im very much into ths woman shes the love of my life. but my relationship with god is so much more important. and shes really into this to more than i am and im giving up eveything i have. she was my manager and i lost my job and she did to. and i stll live with my parents but shes 21 and im 17. please help me im going crazy!
2006-07-26 17:29:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just let her know that you no long want to be with her and explain why. So that she knows the reason why, and understand better
2006-07-26 17:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by tendertrex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a toughie. First, keep in mind that she could be charged with a crime in some states since you are under 18, and she is not. Secondly, whether a straight relationship or not, 17 is pretty young to consider someone the "love of your life". Seriously, been there, done that. I married at 17, thinking it was forever, but trust me, people change dramatically (as they should between the ages of 17 and 27 anyway) so thinking that a relationship is "forever" at that point, but that is not realistic for the majority of people. Another thing to consider is your sexuality. I don't know if you have ever been attracted to other women, but your religious beliefs are likely not going to win in a battle with your natural tendencies, whatever they are. There are churches that have large or exclusively gay and lesbian memberships, and while it may not be the belief of the majority, I for one, believe that God creates all people, including those who have feelings for the same sex, so I cannot question or condemn these people. I expect others might quote Bible passages to you, but I will not. I have had friends, and even a brother in law, who continue to practice their religion (and my brother in law is MUSLIM!) AND have same sex relationships. Things are also more difficult because you are underage and living in your parents' home, but my biggest concerns in your situation are not that it is a lesbian relationship but that 1) you ARE underage, and 2) someone in a position of authority over you, namely an adult manager, involved herself in a relationship with you.
2006-07-27 00:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by gahrahstah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you don't want to get out of your relationships with her. You are feeling conflict because you believe that being with her is contrary to God's will.
But, this is not true. You have been listening to your relatives, rather than your heart.
There are many, many christians who are not conservative fundamentalists, and do not believe that homosexuality is wrong.
If you find the right church, and listen to what they teach, and read your bible and pray, you will realize that God's compassion and love for you trancends everything.
The hatred that some churches teach against other people, including gays and lesbians, is a work of satan.
The writings in the bible that are most important, and that you should focus on, are the teachings of Christ. Christ taught to love one another, he did not teach hatred. He taught forgiveness, compassion and love for everyone. Follow Christs teachings, rather than focusing on the teachings of the past, before Christ came to teach.
You need to put your foot down with your family. Tell them that if they continue to push you on this issue, you will stop speaking with them for at least a year.
You can love God, and obey him, and still love your friend. There is no conflict in his eyes.
(By the way, in reference to someone else dumb answer... The age of consent is 16. At that age, you can choose to have a relationshiop, sexual or otherwise, with whomever you choose, of any age, as long as they are not your teacher, priest, or therapist. Your girlfriend is not breaking any laws.)
(To another dumb person who answered you...
Of course you can be a christian, and a lesbian at the same time. God accepts everyone, without exception. If God forgives murderers, adulterers, thieves, prostitutes, cheating husbands, fornicating priests, and pedophiles, why would he not forgive and love someone whose only crime was loving someone else and wanting to care for them for the rest of their lives?
As for abomination before God. That is in the old testament, and is no longer true. How many people eat pork? Since the old testament forbids it, does that mean that eating pork, and being a christian is not possible? God will love and forgive a murderer, but not someone who eats pork? Get real. Tell your pastor that by teaching such hatred, he is propogating the work of satan, and not teaching about the love and forgiveness of christ.
2006-07-30 11:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Atom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way ahead of your self sexually. Too young to be sexually active let alone with a woman.
Make a choice and get busy doing something else.
A habit you need to quit needs to be replaced with another habit.
Make a clean break.
You have more control over your life than you realized.
Just make differnet choices.
God Bless YOU!
2006-07-27 00:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You giving up everything is wrong. Coming from my personal experience. I think if you really love this woman you need to confront her about your problems. Keeping them bottled up inside yourself is not good or healthy. I am a lesbian too. I have also giving a good deal to be with the love of my life. Sometimes making some sacrifices is good, but don't give up your whole life to be with her. Its not worth it.
2006-07-27 00:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would not treat this like any ordinary relationship because...
It's deeper then most, it is a true emotional and spiritual bond, you would need to tell her and then cut all ties with her no phone calls NO contact at all and then, pray.. It may sound a bit extreme but look at it, the relationship in its self was extreme..
seriously.
2006-07-27 00:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no christian, and I can't recall anything in the ten commandments that forbid lesbianism, but that's just me.
Is your God that petty, he would smite you, for being in love with someone.
Or is just your church that forbids it. I can't see any God, who as far as I know, is supposed to be good, would go against your love.
Maybe you are just too young, wait till you are older and wiser.
2006-07-27 00:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..if u'd read ur Bible u'd realise that relationship like gays and lesbians are totally prohibited(sodom and gomorrah in genesis,and in the epistles there are mentions,too)..God uses the word 'abomination' to describe these relationships..so,sister(since u said that ur a Christian),if u really want to place God first,just call it off,tell her of what ur stand really is..
may God grant strength in making a stand for Him..
2006-07-27 00:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by alexgnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not proper to answer a question with a question, but how did you get INTO a lesbian relationship if you're a Christian?
2006-07-27 00:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't know how it would be any different for a christian lesbian than any other person. I think you should just break up with her if that is what you want. Don't overcompicate it. Just do it.
2006-07-27 00:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by thisisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋