I love him a lot but i dont like him stopping me from doing what i like to do. I am very loyal person, i just drink n dance with my friends, i don get close to ne one and he knows tht. I don get drunk either. ...This thing is really getting between us, what shud i do??
2006-07-26 17:11:41 · 30 answers · asked by shina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How old are you? are you still in your 20's. 'cause if you are this is the time to be with your friends and have a great time. I use to do this with my ex when we first met and she even had a 3 year old son. But we had later talked about it in an adult matter and she put her foot down and I agreed with her. she had told me that we need to stop going out to clubs and be there for her son and spend more time with him at home and I agreed to that and had the best five years with her and her son.
So just talk to him about it. Maybe go out once a week and spend more time with him for what he likes to do. If you guys don't click on the same matters all the time then maybe you should think about going your seperate ways. It's very hard to do but I think talking it out is the best thing. Don't argue on the matter but just talk about it,then the two of you may come around.
We did.
2006-07-26 17:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys use clubs for the very fact of meeting women---so he may see it as a threat that you will be there. The whole club social scene is not for everyone---so i think you should not jump the gun. i think you should try to meet in the middle---find a bar where you can drink and still do a little dancing---or make a deal that once a month that he gets to choose a fun evening then you get one too. Or even better yet, take some dance lessons and get him involved.
2006-07-26 17:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by pmbrundle74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up now before his controlling you gets even worse.
You should stay single, go out and dance and date.
At the right time in your life, your priorities will change, and none of this will even be an issue.
Just cause you love him doesn't mean that you belong together.
Obviously, the two of you have different agendas right now, and the timing just isn't right.
Good luck with whatever you do.
2006-07-26 17:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by val schmal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because people are in relationships and devoted to eachother doesn't mean that they can't continue their own interests and hobbies.
I'd ask him first of all, what his specific concerns are. Is it the way you dress when you go clubing? Is he insecure of your relationship and afraid of other men? Is he afraid you are going to get drunk and get into an accident?
Find out his specific concerns and try to address those.
Be clear to him that dancing is something that you enjoy doing. I'm sure that there are things that he enjoys doing too!
2006-07-26 17:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by BAM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its like this Sarika.....you picked him.....and unless your head over heels in love with him...(which would mean that you wouldn't even ever consider going somewhere without him) then you have to realize that maybe you picked wrong.
Some girls would appreciate the concern or jealousy that he is showing. Maybe...even though its a slight chance....he doesn't want you to be one of those innocent victims of date rape that happens at some of these clubs.
Your choice....either respect his wishes...or find someone who is more compatible!
2006-07-26 17:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the clubs you are only young once... if you don't do it now you will regret it later!!! I know you love your boyfriend but never let a guy tell you what you can and cannot do!!!
he needs to get over HIS insecurities
2006-07-26 17:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is being very jealous & possessive, which is really unhealthy for the relationship. Talk to him, reassure him that you can trust you & that there is nothing for him to worry about, or see if he wants to come one night. Explain that it's really getting between the two of you, & pushing you away, hopefully that will help!
2006-07-26 17:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to go with you...and ask him why he doesn't like you going. And if he says something along the lines of "boys"..."cheating"...then he don't trust you, and you know as well as i do that you can't have a relationship without trust and you should really talk to him about him starting to trust you if he's seriouse about ya'lls relationship, tell him that you don't like it when he says he doesn't want you to go have fun...tell him that's your fun...and that you don't stop him from his fun...Good Luck!!
2006-07-26 17:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Nanner♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing YOU can do, he is going to have to stop the insecurity and be a real man and stop worring. YOU CAN NOT CHANG HIM only he can
Or STOP going to clubs all together if you love him enough to change yourself
2006-07-26 17:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him,
i like you,
you will go to club if you enjoy ur male friends no problem,
every night 11.00clock come to house & sleep with me
2006-07-26 17:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by handsomeboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋