Girls what would you do? And guys how would you react?

Question

Ok, I've asked this question before, but I didn't have the guts to include details........I'm seeing a guy and I'm fallin in love with him, but I'm scared that he will reject me because....Recently I had a breast reduction surgery, due to health conditions, I mean it wasn't serious, but I had to do it.......And I have cellulite, and I also have a skin problem called pigmentation (toes, bikini line, those parts are more affected, they're very dark), I mean this isn't contagious or anything.....What should I do? I really want to tell him how I really feel about him, but I'm so scared he will reject me.......I really care about this guy, I really do.....I don't want to lose him cause of my body! Should I tell him about all this after? and tell him that I didn't mention any of it cause I didn't want to lose him? What should I do? I mean I don't want to even imagine losing him :( Please DON'T say anything mean, but please be honest.....what should I do?? PLEASE HELP!!! :(

Answer 1

I hate guys. (Although i'm straight lol) And yes, many are very very shallow. But the things you described honestly don't sound like much. Not to say of course that you shouldn't be complaining, because everyone has issues with their looks and that's understandable. But I'm just tryign to say I'm sure what looks absolutely horrible to you, isn't quite so bad to others. I had the biggest nose in the world, and I used to get made fun of all the time, I had a nosejob, and not that many people noticed. It just wasn't that big of a deal. So I wouldn't worry too much.

I'd say go for it. Because if this guy is great and awesome and worth you falling in love with, then you should give it a shot. If he rejects you, screw him! He's a shallow jerk that can't look look past a few flaws despite your amazing personality.
But you'll never know whether he cares or not if you don't give it a shot right?
And wouldn't it kill you more to wonder what might've happened if you had tried?

So go for it.

Answer 2

Most women don't have big boobs and most have cellulite. So, there is no reason to worry about either of those. If he doesn't like you just because you have a skin condition then he isn't someone you want to be with.

Go ahead and let him know how you feel. Since he's dating you already there really isn't a need to worry about him having a problem with your appearance. Guys typically don't date girls if there isn't an attraction. So, just go for it.

Even if he doesn't share the same falling in love feelings now, don't worry about it. I fell in love with my boyfriend and told him I loved him before he was ready to return the love word. I let him wait till he was ready instead of getting upset.

btw, I have a huge scar going down the front of my chest from heart surgery. It's never caused a problem with guys even though it's easy to see unless I wear a high cut shirt. Some will just ask where it is from and I'll tell them. I also have stretch marks from being really fat as a child...we all have our little imperfections, no big deal.

Answer 3

I've had to have a lot of surgeries in my life so I have a lot more scars that the "normal" person....most of them are between my boobs and my hips so they can't be seen while clothed. I've really struggled with guys cause I always figure they are going to FREAK when they see all of the scars because I don't have a "perfect body".

You know what....not one of them cared at all. I was involved in some very long term committed relationships and the men I was with loved ME for who I was....not what I looked like. One of them even kissed every scar I had from one end to the other and said that he loved all the scars cause they were part of what made me so special...I cried for an hour cause he was so sweet!

If the guy is really interested in YOU he won't care about those little things either honey.

Answer 4

Sweet Pea.. I must tell you this.. The things that bother you about yourself won't necessarily bother someone else.. I was born with birth defects and I have health conditions that really bring me down, but I found myself the most handsome, most wonderful caring man in the world. He doesn't emphasize my flaws in any way shape or form and he loves me for me. " every woman" has or gets cellulite. You sound like a beautiful and caring person. I think its best to go into a friendship or relationship through the process of discovery.. Those things that you see as flaws, he might not see at all..

Answer 5

Okay, if this guy really likes you then different pigmentation is not a big deal at all. Chances are probably very good that you will have a bigger problem with it then he EVER will.
Sure, if you want to tell him you were really insecure about it later down the line, it's fine, but why bother?
Don't pass up something you really want based on insecurities for cryin out loud! You only have one chance at life.

Answer 6

First you need not apologize for not telling him about your body. Honestly it's none of his business. Second, life is about taking risks and yea sometimes those risks will be rewarded and other times they won't. But that's life, every now and then you have to take a leap of faith. Third, suck it up and take that leap of faith and tell him how you feel, if he rejects you just pick yourself up and move on.....but what if he feels the same for you? Then you could possibly have a wonderful relationship.......and as far as your body, don't use that as a crutch for not living, enjoy your life and don't worry about what others think, after all if he really, truly likes you, then he will accept you as you are, if not you are really better off w/out him.

Answer 7

I think it is always important to let someone know things like that before. I think he would be upset with you if you didn't tell him. You want him to want you for who you really are and nothing else short of that. If he truly loves you everything will work out. You don't want to be in a relationship feeling uncomfortable, do you? I'm sure you don't. How would you feel not telling him and later he found out and stop trusting and liking you. Good luck and take care.

Answer 8

Girl you are not handicappped and you seem rather smart, I think that the problems that you are talking about are really minor and that they should not matter that much to him,
I know it is a big deal to tell him what you feel but you know what if you really like the guy its worth the try and if ever he rejects you for those minor if not irrelevant issues that you say you have, he is not only unworthy f your love but also of your friendship, who needs a friend like this if he is enough of a jerk to reject you for that

Answer 9

If he loves u, he'll understand. If u really feel that strongly about him, then go right ahead and tell him, just use ur judgment. If he seems uncomfortable during the talk, then don't go on any farther unless u think it's ok. Tell him the whole truth, though. Don't lie about anything. Make sure of that, caz if u do, it can turn ugly. I hope I helped, and Good Luck!! :)

Answer 10

ok girl you need to calm down
if he loves you he won't care what you look like
everybody has something wrong with them
no body is perfect
if you two both have a good time together and are mad about each other
then tell him you love him
see how he reacts
you should probably tell him about your conditions a couple of weeks before you tell him you love him
if you tell him right before you tell him you love him he might think that what you said was to get him to feel bad for you
take it easy
you are not going anywhere right?
and if he really cared about you boobs he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like them
GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

If the guy really loves you he will accept you for who you are. Would you really want to be with a guy who didn't? He doesn't need to know right away.. But before things start getting heated i think you should tell him, so there are no surprises.. Nothing like ruining a moment by trying to explain why your body is the way it is..