I have been chat friends with a man for several months and I traveled a long way to meet him, and now he is acting all weird, even though he knew what I looked like from pics, and knew what my personality was like from our conversations.
2006-07-26 19:14:42 · 14 answers · asked by Rhiannon 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, I didnt meet him in a wedding dress. My pics were up to date and really me. It was his idea to meet me. We have been like best friends and talking EVERYDAY for 6mos. I am NOT a stalker... Geesh
2006-07-26 19:49:59 · update #1
i have made friends in 'real life' with many people i first met online. all of them have always been exactly who they claimed to be.
you don't say how this man 'freaked out', or what sort of 'acting all weird' he is up to.
i don't know you - so i don't know what you would have expected.
i don't know him - so i don't know what he expected either.
why not invite him onto this thread to give his side of the story?
2006-07-26 22:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by synopsis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He freeks only because he is not honest with you, probably has someone at home with kids, and can't handle the situation. He probably thinks you won't like him.
Why would you endanger yourself to meet with a stranger? He could also be trying to figure a way to do stuff to you and get away with it.
Use some good sense here. The nicest sounding and best looking guys just might be the most dangerous.
Are you willing to ask someone if this is so? If you do, How are you going to know truth from lies.
Get his drivers license number and have it run for criminal activities and a credit check. If he won't go for that, then enjoy the tiger and don't complain about the game.
2006-07-27 04:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by beans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you go meet him in a wedding dress?
How close to the real thing would you say the pictures really are (don’t lie now)?
Maybe he thinks you are a freak-stalker for actually going all that way to meet him. Besides, he talked to you through the internet because he liked the distance…
2006-07-27 02:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by gf17gr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, because he was fooling himself. There are so many nuances that are present when we meet in person, that people who aren't realistic might not think are important. I'm guessing there's something either physical or in your eagerness and excitement that has his undies in a bunch.
The other thing that might be happening is that he can be all calm and cool on line (hiding behind a keyboard is NOT "real life") While he might be presenting someone you like on line, he knows that's not who he really is. He might just be really frightened by the reality of your presence.
Sometimes it works out, these on line romances, other times it doesn't. I hope you're staying at a hotel and can spend your time enjoying sight seeing on your own.
You simply got carried away by a keyboard Lothario. Time to move on to your next adventure.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 03:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Polly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men see you as something they want you to be. They might see your picture, but they still put a mental image in their head. If you are not anywhere close to that mental image, they may react weird.
Men also might see you differently by the way you talk or act in front of them. There again, it goes back to a mental image they put in their head.
Give him time to get used to you. If he doesn't come around after a while, it wasn't meant to be.
The only other thing you can do is just ask him straight out what is wrong.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 08:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Troubled1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the subject of your chats were, but if they centered on sex he probably expected you to DO him. You don't say HOW he's "acting all weird" but it might also be the opposite situation ... he's shy! You can be a different person online and much more confident than face-to-face. It will probably all become apparent soon. Good luck.
2006-07-27 02:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by acleverguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some men who spend a lot of time on the net, may be very shy or have poor social skills in "real" life.
Why not ask him if he can cope with a "real" woman!
2006-07-27 06:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by catrin l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybes hes nervous, Shocked, or surprised that someone from the jungle we call the Internet is actually honest
2006-07-27 02:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by x_cybernet_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't really know your personality until you talked to him live..and maybe he just doesn't like you no more!
2006-07-27 02:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, maybe he's just nervous about what you think of him. Probably has nothing to do with you.
2006-07-27 02:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Babber420 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋