Has anyone ever felt like just not waking up one day? I do not mean suicide!?

Question

Just plain unhappy due to major changes in your life? Not feeling like you are accepted(not feeling sorry for yourself!) Everything seems negative no matter how hard I try to pray for peace and happpiness. I always try to think of others and what I can do to make their lives better. I lost my way in caring for myself! Always tired and find it difficult to communicate with anyone outside of work. My confidence is falling and I hardly make eye contact with new people(in public). I am 41 years old, 5'2", 118lbs,long curly brown hair and blue eyes-People tell me how attractive I am but I just cannot believe it. even though I have been working out since I was 17yrs old. Please no catty responses! I am serious and very concerned!

Thanks so much for all the kind words of support! I would never commit suicide-just feel like not being in the world. I had a hysterectomy when I was 35 yrs old so menopause has came and gone. Antideppresants make me feel weirded out too! I have had had 3 surgeries and 3 other hospitilazations since Dec 2005. Also double S curve scoliosis. It's the contant pain that is making me "crazy". I have not been able to exercise because of all the problems. Gosh-I need endorphins! Thank you to everyone who responded-it was awesome to see so many responses so quickly- The support and advice filled my heart-truly! I can never express just how much. You all made me smile and that feels so good!

Answer 1

There are many people out there who have multiple physical as well as emotional problems. Much as you have expressed (in your question and your profile). Somehow, they find the energy and interest to reach out and help others..Helps to keep their mind off themselves. Perhaps it would benefit you to be in touch with some of them. To find out how they cope with life and pain at the same time, and still have the energy to reach out to others. I will make the arrangements for you if you feel that may be a direction for you to follow/

Answer 2

I understand. I felt that way for a few years. I didn't want to get out of bed and deal with anyone or anything. It was not suicidal, just avoidance.

I recommend reading or listening to the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I'm not into self-help marketing, and at first I though this was just selling common sense. This concept is more like changing your perspective than changing your life (although the one usually affects the other). You have built up walls around you and you need to see through them.

I preferred the audio book instead of the book itself because I could listen to it in my car on the way to work.

Also, you should see a doctor and make sure this is not being caused by hormonal changes (they happen at every stage of a women's life).

I still have days where I feel that way on occasion but I try to remember that if I have a pillow under my head, I am more fortunate than over 60% of the world's population. I do the best I can everyday and that is more than most people do each day.

Prayer helps keep you focused but remember that God helps those that help themselves.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

It sounds like you may be going through some sort of bout with depression. I have been there myself. Sometimes the changes in ones life can be very unpleasant, and we are unable to adjust to them.

Sometimes our feelings affect our perception, and no matter what we look at, we have negative thoughts about it, and the things we say seem negative.

You need to stop, and take a long look at your life over the course of time, and try to figure out what is causing your unhappiness. You also need to realize that before you can take care of others, you need to take care of yourself. I have been there as well, putting others before myself, but after a while, if you do not set aside the time you need for YOU, you end up crashing and burning.

Look over the entire span of your life and try to figure out where the unhappiness started, and when you find at which point it originated, try to find out why. Could it be that you simply need to get away for a while; a change of scenery?

Also bear in mind that some people natually suffer from an imbalance in certain chemicals in the brain which can bring about depression. You might also want to consider seeing a doctor. I was on Lexapro for a few months (not suggesting this is what you should do since every case is different).

I hope this helps you.

Answer 4

If you feel it chances are some one else feels the same way at some point in their lives. I think in times like this we tend to isolate ourselves from the world and people around us, it is an ugly circle. Just know that no matter how confident or secure others may seem no one is exempt from insecurities, doubt and lack of confidence, especially in times of change. I mention this because we are human and we compare ourselves to others around us and it some what dictates our self perception. I'm not gonna tell you tomorrow is gonna be a bright joyous day, you may just be in a slump and it will take time to adjust. Do you have a good friend you can talk to? You should seriously consider talking to someone!You should see a physician to eliminate medical problems(menopause) In the mean time ask yourself "what's going on". "Can I do anything about it? If so do it, if not accept it and move on as best you can. Hang in there and be patient with yourself. Take care.

Answer 5

Apparently "the better it gets, the better it gets", and "the worse it gets, the worse it gets".
Negative thoughts can spiral into a mood or even a depression lasting for days.. but it all seems to stem from a thought.

Yes, you have noted that your beliefs about yourself don't necessarily match reality (others note you are attractive etc., even though you don't believe it).

Changing beliefs can be hard work, but really just involves practicing a new thought over and over, until it is accepted by you.

One practice I find very helpful, and others have used it too, is to write down on a daily basis what IS working for you.. sort of like a gratitude diary.. say about 5 things. This will train your mind in looking for what is RIGHT with you, instead of what is WRONG (your current habit).. :-)

Answer 6

Yes, that has been me for about a year now. I'm slowly but surely getting to the point I can almost stand to talk to people, sometimes my own family presents a challenge. Not because of who they are, I just don't feel like calling or visiting. I've been taken off my old meds, and started on new ones. I'm also in therapy. It's helping, but I'm not there yet. Don't give up, get help. You will probably need meds, but counseling is the key. Learning how to live your life better, and to get self esteem and things of that nature. I'm glad to hear that you pray. God will be your strongest ally, but the tools he'll give you are those I just mentioned. If you don't have insurance, there are programs out there that will help you get your meds, and get therapy free until you get to a place where you can pay for yourself (like insurance). I know because, by trade I'm a nurse and used to making good money and having insurance. Now, because of my mental issues, I've not worked in almost a year. Currently I'm a lot better and looking for work. This time I'm supposed to start with a part time job, and one with little stress. So far no luck, but I'm sure there'll be something for me if God's willing. Good luck to you. Hope this helps! Oh, and don't discount the fact that satan probably has his hand in it. Try to read your Bible daily, even if it's only one or two verses. That helps too, even when I don't even really understand what I'm reading. That's part of putting on our armor that's talked about in the Bible.

Answer 7

I feel the same exact way most of the time, and im only 16. But i guess u just gotta think about all the ppl the love u and care for u. I wouldent have made it without them. U cant fix everyones life, i always tried to help others and it drove me crazy, becuz either they just took advantage of it. And their is some that dont. But u should also think about making ur life better, u cant help everyone. But u can sure help urself. Sorry if its not the best advice, hope things get better .

Answer 8

Don't let the stress or anxiety get you down. I recently lost both of my parents, had to sell the house in which i grew up in, I left my husband ( he's weird anyway) and all my belongings from my parents home. I wonder everyday, why, I have spent the last two years not wanting to get out of bed for ANY reason. Not do anything, but look around and take time to smell the roses, because they do smell real nice when we take the time..... things will come together for you. I might not seem like now, but they will in good time...... If you want to talk more my e-mail is [e-mail] we can write and maybe it will help the both of us and/or someone else
Take it Easy & EGBOK
Thank you for taking the time to read my comments........

Answer 9

Are you recently divorced? You situation sounds alot like what my mom went through when she divorced my dad. She stayed in bed for days at a time until she FINALLY decided to go to a therpist. She's been seeing a therapist for about 5 years now and is taking small doses of anti depressants and is doing SOOO much better now. Maybe you could look into taking the same steps she did.. Good luck!

Answer 10

Hello:

It sounds as though you may have the beginning symptoms of perimenopause. Perhaps you can do some reading on it. This is how many women feel at 41 or 42 years of age.

Please see a physician. It is most likely chemically based. Don't let it get the best of you. You do sometimes feel suicidal. I have been told this by many women.