well i only want serious answeres and i would appreciate it if someone read through this and gave me a serious answer..nothing rude. but when i was younger ...say 8-13 (14)..i had a step kuzin who is a year older then me and through those 5 and 6 yrs he was around he would always try to touch me in unapropriate places such as vagina, chest. and he would try to get my to do the same with him..i frequently remeber saying no..but he would kick me and say let me touch you..he even tried to put his hands down my pants. now i know we were both young...so i dunno what that would be called? anything?..i never see him anymore considering he isn't my step kuz anymore.
2006-07-26 17:38:29 · 20 answers · asked by bunty 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
What you've experienced something NOBODY should go through no matter who they are. What you have been through is something that will effect you for years to come if you allow it to.
It's molestation. Rape is generally viewed as sexual.
You need to tell someone in your family because this cousin no matter what age may be continuing these types of actions and you could save another child from this happening to them.
I would suggest also some counseling for yourself to overcome any feelings from the past that may hender your relationship with others.
I personally dealt with the same thing. My cousin did the same to me and it has effected me to this day. I am slowly working through the forgiveness. It's hard but you must forgive.
God Bless and good luck getting through this.
2006-07-26 17:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by okiemom67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Molestation. You are not alone, either. It's sickening how these bastards take advantage of people more vulnerable and younger. The sad thing is, him being young too, he must have picked it up from someone he looked up to or experienced it from someone. But remember, he was older than you and he took advantage of you. It was in no way your fault whatsoever! Know that well! I'm glad you dont see him anymore. If I saw him, I would kick his balls in for you, thank you very much!
Stay strong, woman! You're worth far more than that experience, as you may already know. I think it helps knowing that you are not alone. There are so many young and innocent girls who have gone through this.
Don't let it affect your future relationships because as soon as you think things are ok, the memories start creeping up again after marriage (if that is what you choose to do later on in the future). Talk it out with someone you trust or a councellor. It is better to deal with it now face to face than realizing it later when you are in the admidst of the issue. Forgiveness is a great step that needs to be taken to move forward. It is crucial. You can do it.
Hold your head up and move forward. Be the person you deserve to be!!
You seem like you have good self-confidence. Keep it up!
2006-07-26 17:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by down2earthsmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, according to Webster (and, yes, I looked it up just to make sure) it sounds more like he molested you. By defintion it means to make unwanted sexual passes. Rape said basically the same thing but added harm/threatening to the definition. Overall, I hope it didn't scar you too bad or anything. That stuff happens all the time with horny boys (and I know that doesn't justify anything) but I hope I helped out a little.
2006-07-26 17:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Charles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian examining this I even ought to assert that the bible(Gods word) is amazingly sparkling about why this stuff are taking position. Sexuaul immorality develop into the reason God destroyed Sodom and Gomorra. persons ask your self and ask how can adult males and females persons do this stuff, sturdy they're possessed with suggestions from technique of perverted spirits. A spirit can live interior of a human being and be dormant for yrs yet at any given second with the splendid danger it is going to lash out and attack. The host(rapist) can't even clarify their own strikes afterwards through very reality they have were given no preparation or understanding of possession or evil spirits. i'm convinced there are persons who will disagree with me even if it really is the reality, and maximum persons do no longer favor to receive it, even regulation enforcement. i wish everyone reads this and receives a significantly better concept of what's extremely taking position, we are in a conflict with devil and those are the sorts of acts that he and his fellow fallen angels are committing, they're residing out their lusts by adult males. least confusing the flexibility of God and his love can provide them from those spirits.
2016-11-26 02:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be considered molestation. You said no and he forced you so that was wrong on his part. Often kids who molest other kids have been molested themselves. Tell someone about this, an adult whom you trust, as your step cousin was probably molested also, and if he is not stopped he may be molesting other kids. The chain reaction of abuse needs to be stopped.
2006-07-26 17:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Joni DaNerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did not penetrate you in any manner then it is not rape. I would consider it to be molestation especially because you were coerced, by violence(kicking), into complying with his wishes of letting him touch you in inappropriate places. If what occurred is causing you some emotional problems, I would suggest that you speak to a counselor.
2006-07-26 17:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your cousin did was molesting. Did he do any more then touch you? If you are still thinking about this it was very traumatic for you. Please talk with your parent and let them know. You may need to speak with a counselor. Don't use the excuse you were both young. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!!! HE DID!!!!
2006-07-26 17:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it isn't rape but it would be a form of molestation. considering you were both kids though it's kinda somethingh you should "try" to put behind you. the worst thing about molesters is they will continue to do it. since you were kids he probably was just curious and felt comfortable with you. sorry to hear it though. good luck.
2006-07-26 17:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by jsha2424 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be molestation. Rape is forced sexual intercourse. I am glad to hear that you don't see him anymore. Take care and be strong. Also, if it's something that has been bothering you for quite some time( which is understandable) maybe see about talking to some one about it.
2006-07-26 17:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by fennamason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he never focered you to have sex then it's not rape but on the other hand he did molest you beuces he was touching you and you didn't like it
2006-07-26 17:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by summer d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋