I slept with my best guy friend back in January. We kept up this little game for a couple of months and it was never really clear if I was his girlfriend or not. So when it got screwed up, he and I basically ruined a perfectly good friendship. But now he and I are friends and I have come to know that I love him. But I'm afraid to act on these emotions, because of what happened before. What should I do?
2006-07-26 16:25:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just do whatever you heart tells you to do. or you can look for signs about how he feels about you and then act on it. Personally I would tell him how I feel and then go from there.
2006-07-26 16:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by lilcc2006sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guy who's been there listen it's one of those things you have to come to terms with if he's good friends sit down with him like a brother and come clean there is nothing easier than giving him the ball so you won't ever have to worry about dropping it again. Check it out:
1. The fact that you both are friends again means one of two things it either means that it was very akward afterwards (when you guys got together) that you didn't know what to do but the fact is still fact you guys are friends again so that means you both liked it. It's just that neither one of you are good at ackward moments and it took you both this long to come back around.
2 The second of course is the one we all hate admitting to is maybe your just better friends than lovers, but god what an erotic friendship that can be so close but never touching.
Now here's the solution, since your so close to him and this is a guys point of view, guys always like to be in some sort "In charge" of the relationship so let him have that "Charge" sit down with him when your all alone and though it will make you nervouse and you'll probably feel like choking just give him the ball by saying:
"You remember the time we......... Well there's some part of me that want's to make it a more solid thing But because I care so much I don't want to loose you again like last time when we both felt so ackward, I mean if all we are to be is friends I would rather leave that up to you and if we are to be more I also want that to be your choice I just want you to know I will still be right here no matter which one you choose and if you want more than I will definatly be here for that too."
By doing this you leave the decision on him you get it off your chest and no matter what this thing is, it will be cleared up and YOU WILL still be in the picture. I feel if you make it easy for him to kiss you (you kiss him) it will take the "Guys fear of being gracefull" out of the equation. Trust me a guy loves a real woman one who is not afraid to make her move, it's flattering and 98% of time it works (2% allowed for morons)
2006-07-26 16:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I did the same thing SAME STORY!!! It was in February thoug. Well If your friend already knows he can have so he may not want you. But let him come to you. He knows your interested. Don't act available all of the time but still talk to him and don't show signs you liek him. As for me it didn't work out but we are friends and act like it never happened. Lately he has been getting big headed so I have backed off by not calling him alot find your own life without him and don't make him the only guy friend you have or act like he is not the only guy friend you have
2006-07-26 16:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by LaToya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been friends again? You should make sure your friendship is stable before you worry about anything else. After that, decide if it's worst possibly ruining your friendship permanently. If you think it'll work, just take it slow. Don't sleep with him again right away. Try dating casualy and go from there. Have fun with it. Don't try to force anything before it's time. You both sound like you need time to get used to it. Give yourselves the time! If it's going to last, going slowly will only make it better in the end.
2006-07-26 16:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider entering in the NEW 12 step SLUTTERS ANONYMOUS program. It's really OK. everyone wears a "face" bag over their head. The men have to wear a face bag that has a caricature with facial hair so if the students insist in a slutters fest afterwards, they don't have to know WHO they are getting slutty with , they will just know if they are with a person of the opposite sex.
2006-07-26 16:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely are very good friends, you should be able to sit him down and talk to him seriously. Don;t get back into what happened last time where there was no communication of where you two were at. Don;t beat around the bush!
2006-07-26 16:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by ohnoslen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask him if he what he thinks about posibly moving the relationship into more serious ground or not? This why it will be his idea to move forward and you will not have any doughts as to how he feels... On the other hand it could hurt you if he says no.... But if you do not talk with him you will never know what he thinks.
2006-07-26 16:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by rrh1210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with yourself, and with him. You will always wonder what would have happened had you told him you loved him. You should not risk losing him by being to scared to tell him how you feel, because one day some other girl will be the one who is honest with him, and he'll be gone forever. So tell him!
2006-07-26 16:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by CoutureCutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, he tricked you good. I'm still learning how to trick a girl into loving me and thinking we're girlfriend and boyfriend, just so I can play with her soft toys.
Sounds like this guy is an expert.
2006-07-26 16:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by whytedunker1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight forward honesty is the only way to go, but you will have to be prepared to accept the answers he gives you, even when they are not the ones you wish to hear.
2006-07-26 16:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by quikzip7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋