring that save u from trouble..remember don't waste ur beauty and time for a narrow mind man.
2006-07-26 23:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a pig and is making other guys look bad. Also if he is working in the same place as you are and is doing that while the two of you are at work then it is sexual harassment, I'd file a complaint about him if I were you.
FYI:
Please do not judge all men based on the action of this jerk
2006-07-26 23:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by gwad_is_a_myth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! If he talks dirty to you it means he's not respecting you especially if you guys are not in a relationship yet. Or has a deep understanding about each other. I suggest that you talk to him and tell him that you don't appreciate what he's doing.
2006-07-26 23:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by yummy _me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how much he'd pay you.
If he gives a price, keep telling him it's not enough (let him come back with another price and tell him it's not enough) - he obviously doesn't get it.
If he gets it - maybe you can talk with him about how you need him to respect you, and that him talking dirty and always coming on to you may be flattering but it is bothering you.
2006-07-26 23:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋