I haven't seen her in 6 years got back in touch through myspace. The problem is that she lives with her current boyfriend. I don't intend for anything but friendship to come of this but I still feel like I might be doing something wrong. Am I?
2006-07-26 16:20:41 · 23 answers · asked by zuse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. does her current boyfriend know you too have been in touch?
I asked her if it was ok with him and she said she dosen't have to ask his permission.
2. do you have feelings for her?
She was my first love so there will always be memories but that is about it.
3. why after all this time do you want to talk to her
To get caught up.
4. how would you feel if your girlfriend was talking to her ex?
Probably somewhat jealous(why Im asking). But if she was honest with me I would accept it.
5. can you be just friends with this girl?
A lot of common intrest I think so.
She broke up with me because she said I wasn't good enough for her ouch I know but that is acient history. I sent her an email when I saw her on myspace to see how she was she sent one back saying how sorry she was and how you can't tell what a good guy is when you are 16. I hated her for a long time but that lead me to belive we can be friends and just friends
2006-07-26 17:26:45 · update #1
No I dont believe or feel like you are doing anything wrong. If you are intending on making it a friendship and thats all, well everyone needs friends! I think that would be a great thing to do espcially if you guys havent seen eachother in 6 yrs, great way to catch up! Good Luck and I would like to know how it goes!
2006-07-26 16:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by femaleballa23 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
pro: it has been six years
pro: some people can be friends
con: she lives with her current boyfriend
con: she is your ex and there is a reason you broke up and didn't contact each other for 6 years
con: you feel like you may be doing something wrong otherwise you wouldn't be asking the question
my questions to you that may help in your decision are
1. does her current boyfriend know you too have been in touch? if he doesn't then there is something wrong
2. do you have feelings for her? any whatsoever
3. why after all this time do you want to talk to her
4. how would you feel if your girlfriend was talking to her ex?
5. can you be just friends with this girl?
i hope that this helps good luck and may you feel comfortable with whatever decision you make
2006-07-26 17:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with it as long as you guys don't try to throw the current boyfriend out of the picture.If your friends you should all be able to hang out comfortably.If you guys go out of your way to make sure current boyfriend is always out of the picture,I would say not a good idea.Think about it and your heart will tell you what is right.If you believe it is wrong to be friends ask yourself why you feel this way?Do you still have feelings for this girl,or are you worried about what the boyfriend thinks?No one likes to be hurt no matter how macho some men may act,they show it in their attitude.Would you feel right if your current girlfriend hung around her ex?
2006-07-26 16:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she has a strong relationship with her current boyfriend since she is living with him and everything.. dont go trying to stir up old feelings and i think you should be cool. you can handle things like adults and after all it HAS been 6 years.. thats more than enough time to move on.
I dont see the problem in it. Dont make it a night thing though. Have lunch with her, coffee or something in a public place during the day or the afternoon for the first time. No temptation ;)
2006-07-26 16:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by SPanKin FiNe CuTiE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is with a guy now and you know he would be jealous then you shoudn't contact her. There is nothing wrong with being a friend to her although keeping in touch privately will only be a behind the back issue for later. Be safe and don't get involved because you wouldn't want her to do this to you. If she breaks up with him later on and is not with anyone then sure you could chat. Think about it. I think you already know the right thing to do.
2006-07-26 16:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bad idea. It's theoretically possible that you can have a friendship with this woman, but I doubt it will happen without a great deal of discomfort for the both of you. Also, should the opportunity arise, you should never take her back. Never. There are very few circumstances that justify giving a second chance in love. Good luck!
2006-07-26 16:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you are doing wrong is having a myspace. It ruins lives. I hate that piece of ****. Sorry any way , maybe you just don't feel you should talk with her while she is living now with her new bf and you kinda have feelings for her still, why else would you ask a question about her?
2006-07-26 16:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pack your toungue in her mouth and swirl it around , you might be entering the dark zone. Anything more than that , you are definately going on a trashey ride. Make sure she pays her share of the tab or you are a dolt.
2006-07-26 16:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doing anything wrong, she may be if she is being deceitful with her boyfriend. If you have a girlfriend and can't tell her you are going to meet up with your ex then obviously you are doing something wrong.
2006-07-26 16:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by cbarnet216 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong. As long as you are both going to be JUST FRIENDS ... if she is planning on meeting up with you to see what else might happen between ya'll then man thats wrong.
2006-07-26 16:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋