Jack (not his real name) was raised on a dairy farm and used to suckle the cows in the field when he was very young. He eats all the time and plays terrible golf because of his huge belly. I like the guy--he is a real cut-up. But he breaks chairs, ok? His mom sews all his clothes because there is NOTHING off the rack that fits him even in a big-and-tall shop for men. --The guy is literally all belly!!
He somehow got the idea that his family is big-boned and that's why he has (irrationally) a big belly and hates our calling him Porkie.
I'd like to get his weight down because I am his friend and think it's my responsibility to see him as others see him and let him know what that is.
And it just drives me up the wall to think about the fatty deposits around his heart. It's a mere two-pound organ that is keeping 325 pounds alive. If it ever quits on it, he is SO FAT that he will have to die in sections. It all can't just go in one whop, you know?
What to do? Suggestion please
2006-07-26 15:48:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
That wasn't right that you made me crack up at the end there but man....take him for a walk or more like an adventure somewhere (I know guys don't go for walks, we'll say hike) and hike for a couple miles and than turn up the distance after a week or two. If you have dogs take them along and make him hold on to them. Lift weights with him and be a good spotter. Obese people can get pretty damn strong pretty fast if they work for it. You should try explaining to him how much muscle is underneath.
Overweight people have to start out slow and move on from there. The biggest facter that you need to help change is the diet. You have to be smart and get into the guys head to make him understand the importance of this. As a fitness fanatic I've tried to help someone with this and it can be challenging. Don't give up though! Encouragement is good but pushing will make your plans crumble. Big people are sensitive about ther weight so don't go too far.
Just keep being the friend that you are and help him out in every way possible and he'll see what you're trying to do sooner or later.
2006-07-26 17:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by B-Truth 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There is not much you can do.
We can only help people who are interested in helping themselves.
Perhaps when the two of you are alone, you could talk to him and find out why he enjoyes being the weight he is at.
I would reckon that you are in US. Well, if only you could come over to Singapore, I could introduce you to my mentor. I am VERY sure he will be able to help him:
- decide he wants to lose weight
- rid him of his big tummy
Cos he has helped one of my friends who grew up happy with his big tummy decide to lose weight and lose like 37 pounds within 1 month.
I have always not liked being fat but I never really felt tat weightloss was important enough for me to take some serious action. I would always try half heartedly and give up.
My mentor is the person who helped me see and feel the importace of my weight loss and gave me the determination to lose the weight.
With his guidiance, I also lost 33 pounds within 2 months. (You can read more here: http://dreamsincredibles.blogspot.com/2005/10/angel-lost-15kg-within-2-months.html)
So.. would you like to come by to SG to see him? if you would, I can gurantee that you see results! ;P
2006-07-27 02:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overweight people usually vastly underestimate how much they actually weigh. Take a picture of him and show it to him, and he will be surprised at how he looks. It sounds weird, but people really get shocked when they see how others see them. He has become used to himself and doesn't understand that he can have a better life (and live a lot longer) if he loses weight.
Offer to help clean out his fridge and go to the store and buy produce and stuff. Good luck. He is lucky to have you as a friend.
2006-07-26 23:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First being his friend is a good thing, telling him that he's large and that he needs to loose the weight to help his health and well being. But actually telling him that he's fat isn't helping anything. I can honestly say that I am getting married to a man that is big, he weighs over 400lbs and he knows that he needs to loose weight and is doing so with love and understanding.
See if you can get your friend to understand that he needs to loose the weight for his health. And stick by him to help him loose the weight. It is always a good thing to have someone there for you. Possitive reenforcement is better than negitive anytime. being possitive with someone is always the best way of doing things. Sometimes people can't see that they are doing something that is hurting them. And sitting back and doing nothing isn't helping them either.
Good Luck
2006-07-26 22:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me - he knows he's fat. The excuses are a defense mechanism to try to fool himself, but he knows better.
But you won't change him. Only he can do that when he decides to change. He has to make that step, and you calling him names will not do anything but damage your friendship.
When he does decide to change, you can encourage him. Don't make a big deal out of it, but just say congratulations, you know he can do this. Then offer to help - walk with him at lunch time, go to the gym with him, exercise with him. Depending on his build, he may have to lose almost half of his current weight to get to where he should be. It can be done, but it's a real chore.
2006-07-26 22:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he has ever been told or read that his weight is unhealthy? If so, treat him as you do your smoking friends. Remove yourself when you find yourself getting irritated and stop calling him Porky, for Heaven's sake.
Appreciate his good qualities, don't let his downfall stifle your friendship.
2006-07-26 22:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Singlemomof10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to be your friend anymore.
You are not smart. You think you are, but you aren't. You know how to put together trash and then show it to the world as if meaningful.
What are you trying to prove...ignorance....
You have no idea what spirituality is about homey.
That is very smart of you to see my job occupation. I salute you, captain obvious ...How brilliant
2006-07-27 11:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Corey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters why do you call him fool;;;;;
and then i would say help him carry his weight...lol
sound harsh but it helps or if that is too much for you
then just steal all his food hat he stores at his house
after that you are on your own lol
2006-07-27 14:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by jem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to Subway everyday for lunch. Honestly, until he's ready to do something about it, there's not much you can do. When and if he decides to do something, be there to support him.
2006-07-26 22:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋