My hub is my true love. He used to return it during the time we had the affair, but when we got married he changed, not romantic, not adventurous, not kissing me when he goes out (not that he did it before). No love making in the bath,no flowers. He does not buy even a card for our anniversary, says I should do that. I did all that before but I am fed up now. He is very good looking and guess he likes it when we made love. But sex was not very creative for him just do this or the other..,I cannot but sigh, I need colour in loving ,caring and being very demonstrative,Sorry if this is too bold but I need an answer. Is this a particular type of men who look gorgeous but not very imaginative? Or is he particularly "off" because I am his wife? I am not a true beauty but am cute and have my share of charm. I am independent and wouldn't be his totally submissive woman as most of the Asian women. I argue,challenge and not dependent. whats the matter with us?
2006-07-26 22:41:07 · 8 answers · asked by hekshi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Girl, sorry to be the one to tell you this but, he's just not that into you. It's hard to hear, but once you realize that is what's happening, it's liberating!!!!
2006-07-26 22:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still living with you. . . so, you had all the time and opportunity to show him. . .a different you. Maybe its just not him, maybe you also had changed. . . you take him for granted and no longer exert effort to charm him. . Try to inject romantic atmosphere at home, and surprise him with things that you knew he love and enjoy doing while you're still just living-in/having an affair. Daily grind becomes monotonous when you do things the same, day in and day out. If you do things differently, he might stop and think what is wrong. . . and he might demand explanations - Do so, open up. . so that you'll both know whats wrong, instead of trying to guess. Its better to blow his cool and have a shouting match than a live and let live attitude. Talk things over. So you'll know if its really over. and you will be able to move on.
2006-07-27 00:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, first, believe it that there's nothing wrong with you..I know how you feel, it's normal for a woman to feel that, when not feel loved, we all jumped up to conclusion that there's something wrong with us. What is wrong is the way you interact with each other, maybe sometimes you allow each of you some time and space alone, without trying to cling to each other all the time. Both of you will enjoy yourselves and it will be happier when it comes to share time together again. I hope that helps.
2006-07-26 23:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by babyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don understand him at all?
u two are just loving each other by outside looks.
true love need understanding of each feelings...
u just loving a guy with cool looking and handsome face but u didnt know the heart of that man....
love is also a feeling to understand..
if u understand it i am sure u know what is going on..
but i guess.. if u love him u would understand him..
wel i don call this true love..... since u don understand him or understand wad change u... we can't help u here. this is ur love problem. the problem for u to understand.. love
2006-07-26 22:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truthfully don't comprehend why you're nevertheless with him? - He complains approximately each little thing - He does no longer something for you - You the two continuously argue ( and it style of feels that's his fault) i think of you deserve lots greater helpful and that i think of he's an entire jerk. despite if in case you somewhat do no longer wont to interrupt up with him, then tell him your emotions, tell his precisely what you have placed right here. regardless of each little thing of that if he continues to be being a jerk then you understand what to do...
2016-12-10 16:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have only been aroused because you were having an affair. Now that you are married, the "thrill" is gone. He has lost interest in you because you are now his wife and not his mistress.
2006-07-26 22:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think he loved the affair more than what he has now....a submissive mouse...get strong girl find someone who does it FOR YOU, let him worry bout himself.
2006-07-26 22:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by lyndles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, then again,maybe not
2006-07-26 22:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by are u crazy?...cuz i am not! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋