l'm 19, my ex was 31.My parents said after 8 monyths of dating if l wanted to carry on seeing him that l had to move out as they didnt like him.
He didnt want me living with him, he made that clear, so we said we would cool it down for a bit as neither of us wanted to end it.
We carry on seeing eachother for 2 months, we plan to spend the weekend of his brothers wedding together, l had to tell big lies to my parents to be able to go, it took weeks of planning!
He then txt me to tell me he had met some one new and l couldn't go with him.
He doesn't see what l'm so upset about as he says we had been split for 2 months. He was sending me messages saying how he was looking forward to spending time with me at the wedding and then blew me out days before!
Was what he did wrong, he made me belive he was still into me and told me how much he missed me and that we weren't just sex, but then blew me out 4 sum1 new!am l silly 4 thinking bout him all the time as he's not thinking of me!
2006-07-26 22:54:45 · 24 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
looking for a bit more detail people!
ls he a pig or am was what he did ok?
2006-07-26 23:01:17 · update #1
Sam, I've been reading your posts... and while now it feels like your whole has ended, it hasn't.... you are still young.... forget about this guy, I know its hard to, but you need to face the fact that he's just not interested....
Shake it off, stick your nose in the air, get all glammed up and hit the town with your mates and have a good time.
You will meet someone else and you will wonder why you ever gave this man the time of day....
The age difference was too much, I know you probably don't think it was, but I don't know of any of my 30-something friends that would consider getting serious with someone as young as 19....the age gap is just too much.... most of my single friends are thinking about marriage and children, not clubbing or being out every night....
Like I said, you will get over it..... just put yourself out there again.
2006-07-27 00:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on - he was never in to you - but take it slow - for whatever drew you to this guy is going to draw you to another fraud like him unless you figure out why you were with him in the first place. Although I don't see anything wrong with dating someone 12 years younger than you - it the case where someone is only 19 and the other is 31 - the 19 year old is not mature enough and the 31 year old should know better - especially if the 19 year old is still living with her parents (way to immature if that is the case because you haven't experience enough about life yet).
2006-07-26 23:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is not neccesarily the problem but I would have had alarm bells if my fella said I could not move in in that situation and after 8 months together and I bet there were reasons why your parents put an ultimatum on you. He is a pig if he cant be honest about his feelings or commit when you need him, be glad you've had a lucky escape and didnt move in, cos then you would have had to face the humiliation of moving back to your folks house.
2006-07-26 23:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve asked a similar question already about this guy. Are you obsessed with him?
He has clearly moved on and you should do the same. He has said this to you STRAIGHT. Do you not Understand???
Why are you chasing after a 31 yr old man when youre only 19? Find someone around your age.
2006-07-26 23:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you, the fact that he met someone new could mean he was just playing with your feelings, he prob just wasnt ready for trouble with your parents because remember he is 30 something and he has different intentions than you do. You are stuck on him, go out more and meet someone else, dont think of him so much because maybe he doesnt think of you at all now, babe-face the truth!
2006-07-26 23:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jacey86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally being naive for even spending any time on this old fart. I think it's disquisting that he could even think about dating somebody as young as you and him being 31. He is a pervert and forget him. Your parents are right for not wanting you to have anything to do with him. He used you for sex and you need to think you are better than that. I don't know how somebody as young as you could even want to touch a man that old especially if you aren't even getting paid to do it. Blech! This guy obviously hasn't grown up and no women in his own age group will probably even touch him because of it.
Ignore him! Don't even waste another minute thinking about this pervert.
2006-07-26 23:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by mama mia! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe this is the problem with dating people out of your age range he is 31 maybe been married before likes his Independence and your 19 fresh to outside life and the real world try dating some around the age group of 18-23 they are more your mind set and please i'm not saying anything bad about you it's just people are different at other age groups he's not going to be all giddy like you with a relationship he's done the dance before. try picking a different age group
2006-07-26 23:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by SLICK77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dear men are difficult to understand sone times they take some pretty harsh dicisions not minding who gets hurt at the end of the day.
Wats inportant is that you move on and not look back.
people get married and on day decide its all over.
so yours is not the end of the world its probably hapning to thousands of girls out their at this same time .
sit up and move on.
good luck
2006-07-26 23:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your are being manipulated. This fella is not showing any respect for you. Your 19 and things have only just begun. Drop this loser and get on with your life...someone will come along who deserves you.
2006-07-26 23:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋