I have been through a lot with this guy and we've only known each other for a year! We actually stopped talking for 9 months, last year. We only started talking again, because he called me out of the blue to say he missed me. It's weird because we weren’t good friends or anything.
Now that we are talking (again) we realize we have so much in common. And he has been really sweet. When my dog died, he consoled on the phone me for hours. He drives 3 hours regularly to see me. A few times I have lost my temper and told him I didn’t care if we stopped being friends, but he worked to keep our friendship going.
We are also sexually involved & he gets jealous when I mention other guys. Last year I told him I had feelings for him and he said he’d never date me. A year later, he still won’t change his mind. In anger, I stopped having sex with him but he still wants to be friends in is still so sweet, though he gets upset when i mention other guys. Why?
2006-07-26 21:28:50 · 11 answers · asked by bellarina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Heh. as a guy thats been there before its easy. Manly ego we hate especially women we've dated/had sex with to talk to us about other guys. I'll bet he does have more then friend type feelings with you other wise he wouldnt get upset. look at it this way if he mentioned other women wouldnt you get defensive? he probably likes you but maybe being your friendship was so rocky. He doesnt feel he can trust you enough to commit to a relationship yet he doesnt want you to be with anyone else because then he's alone basically.
2006-07-26 21:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by sugrdady03 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of staying where you were , you came down to his level and added somethings to replace the loneliness you felt for being alone.
He's a control freak. Subtle but a control freak.
If you aren't careful he'll be going upside your head soon.
He can sit and listen to you on the phone for three hours? Me thinks he was putting that phone down while you cried and boohooed and only answered when the replies needed a sound or a hum instead of real feedback.
Me thinks he's got another female who he is tight with , yet she doesn't do what you do so well. He'll drive for some from you and treat you like crap afterwards!
You tolerate it because your self esteem is low too. You need something from him because if you didn't , you would stop with letting him help you abuse you!
So grow up lady and face facts. You like the sex and that's all it is. Friends with benefits as your age says it. Stop looking for love in all the wrong places.
2006-07-26 21:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple.
He is manipulating you.
His ego gets a big kick out of it.
He doesn't want you for himself (believe me, he doesn't if he won't date you), but he wants to keep you around in case nothing better comes along. You're like a hobby until someone "his type" comes along.
Even a booty call. Or a F*** Buddy, which can be cool, but you seem to be attached to him, so it may not be the best move for you.
Oh, sure, he'll bat his eyes till you melt (he loves that!), and get upset should you move on to someone else (he finds that threatening), but he won't consider you worthy enough to return your affection and devotion.
Your best move would be to let him go, but that's easier said than done. You'll know when you've had enough. Just don't let him wipe his feet on your ego or wreak havoc on your love life.
Good luck!
2006-07-26 21:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same situation. my guess is that he doesnt want you, but doesn't want anyone else to have you either. i'm gonna be honest here, he doesn't want a relationship with you because he can get what he wants from you without that.
the only reason he's 'jealous' is because he thinks you might find someone else and then the fun is over for him. or, he could be trying to manipulate your feelings. IE, act jealous to MAKE YOU THINK he cares.
guys can be like that, even the ones 'you think' you know well so dont be fooled! continue your friendship but keep it strictly platonic. you are free to meet whoever you want. you can't wait around for him!
2006-07-26 21:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he doesn´t want to get serious. He gets jealous because men are "hunters" and need even the same amount of attention then we do or even more. You have to decide what you are going to be next. It should be up to you now and not him ... depends on what you are looking for though
2006-07-26 21:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Silviavvb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you . ALot. yet you may positioned off somewhat. adult men get scared off while females are somewhat finished on with them, and you reported this your self, while his girlfriends get on the edge of him he backs off. Seeing as its long distance, he could make the attempt to comesee you if he likes you... or you probability him enjoying inclusive of your emotiions and making use of you as you reported, a f chum. additionally... i could propose you ot to circulate in with him... even however you the two are close and get on, this could make him much less interested in attempting to get you...he will see you for all time and could be much less interested in pursuing you.
2016-11-03 02:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way you describe him he reminds me of one of my x boyfriends...
it sound that he likes you and likes to have sex with you but doesn't really want anything serious.
like he just wants to be a privileged friend.
and ma by he gets jealous because he doesn't want competition to have you.
in other words he likes you for himself but only for a toy to play with. and not let anyone else play with it!
2006-07-26 21:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by stellina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's confused. Sit him down draw a line with him. Friends or nothing and then make him stick to it.
2006-07-26 21:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by ltexasfootballer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he wanna marry u?
is he strugglin to ask?
or is it plain confusion...?
talk to him-and tell him ur getting mixed signals wen actually u want a clear life...
2006-07-26 21:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by El-rene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better shake him off and find someone who will love u for real. he is just using u.
2006-07-26 21:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by chiefbrino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋