im 13 years old but i cant convince my parents to let me dye my hair!?

Question

i mean its not gona be any crazy colours. the oly reason i cant get it dyes is simply because thay said this "your too young"
my dad lets me dye it but my stuborn mom wont. what should i say to her?
and "but im grown up or it my hair just wont cut it out for her)

in san francisco alot of people younger than me dye thier hair.
and im gona do it myself?
what is the reason why i should do it without my parents knowing.

my mom is very bad at understandign i may give her perfectly good reasons but the answer will still be no.
maybe ishould just give up. TTTT_TTT
(my moms the kind of person who makes you cry then tells you to shut up.)

Answer 1

A LOT OF GIRLS DON'T KNOW THIS BUT YOUR HAIR GOES GRAY A LOT SOONER----MINE IS ALMOST WHITE----DON'T START

AB

Answer 2

I would have to ask you two questions: 1. Why do you want to dye your hair in the first place? 2. Do you want to dye your hair because everyone else at school, or your friends are dying their hair? As a parent myself, I would want my child to go with their natural color, there is no need to color something that is already the best. Second, I am one who very much dislikes the idea of following the crowd, it just seems like a bad reason to do anything. Third, I believe your mom is just looking out for what is best for you. There is a lot of evidance that suggests hair dye damages hair. I am sure hair salon places say the opposite, but they only benifit from you dying your hair. Once the first dye does the initial damage, they you have to come back again and again to re-dye to cover up your damaged hair. I put one reference below, but if you look at "hair dye damage" in a search engine, you will find a lot more.

I would urge you to think about your reasons for wanting to dye your hair. If you have GOOD reasons, calmly express those reasons to your mom. One reason why parents treat their kids like kids is because they act like kids. Weird, huh? It's true. You have to start being more resonsible in your attitude in order for your parents to take you more seriously.

If you do decide to dye your hair with your parents permission, I would then suggest Henna products, because they are basically all natural and reduce the amount of damage done to your hair. Although you can't get all those "day-glo" colors, it is the safest. You can look up the facts on the net yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I have to give your parents "kudos". I know that i'm not 13 and I hope you will read this, but I have to say that it is very rare to find parents in this day and age that are like yours.
I have to agree with your mom.. She knows what its like to be a girl. She wants you to be comfortable in your own skin. I know its cool and its the thing to do, but girls of your age that keep their hair natural (not dyed) end up having the most beautiful hair.. The earlier you start to dye it, the more problems you will have later on down the road.. Wait until your 18. Let your hormones do their thing.. You still have to go through puberty and your body chemistry is going to change. I know that might sound kind of crazy to you now, but your hair and skin is very tender and fragile when your younger. Wait until your 18.. You won't regret it..

Answer 4

Well, I am a hairdresser, and I color a lot of hair (even my own daughter, and she is 12) Moms and their daughters often make a choice together, and I help them by making sure it doesn't turn out an awful color, and that it doesn't cost more than they can afford to keep it up ( you don't want ugly roots when it grows back - that is why semip-permanent is good to start). Maybe start by asking for just a few hilites, they are often an nice easy way to just change it a bit. Offer to work and pay for it yourself. It is an expression of you - and I am sure it is easier to fix than a tattoo or a piercing!! If your mom has any questions, she can email me :)

Answer 5

I agree with some of the other people on here who are saying it's not life or death. I dye my hair a lot, but it's my damaged my hair a lot, and I'm only 17. I think it's a fun thing to do, but it's not really all that big of a deal. People will notice it for a couple days and then no one cares. I wouldn't do it behind your mother's back, because that will only cause her not to trust you. If you really want to try to convince her, ask her what her qualms with hair dying are and then try to educate her on the process, but I would insist that you educate yourself first.

Answer 6

I have to agree with your mom on this one. 13 is too young to start dying your hair. Dye does alot of damage, so if you start dying it now, you are starting out early for damaged hair. I bet when you are 16, she'll let you dye it. Just wait a little longer. It's not a big deal.

Answer 7

Maybe go shopping with your mom and see if it is just a matter of what color/shade you want to color it.

See if there is some compromise to be made (maybe not totally blond, but somewhere between blond and brunette, for example).

Talk to her and find out what her problem with you dyeing your hair is. My parents didn't like me to part my hair in the middle because it showed my bald spot (at about 13 years old!)

Maybe she is just looking out for you with some bad experience with hair coloring in her own past.

Answer 8

If you start dying it now, you will be sorry when you reach your 30's & 40's, because your hair will be dry and brittle, and you won't be able to do anything to make it look nice. You may not worry about it now, cause it seems like a long time away, but trust me, you need to think about the future!!!!! Been there done that!!

Answer 9

ive only died my hair once, and i was like 12, i died it a lighter blond color, i wanna dye it darker now but i probley wont,

if u mom wont let u then the only way to is to sneak behind her back, u will get in trouble but as long as u get the permenat kind, then it wont come out for a while....

Answer 10

try starting with those wash in/out colors that are only temporary. have your mom go with you and select a color together so she feels like she's a part of it. above all, communicate and figure out what, exactly, she's against and go from there (in a calm, mature manner of course). good luck, hun! oh, something i did when i was younger: i used black cherry kool-aid on my brunette hair which doesn't damage it but gives it a bit of dark red.

Answer 11

Listen to your parents . Do you really wanna dye it at 13 wait till you get older