... specifically COCCAINE? I admit that we both used to take drugs once... but we've tried not to use it anymore since it's such a bad habit and ruins our mind and body completely...
What should I do as a good brother now? It's kinda painful to watch her like that... (We're both orphan. Our Mom and Dad has passed way long time ago... one reason why we once decided to take drugs...)
2006-07-26 23:01:49 · 17 answers · asked by Professor Franklin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, she's got to admit she's got a problem with drugs. She might be thinking that she's still controlling the situation, that this problem has not overwhelm her yet. You know some people say, "oh, I can leave drugs whenever I want", which of course, in most cases --probably all of them-- it's not true. She's got to accept she needs help and ask by herself for it. You, as her brother (and I guess you're older), have an important role on this part. Tell her why you decided to quit from drugs, the problems you were struggling with, and what helped you to leave them. Let her know that you're with her; that, though you don't approve what she's doing, you still love her and will always be there for her. You surely love her, but make sure she knows it. Usually when a person uses drugs is because he/she feels lonely, and wants to forget all the troubles overwhelming him/her. Love tends to substitute this longing for drugs and make her feel accepted.
Make a contact with one of those groups that deals with drug users to get more information about how you can help your sister. And once she's asked for help, take her to one of these groups.
Pray for she may leave this bad habit, and for God may give her the strength she needs to recognize her necessity, ask for help, and finally leave the drugs.
God bless you, man!
2006-07-26 23:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Cachanilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is it crazy everyday addicted ?
Or once in awhile, not too much, and I can pretty well handle myself and the drug use ?
Or somewhere in between? (Somewhere in between, I'm guessing.)
Since you've been into that also, you may know how she feels, and you really have no right to judge her. However, if you truly believe that she is hurting herself with this, you should do something about it. Try to convince her to stop the drug use and join groups (AA or NA, for example). If you are comfortable enough with her to talk honestly with her, you should discuss the options of live-in or daily rehab.
The most important thing is this: Listen to her. See how she feels. Try to understand what's going on in her mind. Think about what it would be like to live a day (or a week, or a month) in her shoes.
Then, and only then, decide what you will do. You're the director of this show; ultimately you are the one that has to decide.
Good luck. I believe in you.
:)
2006-07-26 23:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Zabela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. You've been through a lot, it sounds like. Well, I think that you need to sit down with your sister and tell her exactly how you feel about her doing drugs, that you don't want there to be any bad effects on her body, that you love her and want her to stay healthy. Then, if she's willing, perhaps you could get her into a program to get her off drugs, which you can look up in your neighborhood. Good luck, and I hope this turns out well!
2006-07-26 23:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that. You know the reason why you started taking drugs. Be with your sister, never let her alone, talk to her.
I think it is ur responsibility to take her out of it.
You have to make her understand what can happen to her and be sure you are not taking drugs any more.
If you are doing it, you have no reason to ask her to shun.
Good luck.
2006-07-26 23:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
addiction is a very hard road to get off of you will have your slips, relaspe or whatever you perfer to call them. Talk to her and let her know how you feel as an addict and a brother. You are going through the same thing she is support her on whatever choice she makes and put your self in her shoes what would you want her to do! Tell her to get a sponser!
2006-07-26 23:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by ljjmjd3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch.
Is she supporting herself? If not, who is doing it. That is the person you need to go to on this one.
If she is making her own way at the moment, is there any other family and friends you can bring into it?
Cocaine kills you in relatively short order. Two years in general. You don't have a whole lot of time to waste.
-Dio
2006-07-26 23:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by diogenese19348 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
harm people harm people. This individual is unquestionably in want of severe long term counseling. the reality that your father and mom "leap with the aid of hoops" for her ability that she has them knowledgeable nicely. the father and mom are allowing her with the aid of giving in to her. habit issues are in basic terms a symptom of plenty deeper themes. What she is doing is faulty and the muse of the undertaking ought to be dealt with. If she have been to easily stop drugs, the muse reason could nevertheless be there and one habit could get replaced with yet another. turn to Jesus for capability and the answer. If the will is replaced, the guy will now no longer make the incorrect selection. God has to come again in to her heart, and make the transformation Himself-he's finished it with me. we are powerless to alter ourselves, and the quicker we stop attempting to restoration the undertaking, the quicker we could have a answer. You all as a relatives want counseling with the aid of fact habit touches all in touch. do no longer enable, and don't supply her an risk to play with your strategies. Say no to her,she needs to get the hint-her possibilities are her situation, no longer yours. She needs to go through the implications of her undesirable possibilities.
2016-10-08 09:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her why she is doing this again. Tell her how it makes you feel and why. Tell her that you if she needs help quitting you are willing to help. Have this conversation when she is fully sober of course.
You can't force her to stop though, if she doesn't want to nothing you say will make a difference.
2006-07-26 23:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to try and get her plugged into a program. check out the NA (narcotics anonymous) site for some meetings near you. it is scary at first but if you both just try it out you will see a better way of life. also, try this other site for advice from other addicts.
2006-07-26 23:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will suggest her to stop it's slowly as she can. i will not force her or not make any pressure but on that time i will divert her mind in other work or hangout with friends and in this period i will not talk too much about her habit.
2006-07-26 23:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by zeen s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋