what the hell? someone give advice on how to explain to my mom that this is the lifestyle i choose
2006-07-26 20:38:51 · 36 answers · asked by NONAME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her you were just having a wrestling match.
2006-07-26 20:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 2⤋
Just tell her that you lifestyle isn't is something that can't be changed. She is your mother and she should love you no matter what even if she doesn't agree with it. And people need to wake up and get a life, it might be wrong to be having sex in your parents house but HELLLLLO isn't it better than having sex on the street. Stop tripping out on this poor girl. As a mother of 2 boys if i ever walked in on my son doing his thing with another person M or F, yea it would be horrifying and i might not even agree w / it but they are my kids and i love them. Besides that there is always a respectful thing called knocking. And just because you got caught does not make you a hoe so just ignore that rude comment below bc you know what, just about EVERYONE has had sex in their parents house.
2006-07-26 20:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she caught you in the act then she already knows. Sit down with her and explain that you have feelings for women that you just don't have for men. Let her know how long it has been going on so she doesn't think your just going through a phase or that it's something you just thought up. Depending on her religious and moral views she may or may not accept it. Be honest with her and try to keep the conversation to a minimum. Give her time to adjust and process this new information because she may not be readily acceptable with it. She will come around but don't expect it to be right away.
2006-07-26 20:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be concerned that you are having a sexual identity crisis and are confused. In all honesty, not knowing your age, that may well be the case. Youth tend to believe that they "know all the answers" and "have it all figured out" but time will show you, as it does everyone, that not only do we not know the answers early on....we really don't even understand the questions! Not just you, but me and everyone else on the planet.
My advice to you is this....Stay in the closet about this! It indeed may be a time of experimentation for you and you may, or may not, change your mind about this. Don't paint a label on yourself that you can't erase easily and keep your options open for now. Tell your mom that it was just experimentation and that you are over it now, even if you are not. And respect her enouigh not to be doing things in her house that she doesn't approve of....after all you are under her roof only because she allows it!
2006-07-26 20:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit down with your mom and tell her that you are with who you want to be with and that you love her and would like her support in whatever lifestyle you choose and explain to her that as long as you are happy you hope that she would be happy for you and embrace your alternative lifestyle.
2006-07-26 20:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by ltexasfootballer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this stuff happens be safe. Use protection this is probably her biggest worry. And unfortunately its embarrassing but if you feel you are old enough to share these experiences with a girl maybe you should at least respect your mom and not do this in her house. OR be really sneaky!!!!! He He.
2006-07-26 20:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are NOT allowed to say that you "choose" this lifestyle. Didn't you get the handbook? The ah..."So you think you are Gay" pamphlet? I can't believe there has been such an oversight!!!
2006-07-26 20:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EWW! You're poor MOM!
Put yourself in her place, you raise a daughter to be good and pure and than 15? years later find her going at, goind down on another girl no less, it in your own house?!!
What happened to waiting till marriage?
What part of Thou shall not don't we get?
There's no way to EXPLAIN your way out of what she saw. You know it's wrong and she must be mortified she lost her little girl.
2006-07-26 20:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by duuh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't give an explaination I would just get a better Lock
2006-07-26 20:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is there to explain? Just tell her that is your lifestyle. As if she hasn't figured that out already.... And if she doesn't accept it, well, give her time.
2006-07-26 20:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't have to explain much to her as she's already seen it with her own eyes. Just tell her to be happy for you AND THE CHOICES you make. Or, even is she's not happy, that she respects those decisions.
2006-07-26 20:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋