Your 18 year old meets her first real boyfriend, he's 12 years older then her!
Would you let her stay the night round his house after 7 weeks of dating?
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2006-07-26 23:09:55 · 43 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well i think she`s all the woman she`ll ever be,she`s not a kid anymore,she`s 18 and it`s not really upto the parents to decide is it?As for the age difference it`s only a number after all and at 18 she`s probably not ready to settle down anyway and the more you tell her not to do something the more she`ll want to do it anyway.
2006-07-27 12:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by onlyme 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Isn't there something wrong with a 30yr old man dating an 18 yr old?
Its not so much the age gap but the ages of the girl at 18! Perhaps if she was 25 and he was 37 this would be a much different story.
2006-07-26 23:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Megs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no way. If my daughter wanted to date a 30 year old when she is 18 i would say no. That just isnt right. Why is a 30 year old need to date someone so young? Its because he cant find older and mature women who cant see through his crap. Being with a younger girl makes him feel better and he makes her feel older and wiser and so she likes it. Also i would like for my daughter to remain a virgin until marriage like i was and a 30 year old isnt going to agree with that. He is only out to use and lose the younger girl.
2006-07-27 18:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no i wouldn't!
i would be concerned that a 30 year old guy was interested in an 18 year old girl - he must be sick!
i'm not a parent but i am 31 myself and although i remember feeling very grown up at 18 it wasn't until i got older that i realised how immature 18 year old are. (i dont mean to patronise you but it is true)
i also went out with a guy in his 30''s old when i was 18 and it made me feel very grown up etc but the truth was he was getting a kick out of having such a young girl and he used AND abused me - BE CAREFUL!
My advice is don't be in too much of a hurry to grow up, find a lad of your own age and experiment together.... it's fun!
2006-07-26 23:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, 12 years is rather great as an age gap, and given the rather young girl, plus the fact that a 30 year old man is undoubtedly going to expect sex, I would be unhappy with her spending the night with him.
A lot depends on those involved, of course, and the situation must be judged on the merits of the individuals. How commited do they seem, is she relatively mature, will they use protection reliably, what is his history, for exapmle
Alan, single parent of two girls in this age range.
2006-07-26 23:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by ALAN Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I saw that my daughter was making decisions that weren't good for her, yeah, I would probably have to step up. I have read some of your questions and there is something wrong with a 31 yr old man who clubs on the weekends and claims to be a boyfriend to a 19 yr old. You are just beginning your "free" life, it probably isnt in your best intrest to start it with a 31 yr old. Especially a 31yr old who has obvious issues of his own. Don't get caught up in the turmoil he has created for himself. He does not sound like the ideal mate. You have to ask yourself, why is he 31yrs old and hasn't found a suitable mate yet. I'm sure he has given you several excuses but do you honestly believe him.
You parents probably sense what type of man he is, trust them, they have gotten you this far safely. It is probably hard for them to even let you date him.
I guess the answer to your question would be NO WAY!!!
2006-07-26 23:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say many men in their 30's or 40's would fancy having a 18 year old in their bed !!
I would let my daughter take her decision if shes 18, but also give her a word of advise to be careful what she is getting into
I am not against lovers who have age gap, but the worlds nasty out there and there are many b*st^rds about so my advise BE CAREFUL ....
trust that there is a man out there for you, 'the one' the right person for you to spend your life with ...
2006-07-26 23:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 30-year old man is too old (or should we say "mature") for the 18-year old girl. I don't have a daughter, but sons. But if I had one... No. I would not let her go out with him, let alone spend a night at his house.
2006-07-26 23:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, when they're 18 they are adults and can make their own decisions. If they live with me I will expect the common courtesy of letting me know if they will be home that night,
i am a parent, and not too far away from having a teen
2006-07-26 23:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. If you're still staying with your parents, or dependent on them financially, you need to smarten up. When you're mature and out on your own, you can do as you like. However, 12 years is too big of a difference in age. The guy obviously isn't very mature, or he would be with someone closer to his age.
2006-07-27 02:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you start flying off the handle at your daughter about her boyfriend,she is only gonna dig her heels in,and see him all the more,behind ya back. The only thing you can do is make sure she takes the pill,just tell her she is old enough to see who she wants,but you rather her take the pill,then get pregnant early and have no life. cause bringing up a baby isn't easy. her seeing this man 12yrs older then her prob not last long anyway.
2006-07-27 01:38:11 · answer #11 · answered by lovableleachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋