Does it make sense to say that God will let you choose what you wear today, how your hair is styled, which religion you follow, whether you want to go to Heaven or Hell-- but He/She has already picked out your life mate for you and you better just like 'em or lump 'em? Did God command us, "Now go find that drop in the ocean or be lonely forever!"
2006-07-26 17:32:19 · 19 answers · asked by DidoDeeDee 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God doesn't give you cancer. Chemicals and pollutant--s that we made-- give you cancer.
2006-07-26 17:43:41 · update #1
God doesn't give you cancer. Chemicals and pollutants-- that we made-- give you cancer.
2006-07-26 17:44:13 · update #2
Obi-wan Kenobi I notice you did not site a biblical source for this "tradition" you follow as if it were biblical... Could that be because the Bible does not confirm this idea? Could it be because the Bible actually speaks against such foolish ideas by emphasizing our free will in all things?
2006-07-26 17:50:55 · update #3
I know God doesn't give us cancer because he is our parent and loves us. Come on! Would you give your kids cancer?!
2006-07-29 15:20:43 · update #4
I prayed for God's help finding a soulmate. I jumped through all the right hoops & followed all the Heavenly signs and married an abusive alcoholic. I spent eight years getting the crap kicked out of me & waiting for God's redemption because I was convinced that this man was God's choice for my life. Is any of this stupidity God's fault? Is the abuser my destiny? No and NO!
What really happened was that God gave me a decent brain & free will and expected me to use both, but I relied on magical signs & Heavenly interuptions. I made BAD decisions & used bad judgement.
Since then I've watched carefully & I've come to an uncommon conclusion: I believe the "Soulmate" theory is a very wicked idea (NOT BACKED UP BY THE BIBLE) that encourages irresponsibility. I've seen too many people walk away from their kids & decent (but boring) partners because they realized they had "made a mistake."They thought they found their soulmate but decided they had not. Now, how wicked is that?!
2006-07-29 15:45:00 · update #5
God never meddles with any of your choices. Forget choosing a life partner, he doesn't come in your way choosing your parent too. It is your deeds that get responded in the form of destiny. Infact god helps us to come out of this birth/death cycle itself.
Why would God leave his job to run a bureau finding partners for humans only when he has given freedom to all the creatures in this world. Your own past deeds deciding your destiny place you where you are.God can help you to be happy in the given situation, or show you the way out, whatever you wish, with a sincere and humble heart. You get married a dozen times and divorce.Why would he object to your decision. The boon of "Wisdom"bestowed only humans is for this purpose only, to choose between the right & wrong. We need to take the responsibility of our present situation as result of our own deeds.
2006-07-26 18:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly have the free will to choose a person who isn't right for me. I know because I almost did that many times. Now whether or not when I find the person who is right, it means I was somehow guided to the only one on the entire planet who is my true soul mate, or if he is one of many, but I just happened to find that one and not some other one as a result of previous free will choices I made in my life, I really, truly, honestly do not know. God does work in mysterious ways!
2006-07-27 00:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU WANT A LOVING GOD to assign one for you He will. But i dont see the contradiction as others are. Personally in my heart, I belive that if I cry out to God for a soulmate--He is more than able. He will just be preparing one (look at Genesis, the story of Issac and Rebekah). The freewill is in the matter of you being able to REJECT a person He could of given you, just like you can reject His love.
There a famous county song by Rascall Flatts titled "God bless the broken road". Theres a line that says " I wish I could take the time im spent and give it back to you"--he sings this after he finds his mate. If one day you find your soul mate dont you think youll say the same thing??? After all the heartaches, all the time wasted, and all the feelings spent--will it mean much after you find the ONE? If God told you youll have your person in 5 months from now would you still date others? will it even be worth it? Trust me, if you ask He will hear, patience is all it takes.
In the meantime, He may just want you to draw closer to Him. Because that is the GREATEST definer of all other relationships.
p.s listen to Ravi Zacharius' "I Issac take thee Rebekah" for amazing advice
www.rzim.org
2006-07-27 00:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question but I am afraid it is not that simply. Yes, we have freewill, but the universe is still created as it was created.
The reality of the matter is that we can be attracted to many souls, or soul mates. The real question should be, do we have a twin flame? Were we create an Ovid of one female and one male, split apart and sent along our way? This may never be answered but it seems evident to me that there may be many people we feel a variety a level of connection to.
I also do not believe in only one lifetime of existence, so maybe we may be relatively alone in this life but have much family time in another. If there is one thing I have learned is that the universe if full of surprises.
Love and peace be to all who read this. I feel love for you all.
2006-07-27 00:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has given everyman and women a soulmate which compliments them. The person that God has for you is someone that suits your life and calling. It is not somebody that will turn you away, but someone who is your dream mate. You will find your mate in God when you find your assignment and ministry in God. The reason there are so many divorces in the church today is because people are running to find their own mate. God wants to prepare people and remove all the hangs ups, baggage, and issues in their life before He gives them a mate.
2006-07-27 00:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by super saiyan 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What free will? Did you choose your parents, to be a girl, to be pretty or plain, etc, etc - and this applies to everyone equally - so having not chosen a single cell in your wonderful body, how can you now think that you have any choice about anything? "you cannot move a finger lest it be moved for you" - "every hair upon your head is numbered" Jesus is reported to have said these two quotes which kind of rule out any free will.
2006-07-27 00:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by litch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God lets us make our own choices, but I think He / She gives us a push in the right direction. Rather than letting us decide to get involved with a psycho drug - addict, abusive personality, control - freak, someone with emotional issues / too much emotional baggage & someone that we'll be STINKING MISERABLE with if we spend the rest of our lives with them, God may occasionally play match - maker & send us someone we'll be happy & compatible with. My Dad declares that that's what happened with my step - mother. Now I'm waiting for MY TURN !! ;~}
2006-07-27 00:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by knoxvilledaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate the idea that there might only be one person for each of us. i mean how the hell out of all the people in the world are you going to find that one. i think that there are many different people for everyone i don't believe in true love or anything like that. love is love and some loves work out and others don't
2006-07-27 00:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is relational. He does have guidance for you as you exert your free will. But if you don't prayerfully seek his guidance for his best pick for your mate, then he'll leave it to you to figure it out for yourself.
God promises that he will provide whatever we need to love him, serve him, and live out an abundant life. So no he doesn't command us to go find a drop in the ocean. Instead, he promises that if we seek him first, then all the things we need will be added to us.
For example, when I was in law school I had done everything within my own ability to find a man. One saturday evening after witnessing a near shooting at a country bar in OKC, I gave up my approach to finding the drop in the bucket. Instead, I simply prayed. "God, you know what is good for me, and you know whether or not my life includes marriage. So, I'm going to just leave the match-making to you." My fear was that in my country conservative church that all potential partners where horribly boring and narrow minded and too straight laced. Two weeks later, I met my current husband of 14 years. he is brilliant objective, struggles with his faith, and is restored, he understands me and tolerates me and challenges me. We are PERFECT for one another.
God's eyes range the earth looking for hearts that are fully devoted to him (a verse out of the OT). This means he as an impecable data base of those who are capable of serving as your spouse, and he can find one just right for you, if you ask him.
The physical relm is left pretty much to the structure of science, and mankinds discovery of God's language revealed in science. So that's why God can permit cancer. We live in a broken and fallen place that has many problems. But God can and does interact with nature, especially in areas where we haven't discovered the science that would aliviate the pain. I believe he only does this to prove himself as powerful and great. He also permits nature to run its course to prove himself as powerful and great. His love doesn't mean that humans will be protected from loss and pain. His love means that humans can experience something better in addition to the loss and pain imposed upon us by others and our world. His love means that we don't have to endure loss and pain eternally. That would be really mean. Satan wants us to live crippled by cancer, and death, and he wants us to believe God doesn't care, and is cruel.
Abraham was faced with the same predicament you face. He was asked to sacrifice his son. He could believe that God was cruel, or that God was good. He chose to believe and act as if God were good. This is the faith of the Judeo-Christian Faith. And that is that we serve a faithful, loving and good God, even when we are confused, hurt, and lonely.
2006-07-27 00:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all must make our own decisions based upon our individual personal preferences, If there is a god he/she will sort it out in the end.
Never allow anyone who hasn't personally died, Tell you what happens after you die.
2006-07-27 00:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋