DNA would you test?

Question

If you thought that your (step children ) where not your mans would have them tested even if he did not want to do it? Would you buy a home kit? If their were 4 but you thought that only two were not would you do all or only the two???

Answer 1

Being a child's parent is more than just biological DNA. If he loves the children finding out they are not biologically his will only hurt him, and the children. Let him love his children - if he had any dispute/doubt/concern he would step up and ask for a test. If not let it be, its his choice.

Answer 2

Have you thought that perhaps he really loves those children and it might break his heart to know they're not his? Whether they're his or not, thats his decision to make. Obviously he feels that this is the best way and that is why he is not pursuing the dna testing. I understand that child support can be very expensive and all, but maybe to your husband thats ok and he'll deal with it. Is the alternative for these kids a father who isn't going to be around? Think about what they deserve as well. I don't know what the other guy or guys that might be the father are like, but if your husband is pretty gun-hoe on not having a dna test then maybe that's for the better for the kids that they get to thave HIM rather than someone who isn't going to pay or give a damn. Maybe I'm totally off on what your situation is like here, but I think you should think about all aspects of it, including EVERYONES well being.

Answer 3

A parent is the one who brings a child or children up with unconditional love, what you have to ask yourself is, would your man thank you if you did go ahead with the test, surely if you have doubts, do`nt you think he would have had them, (he has known them longer than you have)and if he had wanted to find out, the test would have been done then. Like I said at the beginning of this answer you do not have to be the biological father of a child/children to love them. You do`nt say if your a parent, put yourself in your mans shoes how would you feel if what your suggesting happened.

Answer 4

I wouldn't do any of them. Especially since he doesn't want to know. They are his children either way, even if not biologically. It would cause more problems for everyone, and so much confusion and even possible lifetime trauma to the children, not to mention the hurt it might cause your husband if they aren't biologically his. Don't stir things up. Life is hard enough as it is. I'm afraid you'd regret doing it.

Answer 5

wow. i would not test any of them. and how accurate could a DNA home-test be anyway? i did not know such a thing existed.
but anyway, they are not your children, they are your mans. if he does not doubt that they are his, then let it go. the only person who should be concerned with their paternity is your man. nobody else.

Answer 6

i wouldn't do any tests - family is about so much more than genetics. If he wants them around, and he loves his kids, as any father should, then their DNA doesn't matter.

they're his kids - you go and try to get them tested, and you'll lose everything, no matter what the tests come back saying.

Answer 7

Well...you can buy home kit...to make it fair for all of them...do it to the 4...

And you have to tell your husband too...

Answer 8

I dont think that is really any of your business, even though you are married. That was his relationship before you and so therefore that would be his problem not yours and besides the kids know him as dad and he knows them as his then just leave it alone.

Answer 9

Maybe he loves them anyway. So tell him, or stay out of this.

Answer 10

id just go on and do what ever is needed....