I've been with my bf for over 3 years and we are quite serious so I consider his family to be my in laws. His mom has never really talked to me, even though I've made many attempts to. She doesn't say hi or goodbye when she sees me and it's been like this from day one. I hate going over for family functions because I feel so out of place. At a b-day party she was introducing everyone and skipped right past me then went back and said, oh yea that's Christina. My bf has full custody of his kids and I treat them like my own, I treat my bf with love and respect. I have no idea what I did or didn't do for her to ignore me the way she does. I'm tempted to ask her why there is a stick up her *** and why she doesn't like me.
2006-07-26 20:55:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you know she's alone, go over her house with her favorite snack or something. And ask her straight-out, "Can I please have 5 minutes of your time?" Then say whatever it is you want to tell her nicely. Good luck to you...................................................
2006-07-26 21:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jake 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is pretend it does not bother you. Ignore it not her.......oh and by the way cling to your dude and just pretend that everything is great. Be extra nice to her when others are around and just smile when she is mean or rolls her eyes back in her fluffy head. Remember you have her little baby (your dude) and that's burns her up. I just hope your dude treats you like a queen and doesn't treat you any different when your in laws are around..good luck :)
One more thing.....don't even think about sitting down and asking "what's wrong why don't you like me"? FORGET IT! Just live your life and I praise you for caring for his kids as if they were your own.
2006-07-27 04:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by txdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is really that strong what kind of Mammas boy doesn't straight this out. Oh yeah probably because he is ignoring it or he comes from a family of people who deny anything is wrong. Otherwise she is a bitty and needs to grow up. You just have to ignore her as well, and just be who you are. nothing will change the way she acts if she doesn't want to.
2006-07-27 04:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Democestes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that. just remeber you are with your guy for him and not his family. She may not like you, but as long as you two love each other it really doesnt matter. Dont kiss up to her she doesnt deserve your respect. Just dont allow her to belittle you go on and enjoy the party and let her figure out her own problems. remember he might have been mamas little boy so no woman will ever be good enough.
2006-07-27 04:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you and your boyfriend have to live in the same house as her, I would just be polite when you meet her, that way your not doing anything that she could use against you, as for why they act this way, sorry I can`t help you with the answer, they( the mother-in-law) have been the same since time began, unless you have a good one, I am not saying every M.I.L. is the same. I am sure its just a few that spoil it for the rest. Just remember your with your partner not his mother.
2006-07-27 04:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by madge 51 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just accept her bad attitude because you will never change her, she can only change herself. Just try to have a GREAT time at his family functions, there must be someone in his family other than him that you like. Don't let her see that it bothers you. Try to put it out of your mind because I think she is doing this to you purposely. You are in her son's life, not her's. Keep the time you share with her to a minimum.
2006-07-27 04:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Its Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite She wants you to feel that way cause you have her baby and no girl is good enough. You might try talking to her
she might feel intimidated by you, because you r with her son
and have been dating for 3 yrs, and maybe just maybe she don't want to see her son get hurt. You should give her a hug when U see her to soften things up & also it would throw her off .
Good luck!
2006-07-27 04:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by REDROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the guy...or at least DO NOT MARRY him unless he has the guts to tell his Mom not to treat you like you don't exist. She will never be you...because you have sex with him...and you will never be her, because you didn't give birth to him...It's them who have a problem...not you....trust me...I've been there. If he loves you he will make sure to straighten this out, but tell him just the way you are telling us, that it's really affecting you. If both of them were sure about each other's love...an unconditional love...they wouldn't let someone suffer like this.
2006-07-27 04:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should question is your bf behavior. What is he saying or not saying to his mom to have her act this way to you? He should be the one confronting his mother and defending you. You need to take a step back from the situation and stop considering them your in-laws and distance yourself from the kids because you are just deluding yourself. You should take his mother's coldness as a warning sign.
2006-07-27 04:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun just deal with it. i mean seriously. its tough and if you two do "tie the knot" you wont be able to change it then either. maybe she would sit up and take notice if engagement does come into picture though. it sounds like he was in a divorce or something before and that's why she doesnt want to "latch on" or some crap like that. inlaws can be strange and there are people that are worse.
2006-07-27 04:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really not part of the familial group until a commitment is made. You and she must come to an agreement on how you stand.
2006-07-27 04:00:55 · answer #11 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋