If after a couple of months in a relationship you become bored with routine, seeing your boyfriend on the same days, do you stay in the relationship? If so, why?
2006-07-26 21:45:36 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well i try and spice things up a bit.... constantly looking for new things to do or try.... everything goes a bit mundane, you can't have the hearts and sparkle every day.....
If the relationship is boring because of compatibility, then of course its best to get out.
2006-07-26 21:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Saccharin 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will seek the answer to know why i am bored in this relationship. Then talk to the guy and if i still have no improvement, then it's time to move on. Staying in a relationship is not based on feelings alone. It's based on commitment too.
2006-07-26 21:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by denizen251 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of months is still a fresh relationship and if it's dull now, it can only get worst!
By staying in a relationship just because it's easier than leaving it will only end up hurting both people involved.
If you're not enjoying it, then stop it.
For years I never dated anyone for longer then a month or so until I met Lisa and now we've been together (married) for over 4yrs ............ it'll feel 'right' when it actually is right for you - this obviously doesn't sound right for you at the moment!
2006-07-26 21:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by nickthesurfer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you become bored with seeing your friend on the same days, merely change the days or the times you see each other or do something that is more interesting to both of you than what you have been doing in the past. If you have similar goals and values and get along well together in various circumstances, you should stay in the relationship. Boredom is normal from time to time in every relationship, but it can be overcome if both partners work at making the relationship more interesting.
2006-07-26 21:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for some time, until I cannot stand it any more. I stay in a relationship for some time even though I am bored because in that time I prepare myself for the breakup. It's much easier to go over a breakup when you are totally fed up with the routine.
2006-07-26 21:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by cityexplorer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. BUT YOU SHOULD TRY TO NOT HURT YR PARTNER.
2006-07-26 21:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by manalonedubai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find my boyfriend to be unenthusiastic at times. And I only see him on weekends and by Sunday I am very bored. He sits around and doesn't do a whole lot with me.
Why am I still there? He is just a clueless man. Maybe he is too comfortable. But at least then I can spend some quality time with my motorcycle and he doesn't care. I know I would hate it if he was all clingy. And he is a nice guy. We are funny. It is nice to just be around him. He still calls me everyday after 6 months.
But I have thought of leaving because I would prefer more attention. I have reminded him that we are not married, we are dating. That means dates!
Some people like routine. Really just ask her. It is not an uncomfortable question. Don't mention about staying, but just ask if she likes the way things are or if she could change anything, what would she like. See where she is at.
2006-07-26 21:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by ruletheworld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you really like this person look into your routine and seriously think about changing it come on you are your own person get out there and do something with yourself and still if things do not seem to change between you's then yeah i would say it was time to move on as nobody likes a drip now do they. Confront him tell him you are bored with the same old same old see what he has got to say he may just be feeling exactly the way that you are you are not going to find out unlessyou start talking up.
2006-07-26 22:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by twisted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, boredom is the killer. It settles in once the connection is gone.
There's a big difference between security and stability, and boredom. Security and stability feel cozier, more tranquil, peaceful, fulfilled. Boredom means anxiousness, restriction, frustration. Big differences.
I'd end a relationship if I were truly bored with it, then there's also something to the old phrase "If you're bored, you're boring."
2006-07-26 21:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bored after a couple of months? For goodness sake...it's only 2 months, should you be asking this question after two years...or ten years or something? Two months into a relationship you should still be all over eachother like a rash!
Nonetheless, boredom as I see it is no valid reason for dumping somebody unless you ideas of what is exciting are vastly different. To dump somebody for this reason after such a short length of time only shows that either one or the other of you is too lazy to put some effort into your relationship.
Go away, sit down and talk to your partner about it, put forward some ideas as to how you can make things more fun and ask them if they have any ideas of their own to contribute. that would be a pretty decent start
good luck
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2006-07-26 21:58:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋