become his girlfriend. i don't want to get attached because he's a soldier and he just came back and i don't know if he can leave any second. and i'm also scared because he has killed people, he might be stressed at times. i don't if i should just live for the moment now because i really do like him.
2006-07-26 16:38:20 · 11 answers · asked by sweetdreams 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm only 17, he's 20 no marriage soon. i'm not worried about that.
2006-07-26 16:57:27 · update #1
I would advise you to get close to him and see how it goes from there because you don't want to run now and regret it whenever you think about it. Life is about taking chances.
His being a solider is not an automatic turn off, You have to get to know him and know if he is for real, You have to take into consideration that his job is not necessarily being a killer but someone who protects the country, I hope this helps
Good luck.
2006-07-26 16:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Floating on air. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No rush - take your time, get to know him. Listen to him and if you find common ground and you both are into a relationship that will have unique demands on your emotions and time - then go for it.
But no reason to make big decisions now. Just hang out and get to know one another.
I think if he's suffered from traumas from being in war, that he may feel stressed out and like he has to do something or live his life fast bc what if it ends when he goes back. He probably has seen and been through things that would cause you to be shocked.
One thing about the military is it's hard to keep relationships going unless the parties marry bc of all the rules and deployments around the world. Consider if you could deal with all of that eventually. Many end in divorce too.
If he gets really stressed he can get counseling thru the military. Just be there for him and listen, that's probably what he needs now.
Try to find fun things to do and maybe introduce him to your friends and family and see what they think. Sometimes they can see stuff you can't bc they're not emotionally involved.
Good luck and tell him we appreciate his service to our country.
2006-07-26 23:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how can you eve ncome close to be thinking that you can be at a "girlfriend" level after meeting him once. Second, the honeymoon phase in any relationship is always great. Him being a soldier will be tough. Statistics already show that people in the military have an extremely high divorce rate already...I think it was like 70 to 80%.
2006-07-26 23:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by ohnoslen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont rush it, just keep in touch when he gets out let things take their course. Men in the military are rarely faithful and they do have mental problems because of the things they have seen , done and places they have been. If you want to live for a moment this may be the best way. If you want to live for the moment this may be your last.
2006-07-26 23:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by c g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your general relationship develop but I wouldn't go for the girlfriend/boyfriend thing for a bit [that means at least 2 weeks] until you feel comfortable as friends. Take your time and good luck.
2006-07-26 23:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by tothebeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to be scared about based on what you've said. You should take it a bit slower than he seems to want to go, but other than that, I think you should go for it! He'll really appreciate a woman who can deal with his deployment and also be there for him when he has a load on his mind. Good luck!
2006-07-26 23:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are having doubts and are unsure you should just get to know him a little better first like maybe just as friends then wait and see if you really like him after you get to know him better then see what you wanna do. i suggest not moving too fast cause you might make mistakes you might regret later. hope this helps and good luck.
2006-07-26 23:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Joshy's baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush, you just met him yesterday, and you seem ready to slip on the wedding ring.
Get to know him better, be his friend, he doesn't need the pressure from some girl, just now.
Take a deep breath and relax.
2006-07-26 23:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be his friend and if you really likes you, when he comes back from where he's going to , you will be able to continue your friendship.
2006-07-26 23:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by The Duke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be his friend, you're not ready for anything more.
2006-07-26 23:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋