do you guys play? i mean, i went out on a date last night and the girl slept over and we got 'close..' I thought it was all good, that something could be of substance because she initiated the sleeping over, in a sense, but now she is distant. When we chat, she is almost borderline rude/not caring. I don't get this? Should i just avoid her now for a bit or phone her and say WTF???? I know it was too fast for us to have gotten intimate but gosh, don't treat me like nothing now ??!!! I don't know, I feel hurt and I'm thinking I should have gone into this as a player and not someone sincere!! I feel punked!!
What is going on girls? I need your valuable input on this matter for I am truly confused!!!!!!!!!!:(
2006-07-26 17:14:17 · 7 answers · asked by v_stroke_28 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes, women (but not to exclude you guys) go for the physical intimacy first, because to be psychologically / emotionally intimate can be scary. So, sometimes people want to feel close to someone, and feel that they're loved, but don't want to invest any real part of themselves. Maybe someone hurt her very badly in the past.
This may sound odd, but maybe you could try asking her out a few times, just for lunch, or doing some things together, that aren't physically intimate. Find out what she likes, what she's interested in. But, I'd say if she doesn't respond to that, then let it go and chalk it up to one of life's lessons. Not all women are like that.
2006-07-26 17:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Joya 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The problem isn't you, it's her.
Though I'm no psycologist, I can say from experience (uh, I myself was one of these?) this girl, though probably confident and outgoing, is actually very self conscious. By getting close to you and basically winning you over, it's a conquest. To her, it's knowing that at least SOMEONE in the world wants her. She shows the classic signs of someone who merely wants dating to be "the thrill of chase and conquest"! There is no future here.
Take it from me, this girl isn't someone you want to have a relationship with right now. She's not mentally mature enough to handle it. What to do? Drop it. Find someone better. She's obviously not into you. Sorry.
2006-07-26 17:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by SoJen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really very sorry for the thing You have experienced
I just think that you get the wrong Girl
You need to be sure first before "going down"
Best,
*_* Suri
2006-07-26 17:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Curiosity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men arent the only ones who go into a relationship thinking sex is the thing. maybe she was just out for a one-niter
2006-07-26 17:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by tony c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she thinks she did something wrong by getting close to you and also might think that you pushed her into it, when in her heart she really didn't want to be intimate.
talk it out with her nicely and respectfully and see what happens, but dont be pushy and dont rush.
hope that helps and good luck!
2006-07-26 17:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Getoutalive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't man enough, as you already knew that..
2006-07-26 17:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sex wasn't good enough. hahahahahahahaha..... seriously it must of sucked hahahahhahaha
2006-07-26 17:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by the_fox1101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋