l'm 19, my ex was 31.My parents said after 8 monyths of dating if l wanted to carry on seeing him that l had to move out as they didnt like him.
He didnt want me living with him, he made that clear, so we said we would cool it down for a bit as neither of us wanted to end it.
We carry on seeing eachother for 2 months, we plan to spend the weekend of his brothers wedding together, l had to tell big lies to my parents to be able to go, it took weeks of planning!
He then txt me to tell me he had met some one new and l couldn't go with him.
He doesn't see what l'm so upset about as he says we had been split for 2 months. He was sending me messages saying how he was looking forward to spending time with me at the wedding and then blew me out days before!
Was what he did wrong, he made me belive he was still into me and told me how much he missed me and that we weren't just sex, but then blew me out 4 sum1 new!am l silly 4 thinking bout him all the time as he's not thinking of me!
2006-07-26 23:19:09 · 19 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bare in mind when we meet, l told him l was 21
2006-07-26 23:19:40 · update #1
his new girl is 22
2006-07-26 23:37:30 · update #2
honey please dont insult your intelligence by even questioning the fact as to was what he did was wrong? OF COURSE it was.
My advice to you is to clear your head of this moron and dont waste any more time thinking ofhim. Let him off with his new woman - and rest assured he'll do it to her as well
2006-07-26 23:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well yeah he was wrong to make u belive u were the only one and u cant really trust guy nowdays.u need to ask urself if hes been doing this all the time maybe thats why he didnt want u in his house.its kool he was way to old 4 u and ur young plus it was only 8months. just got to move on look for another guy. im not saying go meet a guy asap but go out and have fun and just enjoy life.i dont think he will come back but hey ur young he might try.if he does i hope u can tell him no cuz hes bound to do it again u know.be strong and go outthere and have a blast.good luck
2006-07-27 06:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point in thinking bout him? There's so many people out there... like the old saying goes - "There's a lot of fish in the ocean." A couple years from now, you'll be laughing at this. Saying how ridiculous it was, but fun while it lasted. Now that you're happy with whoever you'll be with. Good luck girl. You're till young. Have fun and don't think about settling too soon.
2006-07-27 06:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Arvie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey galfriend, come on and think deep.this guy is 30 u r 19! definitely he got someone older and more of his level.he wont come back afterall he sees no future in a family where he is not liked.so stop waiting and move on.u'll get a better person.men r the same;tell u sweet things,put u so high then down in a spark like nothing ever happened.u r still young with hundreds of men 2 choose from.let the old ones go.
2006-07-27 06:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by zizi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're still very young, and he was much too old for you, that sort of men want different things from a girl tha boys in your age. At 31 one ought to get married, settle down etc. That's the mature attitude, tha fact that he preferred a 19 years old's company clearly shows, that he was having it just for fun. His attitude after the breakup also indicates that he wasn't in love with you as much as you wanted him to be! What he has done, was terrible, and he shouldn't have done it, and you are much too young, and much too in love to fell nothing afterwards. This feeling will go away, and next time you will be much more clever, and you will choose a man, who really loves you, and wants to be with you!
This relationship wasn't good neither of you, you had to lie to your parents, and when he saw that he was not going to get much of you, he considered the relationship finished. That man is REALLY bad! Sooner you forget him, the better, try to find someone in your age, he will appreciate you much better, and you will have more common things with him, rather than with a 31 years old.
As for the matter of lying about your age,a true relationship can be built only on honesty, and the fact that you lied, sustains that this kind of a relationship is unwanted, and can only do harm to you. You couldn't have expected this to work out, did, you? After your parents disapproval? I know that you want to be independent, and not to listen to your parent, but after a while, you may realise, that they have much more experience in the domain, and they sometimes know what is best for you.
Though I can see, that you're the kind of person, who knows what she wants, and carries it out no matter what, but sometimes in my opinion, you ought to listen to your friends or parents too.
2006-07-27 07:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I have answered one of your questions on this before, and I will tell you the same thing again hun, this man is very selfish and even though it doesnt matter about age sometimes, he IS taking advantage of you and the feelings that you have for him. You really need to break ties with this man because he WILL break your heart over and over again. This probably isnt what you wanted to hear but ive read your questions so many times and every time you sound hurt and he has done something else to you thats crappy. Please take the advice hun, shed no more tears for this ******** and heal your broken heart with something else because HE AINT GONNA HELP YOU DO IT!! Good luck honey, it will take time xxxxxxxxx
2006-07-27 06:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by kelly d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need building a relationship based on lies you are not 21 and that is it now u cant tell why he left u ,he probably found out ur real age.
all the same move on youv goe a long road ahed of you.
2006-07-27 06:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by hailmartha212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young at 19..you should be concentrating in your studies first then afterwards..do as you please. Your parents are right, they are just protecting you.Also, you will get to meet other guys (even better than you had). I guess the guy at 31..will be looking for a woman to marry now coz he is in the right age and maybe he can't just wait for you to be ready. Hope this helps. God bless!
2006-07-27 06:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sound of it you are well shut of him,
he does not deserve someone like you, he is far too fickle,
you are young enough to find someone more deserving, so ignore him, and carry on with the rest of your life, you will have learned a valuable lesson, and will be a bit wiser in your next choice of boyfriend.
2006-07-27 06:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by catwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably is thinking of you. but he's older. i'm guessing he's not thinking about his parent's reaction to the whole situation. guys that are 31 think about a whole lot of other **** that 19 year olds don't think about. i would let this one go and see what happens. i'm guessing he would be thinking what the hell is he doing with a 19 year old still living with their parents? or does he live with his parents?
2006-07-27 06:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by ED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl-he is not worth it. Yes...it will be hard and it will hurt but you are young and free now to do what you want.
Get out on the town and have some fun!
2006-07-27 06:30:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋