Is it true that if a guy gives you too much gifts it kind of gets annoying ,does it kind of makes him valueless cause it seems like he think he isnt good enough for you so he has to lure and buy you with all those gifts. And what about when you just meet a guy and on the first dates when you trying to go home already he asks and begs you to stay a little longer, or when you talk on the phone with him he just goes on forever, doesn't that makes him look needy and insecure? like he has nothing better to do. I am just kind of getting back into dating and I need some tips what do you ladies think about that?
2006-07-26 23:10:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
firstly the gifts......in my experience, if a man gives you a lot of gifts, he is usually guilty of something.
the first date thing.......that just screams of desperation. not an alluring quality.
the phone call.......needy, insecure and just plain annoying!
refrain from all of the above and you'll do just fine. remember.....everything in moderation!
2006-07-26 23:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, gifts are always nice to get. To me getting gifts shows that you care. You can never care to much. But if the lady requests that you stop buying her all this stuff, then I would slow down some.
Begging someone to stay when they are trying to leave could get on their nerves. When they have to go...they have to go.
As far as being down on yourself...If you have a girlfriend, you are evidently doing something right, so smile and hold your head high. Dont worry about it so much, or it will bring you down.
Talking too much on the phone and not letting her get a word in edge wise could present a problem, so my advice there is give her a little room to talk back. It doesnt make you look needy or insecure, but it can get on her nerves. She may possibly start avoiding phone calls.
Hope this helps and good luck with the dating thing.
Dont forget the roses and candies!!! :)
2006-07-26 23:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by bmhk7925 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. I like thoughtful guys and the stuffs they give just to make me feel special but guys should also look at what is needed the most. As for me, not too much material things. I still value time and efforts. What I want to see is the guy proving his worth.I don't see a guy needy and insecure in a way when he asks for a girl's time and attention. I think it is just normal but don't force girls (that is a no...no.. and a major turn-off). Guys should understand when a girl says no..she means no so don't bother to convince her. And you should also get some signs if she is really interested in you so that you don't have to waste money (on buying gifts ) and time for the girl and end up nothing (dumped I must say). Goodluck and hope this helps. God bless!
2006-07-26 23:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beauty and the success of any relationship remains in the special needs to express caring and love as long as u notice the details.
Details is the keyword. On the others hand, be there and don't be there in the same time. A short brief phone call every while and then which expresses a certain thought in Ur head is great.
Also there's a stereotype that dates are either for lunch or dinner...but i say that a nice early breakfast in a humble simple place is very romantic!
Flowers...white ones are so gentle and sweet, but a cute green plant is even sweeter!.. a hand made item that comes from Ur heart..even though u might think that it sucks and ugly would mean the world to her.. a sweet nick name is good too! like..princess...pretty...just choose one of her best features and call her with it..like pretty eyes...cute nose...it's funny yet sweet.
Never spend a whole conversation bitching about a bad day or a bad experience u've been through! we don't like to hear about bad news all the time! Positive thinking is contagious!
Smell good, Ur breathe, Ur arm pits, Ur hair & ur clothes
Cut ur nose hair!
Ask her about her fav ice cream flavor, her fav color, her horoscope, her fav chocolate, the color of her toothbrush, her fav movie, her fav actor/actress, her fav singer/artist,her fav fragrence and give her the chance to present herself and to express her mind..
Never forget to be Urself too! Some ladies like men with an independent thinking that when u talk about ur thoughts and ideas be able to negotiate !
ummmm...GOOD LUCK ;)
2006-07-26 23:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hendrix_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what type of gifts you give. If the gifts range anything from teddy bears to cards and animated pets, then you don't have to stop. For those kind of gifts, a girl never has enough. If it's jewellery and expensive gifts than we worry when you start giving them alot. Small gifts make us melt and expensive ones makes us melt but only occasionally.Just ask her once to stay longer and if she refuses then let her go home, it shows respect and it 's very sexy. Depends also on what you talk about on the phone,if it's a lovely conversation then carry on but when the mood fades then let it go and say bye instead of talking about stupid things. Hope you enjoy dating again.
2006-07-26 23:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if a guy always buys gifts it feels more like hes trying to buy you into loving him and that does get annoying, not saying we dont like gifts everynow and then though!! Some people dont like it when a guy goes on and on for hours on the phone, but I think that it just means he likes hearing your voice and what you have to say, on the other hand some times a guy tries to keep you on the phone to kinda "keep tabs" on you. I like it when they want me to stay a little bit longer though!
Good luck!!
Hope this helps!!!!!
2006-07-26 23:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring flowers on the first date, even if things are going well, dont linger past dessert.
Gifts on birthdays, holidays or special events...otherwise she can feel overwhelmed and wonder how to reciprocate. (Unless she is just a greedy snatch and is taking advantage of you)
Dont talk too much on the phone, we have girlfriends for that. It makes you seem less like a man and more like a boy.
2006-07-26 23:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does make him needy and insecure.
In the beginning is all fun and games than he keeps giving.
Women like men that don't give it all so we don't get tried of them everyday.
If a women shows she has no intrested do the say, and if she gives u 50% in bed do the same....but much more pleasure than she gives.
Guys must listen and even if the girl is boring u showing her u care.
give eye contact coz that is important ..if she sees ur eyes on her breast she hate u.
good luck
try 2 be a friend a supportive frined
2006-07-26 23:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person.
You can't ask what ladies think and change your ways. You have to be true to yourself and considerate to others. I'm sure you'll find the right person for you.
If ever you for m a relationship only doing what you think pleases your partner - it will never last.
2006-07-26 23:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by metorido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only make the first move when u know its needed most girls like control let her have her own way plus letting ur gf have total control over the relationship means that she is getting what she want but look out for the hints if shes shy then its up to u to build the bridge for a relationship but let her cross by herself GIVE HER PLENTY OF SPACE DONT HOVER OVER HER SHOULDER KK GOODLUCK XOXOX
2006-07-26 23:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by EMO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋