GUYS for what reasons will you give up a relationship with a girl who really loves you and wants you to stay?
and for what reason will you pursue a girl who really loves you but wants you to leave her alone?
please answer both.. thanks all!
my boyfriend (now ex) left me, i really loved him, treated him well and begged him to stay.. but still he left me.. after a year now.. i really still do love him but i just want him to leave me alone but he pursues me..
2006-07-26 20:57:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My answer for the first question is that there is no definite answer...it could be a lot of different things or just one thing (boredom...possibly because you've done too much...sometimes people dont want everything to be handed on a silver platter..too easy? or perhaps it's a particular quirk. it could be arguing too often or nagging too much?...you would be able to discern better which of those more than I)
However, judging from his recent behavior (chasing after you), it sounds like he misses the attention that you gave him. So, I think that while you were in the relationship, you treated him "too well" (not to say that you shouldnt treat him well...but perhaps gave him everything he wanted...he didnt see it as much of a challenge since you were so readily available) Now that you want him to leave you alone, he sees it as a challenge something that he can strive for.
I think it's a good idea that you're trying to detach yourself from him...you're doing what's best for you and you really dont need someone that wants you for just your attention instead of appreciating you completely for who you are. If you really wanted to completely detach yourself from him...I'm sure you can...I'm sure there's a lot of attachment that makes it difficult to do so...but you can ignore his calls, dont respond to e-mail, etc...and soon enough he'll stop pursuing you. Good luck with it! Stay strong, you're doing the right thing!! =)
2006-07-26 21:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for twenty-three years so I might be off, but here goes:
Guys enjoy the thrill of the chase. Your ex may have been feeling bored or thought he was 'missing out' on something. He had you and should have been satisfied but wasn't, for whatever reason. His loss.
Also, some guys don't like to be tied down. These are the ones not ready for a true commitment. Your ex may have fallen into this category as well. After exploring some options he may have come to the realization you were what he was looking for all along.
If you still love him, as you say you do, maybe give it a little more time then talk to him. If after talking to him you find he hasn't changed, run like the wind. If he has, give him another chance, but be cautious. Make sure he's sincere and only you will know if he is.
I wish you well and hope it works out for you.
2006-07-26 21:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lonnie P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've just discovered something wonderful if used correctly. Yes, being able to control the attraction someone else feels for you is empowering isn't it? Experiment with this little trick to fully understand it.
"People want what they can't have." Meditate on this for a while.
As for me, I "give up" relationships that no longer interest me. It doesn't matter if she "really loves me" or not. Love is not something that only one person can experience. Love takes two people, and if I'm not in love with her, then you can be damn sure I won't take that topic too seriously.
To answer your second question, I don't chase them period. If she really loves me, she'll come tell me on her own.
2006-07-26 21:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Men leave for another woman!
2) Having failed with the other woman he wants back into his comfort zone with you. You give him hope by admitting that you still love him....If you really want to be left alone...for good...tell him that you had sex with another man and realized how terribly small his penis really is and how he doesn't have the slightest idea what to do with the little fellow that he has! Guaranteed you will be left alone!
2006-07-26 21:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider that he is stressed approximately his emotions for you. You stated that you just had been peers first and the date and the kisses took it to one more stage that he in general wasn't able for. Don't name him anymore and begin seeing different folks. I would not wait round and if he does observe that you have not been calling and calls you cuss him out approximately how he made you suppose after which see what occurs from there. LOL
2016-08-28 17:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not nice for anyone to love and stick , you love and go along the waves if you stay togather its good if anyone tries to leave then let go , did you hear that people sometimes needs to stay alone for a while, I hope you and him will read this and try to do it.
2006-07-26 21:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably left you because he thought he could do better. He found the the hard way that you were probably the best he'll ever find. So, now he's after you. Whatever you do, don't go back to him and find yourself a guy who loves you for who you are.... THE FIRST TIME.
2006-07-26 21:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but a 29 year old woman who has been there, done that......Please believe me when I say that you will feel better, and for now, just remember that to a lot of people "the grass is always greener on the other side".......God bless and good luck
2006-07-26 21:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well
d first thing is if he luvs u he wudnt hurt u....
if u hurted u once he wont repeat it n he wil repent on his past action....
gettin bored wit d relation, finding a new intrest or some real personal matter can b d reasons fr him to leave u a year ago!!
now he want u back bcz either he undrstud he cant find a gal like u or he jus wanna haf fun again!!
2006-07-26 21:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by ii_classy_ii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men (or women ) like to challenge and GET something and when done they feel all right and don't struggle any more and try to have something else. Just like a child and his toys. Some say u must always keep this people BEHIND THE DOOR and dong give them all they want.or break up with them.
2006-07-26 21:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋