I am 43 and she is 53. She is very kind, but lives a few hours away from me and she needs to take a train to see me.
2006-07-26 16:14:02 · 10 answers · asked by pedidoc43 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who is always attracted to anyone all the time?
You don't mention the details like how long you have been dating...but is it not possible that you are at a turning point in your relationship? Maybe 4-6 months...or longer since it is long distance. It is hard to have a long distance thing no matter what the age.
Is age really the issue? She is very kind...but somehow you want more what>>>>>>>>
See what you want from the relationship. Examine why you are together. Choose if you are going the same direction. Talk to her. At 43, you should know if you are in it for the right reasons. Isn't friendship and love the motivator? Or are you still looking for that "magic woman" that stays perfect in your eyes?
You know that the woman of your dreams lives in your dreams? Reality always dampens the magic.
I don't know your situation...but if physical attraction is all that matters to you...then maybe she isn't the one for you. Maybe you should consider if she attracts you mentally and spritually. That is where the real magic is going to be found.
2006-07-26 16:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the spice is gone from the relationship, then maybe it isn't meant to be. Living that far apart puts a strain on any relationship, no matter how great. Talk to your lady and tell her, nicely, how you feel. There probably isn't much that will save it if you have lost interest and she lives too far away to stimulate it again.
2006-07-26 23:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At what times are you not attracted to her? You need to realize there will always be those times when someone does something that bothers you and you may find yourself doubting where you stand but the question is does the good outweigh the bad.
2006-07-26 23:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by cbarnet216 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I'm a man ill tell you something ? when you are 43 you need younger than you 30 to 43,, why ? to let you feel young and fresh,, to make you more active ,, you should feel excited with her,,,what lift from your life to be with 53,,,woman for men to make them Happy,,,!
2006-07-26 23:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by talalcamaro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if I were you, I would try to figure out how I REALLY felt about her. Is it love? Or, is it infactuation? Does she ALWAYS have to take the train to see you? Can you find some way to go see her? I hope this helps you. Good luck.
2006-07-26 23:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are losing interest in her. I don't think it's the age gap that is causing this, i think it's the distance problem. But neither should cause this to happen. You need to sit down and think about this relationship. Whatever you do though, don't string her along.
2006-07-26 23:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so your not attracted to her but yet you are wondering if you should keep seeing her? Tell her the truth, if she still wants to be your friend so be it.
2006-07-26 23:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already answered your question yourself, ask yourself if you love her, attraction is only part of a relationship, but one that keeps the spark alive, you have to love her inside and out, and if you dont, im afraid its time to move on.
2006-07-26 23:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, keep dating her if you want to.
2006-07-26 23:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont do it buddy.
2006-07-26 23:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by ninob_68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋