I can't understand shy guys' behaviors. Help?

Question

I'm asking this again so I can get responses from both men and women this time. I apologize for making this question so long, but whenever I kept the question brief, people couldn't answer it well because they didn't fully understand the situation and the circumstances. I get more informative answers this way.

I'm trying to understand shy guys' behavior in general. I'm shy myself, but I still find it frustrating trying to interpret their behaviors. This isn't about one guy in particular. I've had experiences with these kinds of guys for years in school and other jobs. Some I went out with; some just wanted to stay friends. To guys reading this: Put yourself in a girl's shoes in this situation. To shy guys: Can you rate your shyness first, please? 10 being the most shy, 1 being the least shy.

Here's the scenario:

At your store where you work, there's a certain guy who appears to have a crush on you but haven't told you up front. He always smiles, always looks glad to see you, makes frequent eye contact, acts very kind to you, plays with you at work, is always interested in helping, and looks at you when you're not looking, but quickly turns away as soon as you catch him looking at you, and does double takes (that's when he takes a glance at you, turns away and then immediately turns back to look at you again to check if it was actually you he spotted). It's difficult to describe his facial expression and his way of behaviors with words. You're not too sure if he likes you, but you do know that he doesn't act this way towards other girls at work. It seems that because he's shy, the only way he chooses to let a girl know that he likes her is by deliberately showing little signs and not by just telling her.

Later, after noticing these signs from him and you think that he likes you, you begin to like him a little. But you just keep it to yourself and decide that you're not going to let him know how you feel. You're pretty good at hiding your true feelings and you don't show any signs that you like him. It's not like you deliberately try to hide your feelings by stop making eye contacts or avoiding him completely or stop saying hi to him. You act the exact same way you did before you liked him and treat him like he was just a friend. Therefore, he doesn't have any clue that you like him.

Then suddenly one day, he's making less eye contact with you, not talking to you as much and not running into you as much. He just acts really busy and is making himself scarce. However, he still treats other people the same

My question is: Do you think this guy is acting like he doesn't like you now because:

A) He somehow find out that you like him and is now trying to turn you off by acting this way? He never liked you in the first place.

B) Since you didn't show any signs that you like him, he realized that you're not interested in him? So therefore, he stopped trying.

C) He found out that you know that he likes you so now he's embarrassed and is trying to hide his feelings? He still has doubts that you're interested in him, but isn't completely convinced that you aren't.

D) He used to like you, but now he has a new girlfriend or he likes someone else?

E) Other (can you give me your input?)


Note: I kind of doubt choice D because just recently, I heard him talking to someone that he doesn't have a girlfriend. It sounded like he was frustrated about not having a girlfriend and is having difficulties finding one. If there was already another girl he liked, he wouldn't seem so down.

Answer 1

well well i know exactley what happened.guess whos fault it is urs. u c he liked u and probably still does. this is why and thanks 4 a detailed explanation.u c he was looking at u and all and like little flirting cuz hes shy and didnt know how to approach u.so picture doing that and then getting ignored.thats what u did.although u though that u were trying to not show ur feeling well it worked and in the process u made him think that hes bothering u.so he felt awkward and decided to not make u feel awkward by leaving u alone. of course he acts the same the guys a professional at work.so ur shy to but im sure u know that bascily ignoring a guy its very hurtful and that what u did. he wanted to flirt with u and u flirt back so maybe one day u would come up to him and get something going.instead u stopped making eye contact and etc.so hes like oh ok im making her feel wierd better not do that.so what u need to do is put ur shyness away go to him and tell him why u acted that way and that ur sorry.if he knew u liked him to he would have kept it up i know it.so step up to him and tell him why and im sure he will like open up more.i know i was shy when i was young. so that what happened. so r u willing to go up to him and let him know why u ignored him and made him feel like he did something bad.if u really like this guy u should do it ok.good luck

Answer 2

if i meet someone new, and like them, and i tend to be a 6-8 depending on how much i like them and how open they are. if i know them i can be a 1-3. shy guys only act this way if they don't really know the person.

i dont believe choice A is correct because if he didn't like you at all why did he send these flirty signals.

it could be choice B so assuming it is you should show him that you are interested.

i like C because i totally understand. if he thinks you like him but isn't sure he can get even more isolated. if you somehow confirm it to him he'll stop acting this way.

and you said choice D is most likely wrong.

if he's "down" like you say it could also be a personal issue he has. instead for help online and giving us all the possibilities, why dont you just ask him. you wont need to guess and ask yahoo answers anymore and your answer will be 100%. dont be shy! you can do it!

Answer 3

im really shy when it comes to talking to girls and if i think the girl might like me and she stops showing any sign of liking me i will kinda keep away from her ause i feel dumb that i thought she liked me and really didnt.bye the way the best way to deal with a shy guy is to talk to one of his friends or just pull him aside and tell him how you feel. hope i helped a little but shy guys are complicated

Answer 4

i,m a very shy guy!
so i choose b
even if i have not chosen a GF

Answer 5

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