Please guide me how could i do his upbringing without letting him feel that he didnt have his MOM with him?
2006-07-26 19:29:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Thanx every one i really appriciate the love and support you have rendered for my son, He is so lucky to have so many Uncles and Aunts.
2006-07-27 00:01:17 · update #1
Cool. You are what i call a Great Dad.
Your son, he is about the same age as my daughter.
He is about to enter the terrible two's. He is going to mock your every word, so be careful of what you say.
He is learning so much right now.
But as far as his mom. well you can only give him reassurance that you are there and always will be and love him and guide him from right & wrong. Thats what us parents do.Love,Learn, Teach, guide and Pray on the best outcome.
Good Luck!
2006-07-26 19:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by scorpiochick668 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have such a big job ahead of you, but if you've already gotten through the last year and a half you have done well. Don't be scared to ask for help! Burning yourself out won't help either of you. Just be loving, caring and understanding with your child, as you are being both dad and mom to him. Make sure, though, that he's around women (and not just your girlfriends) - your mom, the baby's other grandma, aunts, neighbours, because a baby needs a woman's influence since it's so different than a man's. Read a lot, talk to your doctor, and others who have babies. You don't say the circumstance of why there is no mom in the picture, but just don't be negative about it to him when he's old enough to start understanding. He will be secure in your love.
2006-07-27 03:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not an easy task, I have been there with a little one that age. he will probably be under some stress for a while. he might call other women that are your friends mama. my son did that after his dad left to my friend's husband for a few months. I also have a 15 month old that is going through separation anxiety right now, and he doesn't have anything like that going on.
try and set a routine right away. something he can depend on. he will need that stability right now. most of all he will need you. make sure for a few months that you are there as much as possible. this will hope you both to adjust to this big change in your lives. you both need each other. some toddler start to go through separation anxiety right now also no matter what is going on in their world. If he has to go to daycare, pick one that has a set routine for them during the day. at home. make sure that you guys have something special you do every day. you both will start to look forward to it. I am sorry to hear about this change for you. I hope things work out for the best. don't forget to give each other lots of hugs.
blessed be.
2006-07-26 19:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so young to be a single parent of a toddler; my heart goes out to you.
As he grows older and starts asking about her, tell him about the positive things about her and what made you fall in love with her and this holds true whether she has passed away or runaway.
If she has passed away you can tell him that she is up in Heaven and always looking down, watching over him, and would have loved to have been there for him and would proud of him. If she has runaway, you can tell him that she is missing out on what a wonderful boy he is but that she just has a lot of problems and she should have been more responsible, but it is not his fault and there has nothing he has done wrong and that you will always be there for him.
If you do not already have a strong female support group in place (female relatives and friends) there are numerous organizations and churches that have singles/divorced/widowed parents groups to meet other parent in your situation. The people who love you and who you love make up your family, not necessarilly who you are connected to genetically.
Good luck and God Bless,
2006-07-26 19:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the best dad you can possibly be. At 18 months, he will likely not remember much about his mom. Hopefully, you have trustworthy and loving females in your family who can give him love and attention on a regular basis. With care and hard work, he will grow up feeling loved and valuable even without a mom.
2006-07-26 19:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold it when it cries dont worry about spoiling yet. read bedtime stories. sing songs. im sure its hard to be both mother and father but single mothers do it all the time and some do a pretty good job. read books that give advise for people in your situation. ask your mom for advice too or sisters or female friens.
2006-07-26 19:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him, just love him. And if you ever find a right woman, by all means, get married. Being a complete family again will help. Talking from the firsthand experience.
2006-07-26 21:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it isn't going to be easy. Just love him and give him as much attention as you can. Nothing can replace a mother's love. If you have close female friends or female family members have them spend time with him.
2006-07-26 19:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,never ,never mom love can not replace with anything,but then too,love him as much as u can ,behave like a frind in futur,never shout at him ,why dont u do another marriagee,to give him moms love
2006-07-26 19:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by abi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it better to have one somebody to care 4 him then no 1
2006-07-26 19:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋