what is the best thing to do if you have a boyfriend but you still have strong feelings for your ex?

Answer 1

move!

Answer 2

You need to get things straight in your own head first before you decide on aNY course of action.

One thing to remember to begin with - there was a reason you and your ex broke up, right? (there usually is!) Try to recall what that reason was - and analyse the likelihood that he has changed? Would the same thing just happen again if you got back with him?

Look at your present relationship, are you happy? Or is there something missing?

It sounds like the classic situation to me - where you have been with your present boyfriend for a while, and the initial mad, giddy passion has worn down. Then along comes your ex, and wham, all those powerful feelings of attraction come back to you. Your brain tricks you into forgetting all the bad times, and you only remember the good.

This is totally normal. But don't get swept along with it. If you get it on with your ex whilst still with your man, you will only hurt everyone, including yourself. If indeed your ex is the 'real deal' for you, then you have to make sure of this, think it all through carefully, then do the honourable thing and finish with your boyfriend.
But be realistic. It could just be a small case of 'wandering eye', nothing more!
Good luck .

Answer 3

Concentrate on ur new love. dont go bk 2 ur ex, remember u probably split up 4 a reason. and now (i'm assuming) that u've slept with ur new bloke, it can cause problems in the relationship if u go bk 2 him. i know it wouldn't have been cheating but it may give ur ex reason 2 keep thinking "what if i'm not as good?" "what if u think about him during sex?" and the same goes 4 ur new partner if they find out u have feelings 4 ur ex.
u need 2 work out what u want b4 ppl get hurt. good luck

Answer 4

I assume you are normal i.e. not queer, to have a boyfriend you are a female - yes?

Then, you had better drop the current boyfriend quickly, before you become very disappointed with life in the very near future. In my opinion it is practically impossible to be truly in love with more than one person at a time and my definition of true love is being mentally on the same wavelength as well as physically attracted. Any other association must surely be for someone elses benefit, not your own.

Answer 5

If I were you I would be honest to the person you are with. If you have feelings on any subject talk about them, you need good communication for any relationship to succeed.

remember that it's very easy to make somebody who isn't there perfect in your mind's eye, remember you split with your ex probably for good reason. You could be projecting your thoughts onto memories of him.

if you feel very bad about your ex..fearful or hateful likewise be truthful to your partner. He may assume you feel bad because something he has done unless you correct this assumption.

best of luck

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Answer 6

This is the whole problem with relationships, everything gets so complicated and nothing is ever simple. You need to be clear in your mind if there is a chance that you and your ex can make a go of it.

If between the two of you you decide you can, you need to break it off straight away with this new guy and begin to rebuild what you had before.

If not, then you need to do what you need to do to get closure with your ex.

Answer 7

Actually, that's very unfair to your present boyfriend because even his your present boyfriend you still have feelings to your ex...

But, don't think that I'm thinking so bad on you,,,well, first thing is talk to your boyfriend..tell what you feel,,, if he loves and trusts you, he will let you explain the whole thing and ofcourse, respect you... If you already reconcile with your boyfriend,,ask for some time or space to think it about...

Another suggestion is that talk to your friends,,,just tell what your real feelings don't hide anything,,, Still,, the last decision is at your hands,,just listen to their complements and then do not dwell so deep on thier comments just think and surely, you will realize something....

Last thing, reconcile to your ex-boyfriend, talk to him,,,hide your feelings first and try to communicate again to him but don't be so aggressive because,, guys must be the one who will take the first move to this thing but ignore that first, just be yourself...

Gudluck to your lovelife

Answer 8

Mmm firstly, think why you and your ex broke up in the first damn place, second if you'v been in a long relationship then it's just a simply case of your natural missing him.. or her.

over time you'll get over it (I'v been here too.)

Answer 9

If it were me I would tell my boyfriend how I feel and let him go!

Issues with your ex need to be resolved, who broke up with whom? This does have a bearing on the resolution!

Good luck with your dilema.

Answer 10

Shag the one behind the other's back. You've only got one life, live it to the fullness and get everything you want while you can. Eventually you'll probably tire of one of them anyway, and if you lose them both, you can always get another one. Men are like fishes used to be: abundant and easy to catch.

Answer 11

Never go back,,,,,,, the reason why you split up will only come around again, it's better to keep your distance and keep the nice feelings then you'll have something good inside, instead of getting back together and things going wrong again,,,,,,trust me it will