what should i do i feel like leaving her and being with my other girls should i tell her that its not mine, or tell her that im not gonna take care of it?
2006-07-26 21:38:57 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is the one who told me not to wear Protection!
2006-07-26 21:49:11 · update #1
Its sad that you can't face the consequences of what you did, but this being the case, then I would be completely honest to her, be fair, offer help her at least economically.. Tell her you are not ready to settle down, that it would make everything worse if you did settle down with her, because at the end you are sure it wouldn't work out.. Work out an economical plan of how you can help her, and who knows, at least if you ever regret not getting to know your child, you could still be civilized about it, if you ever run into them, and you see your eyes on his face, and a tiny piece of you, you will regret never being a part of that miracle of a baby.. throwing everything away for meaningless sex, and at the end, you will feel you wasted those years, you missed out on something important.. The worst thing you can do is be an *** about it, deny the fact that it's yours, and leave her with the whole burden.. she will put up with enough being a single mom. Consider the baby's point of view, a father that helped out at least economically, or a father that never took any bit of responsibility.. I do recommend that you don't marry this girl, that would be the worst mistake.. you are not ready, not emotionally mature enough to make anything else your priority.. you are your priority.. and that would be a huge mess.. good luck.. and try to take the high road
2006-07-26 21:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by verito 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are such a big sucker! Pregnating somebody and leaving her? What do you think of girls, dogs like can just hook up with a stray one? Well you seem to be like a dog with what you are just gonna do.
Don't even try to do it, I mean having sex if you are not willing to take responsibilities. Now as you leave the girl, she'll feel devastated and sorry for trusting you enough to do it with you. It's hard to be a single parent most especially if she is still young (I hope she isn't).
You might as well tell her you don't want to take responsibility than denying you being the father of that kid. Denying the baby will make her feel lowly and will cause her alot of trouble and personal deals. She better know the truth in you than put her into a lower depth. At least leave some concern to the girl even if you are bound to leave her. Don't make her feel like she's just a trash.
This advice is applicable to a serious relationship and not the one night stand hook up thing with an acquaintance.
2006-07-26 21:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by leelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk To Her And Work Things Out
Don't Leave Her After Making Her Pregnant!
Be Responsible!
What A Guy You Are!
That's Not Nice Of You To Do Such A Thing!
Well Take Care
2006-07-26 21:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I could say so many things to you right now, but none of them would be very nice. I will point out the one and only thing that is significant here and that is the baby, the little human being, the living breathing person you helped make!!! It isn't about you or her anymore. The baby is real and exists whether you like it or not, whether you want to stay or go, whether you choose to ignore it or take responsibility, whether you have a conscious or not. That baby will have needs and you are one of them!!!! How can you not feel something??????????? Just remember when he or she is old enough to look you in the eye, how do you want to be in there eyes? A loving father who they know will protect them forever, love them, and actually want them to be on this earth, or a nobody, a complete stranger, a dead beat dad, a useless peace of walking flesh that is taking up good air someone else could be breathing??? Well which one are you going to go down in history as? Which one do you think God will scribble you down as in his book? I believe it is your choice.....
2006-07-26 21:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I mean no disrespect to you by my answer bc all people make mistakes. From now on if you don't feel ready to have a child you should use protection. You should also sit down with the girl, and tell her your honest opinion about her pregnancy - tell her you don't think you are ready to have a child, and consider your options, terminating the pregnancy, and adoption. Don't be a coward be a man, and respect the woman who could be the mother of your baby enough to tell her how you feel. Running away never works.
2006-07-26 21:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by VL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will regret it if you leave her or upset her
you took the chance, so take the responsibility. How do you think she feels? She has to get that thing out of her! We go crazy with all the hard work that babies are.
You will enjoy that baby. You really need to pretend, really sit and meditate, that this baby is inside of you. This is a piece of you. Kids have a hard enough time these days. It doesn't need an extra disadvantage instigated by you.
Congratulations. You will be a great dad and you will not regret it!
2006-07-26 21:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by ruletheworld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough luck...you are going to have to pay child support if you leave. A blood test will prove that the baby is yours. Be a man and take care of your mistakes rather than running from them.
2006-07-26 21:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by laetusatheos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you shouldn't have had sex with her. Especially if you were dumb and didn't use protection. Bottom line is it doesn't matter what you say because you're having a child and you're going to most certainly be financially responsible for it for the next 18 years at least.
2006-07-26 21:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda feel sorry for you on one side and on the other i wish i knew where you lived so i could go slap you!
i think you should talk to her and tell her you aren't ready...
you surely aren't mature enough.
be sure it is yours,
then don't abort and i guess give it in adoption...
do you know anybody that needs a baby?
you could let her carry it then give it to the other person,
but i really think that you should be a bit more responsible....
2006-07-26 21:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by stellina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c you tell her that or decide that, you have no choice but to take care of the baby...its called child support and they will get u for that..........if u dont want babies you should think about that the next time u decide to have sex
2006-07-26 21:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋