What does it feel like to loose your job cause your gay?

Question

DADTDPDH is a ban on lesbians, gays and bisexuals serving in the military – similar to the policies banning service that have been in place for the past fifty years. DADTDPDH is the only law in the land that authorizes the firing of an American for being gay. There is no other federal, state, or local law like it. Indeed, DADTDPDH is the only law that punishes gays, lesbians, and bisexuals for coming out. Many Americans view DADTDPDH as a benign gentlemen’s agreement with discretion as the key to job security. That is simply not the case. An honest statement of one’s sexual orientation to anyone, anywhere, anytime may lead to being fired.

Answer 1

thats feels liek being spit on.
thats too bad..
:(

Answer 2

Nobody gets discharged for being gay. They get discharged for stating an intent to or showing a propensity to engage in homosexual behavior. Now I know that sounds like merely a semantic distinction; but let me explain.
The military is all about discipline and obedience. One order with which all military members are required to comply is "Don't ask, don't tell." People who violate this should be discharged not because they came out; but rather because by coming out, they displayed their belief that their own personal choices in their lives outweigh in importance good order and military discipline. When someone (straight or gay) shows that they care more about themselves than their unit, that person also shows that they have no place any longer within the unit.
If and when that order changes, it will be a different story. However, for now, if you can't obey orders, you don't belong here.

Answer 3

Let me tell you something, friend. You need not feel bad just because you're rejected for being one... Ok? I can tell you that all laws state that prejudism ought to be put aside when dealing with employment or any other human rights.
My country Malaysia (a Muslim country) doesn't care if you're gay or what. (Muslims are punishable by law if they're found out to practice any form of homosexuality, anyway). The thing that matters is that you can serve well in the specific field/company itself. Any specific prejudism can be brought up to court.

Answer 4

i be attentive to the sensation. no longer thoroughly, yet I do. My mom is white, and my father is black. I got here from a small city someplace between bum f*cked and to procure a purdy mouf. Interracial couples have been avoided, and their offsrping(me) exchange into dealt with like the spawn of devil. I went to the vital with my mom and dad and had a sit down on the harassment. At this factor, this is no longer approximately being a snitch or something. What they're doing is illegitimate, and somebody's eyes could be opened. You do the talking, merely have your 'rents there for ethical help. If the college take no steps in scuffling with this habit, them PLEASE evaluate submitting with the college board. If that would not artwork, attempt to get PFLAG in contact. If that would not artwork, think of a pair of lawsuit. i be attentive to an excellent one that helped me in my case. have been given an excellent contract too ;) good success kiddo, and shop your head up. it will all be over with quickly sufficient. then you definately get out of that podunk city and make some thing of your self. verify you serve all of them Haterade once you go away too.

Answer 5

I almost was fired from a job in '85 for stating my asst. manager was gay. He was one of my best friends. He got me a job where he worked. This little high school girl kept following him around, and flirted, and asked him out, and my buddy would talk after work about how he was sick of it.

One day I just told her to leave him alone......he's gay......he don't want you!

The next day, the manager pulled me into her office. She berated me for being a liar. She threatened a lawsuit and firing for MY buddie's defamation of character.

I had this friend for a while. I grew up without the real knowledge of being "closeted"! I had no idea of the small-mindedness of people.

It is 20 years later and America has gotten no further. Except to say, "okay you might be, but we don't want to know!" 20 years ago it was.."NO you are not!"

Answer 6

Exactly. Don't Ask and Don't Tell. Period. Technically, your personal life is not any of your co-workers or employers' business. However, if your personal life will affect the life of the company...then yes, it's only right they terminate those they feel will negatively affect the company. They have that right.

For the sake of argument: Regardless of sexuality...if a person is a drug addict and/or an alcoholic...it is the person's right to do so as he wishes, but because it will affect his work in a negative way, he needs to be dismissed.

People see homosexuality similar to that of the addict or alcoholic. Their sexuality will be a negative impact on the company...

Again, don't ask and don't tell. It isn't other people's business!

Answer 7

Umm...I am sure this must HURT the person. I am not against them or for them. What I mean is I don't believe in condoning them for their lifestyle....but I do believe in loving one another even your enemies as Jesus said....I just don't love the lifestyle or their choice in living this way but I still care about you people because I do see alot of hurts and it does hurt me. All I can do is leave it to God....

I am sure your next thought is it isn't fair though....You're right it isn't fair. Life doesn't seem fair...But things do happen for a reason...I believe that God plays a big part of this.

I am sorry you or whomever this refers to....what you are going through...but if the company writes down thier eligibilty to applying for the job...it is their right unfortunely. If they hadn't wrote that down...THEN, I would say it would be wrong they would hire someone who they didn't know was gay and then to find out their personal choices, all of a sudden changes their mind about keeping him/her employed. The statement is a"protected" statement for their(companies) protections in having the comfortable, non-hostile environment for thier other worker's rights, the companies do need to adhere other worker's concerns and their comfort zones...as well as their decisions in making the job environment a comfort zone.

I hope this makes sense...It is hard to describe things in words...when you want to passionaly try to express your words in a way that you would hope they would understand you the same way. People differ in their thoughts on this kind of situations...and this has to be the most sensitive situation of all times in our todays world.

Many Blessings....

Answer 8

I don't know as I am not gay.
I do know what it is like to be fully qualifed, and not getting a job because I was white, and a government funded agency whas not diverse enough at the time. People get fired, or do not get hired for all sorts of wrong reasons. You are not a lone victim.

Answer 9

Sadly, many state and local laws do not protect people from being fired, evicted or other things because they are gay. Truly sad in this day and time that we are not more tolerant.

And "amfound", please get your head out of your butt. Who would choose a life of persecution by people like you??!!?? People are born gay-it's not a choice. Did you choose to be hetero or did you just get converted to "normal"? Idiot.

Answer 10

I'm not trying to be mean, but I still believe gays should not be in the military...or at least that no one known to be gay should be allowed to be in. The reason I've given before in this forum...it creates morale problems. Women should relate to this. How many women would want to share a barracks, room, dorm, with a person of the opposite sex? How about taking a shower? If the majority of men are straight in the military, do you think they should have their privacy infringed on by someone who is gay? Again, I'm not trying to be insulting, just giving my honest opinion, and my personal opinion is that homosexuality is disgusting. I don't want to live with a homosexual and my guess is the majority of men in the military don't either. Now you have a right to have whatever kind of relationship you want, and i would never interfere with that right nor would I be rude to you because of your lifestyle, but don't expect me to accept it as normal...and don't attempt to force me to associate with you. Not that I wouldn't...I just think people have a right to be able to avoid homosexuals where they live, especially in close quarters such as the military.

Answer 11

Well grow up and start being normal instead of a pervert. If you really value your job do what needs doing to save it,
BE NORMAL. At the end of the day it is your choice!