I can dress in sexy outfits, and I am by no means unattractive. Yet my boyfriend who I want to marry someday. Always says he is too tired or not in the mood for sex. Yet I always perform other tasks for him! He still gives nothing in return.
And it is making me feel like less of a woman, I feel unattractive and shy with my body. I no longer like him seeing me naked or even half naked.
He also makes me pay for my birth control and forces me to use condoms all the time (his fear of kids) I seet those as a waste of money because we rarly have sex.
In one month our total is two! He is 26 and I am 21, by no means old in our age.
PLEASE help me to decide what to do or say with him! This cycle has been going on for 2 + years!! And I am tired of it...
I want to be myself again....
2006-07-26 15:45:25 · 27 answers · asked by freethemoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might be cheating!!!! Im sure you're attractive, so there is no reason why a guy wouldn't want to have sex with you! A guy never refuses to have sex....He might have lost interest or he may be cheating..Why don't you ask him about his behavior? I say tell him that you guys should break iy off for a little while....See what happens..You'll know if he really likes/loves you , hon....How long have you been dating? He might want to test the waters with other girls...There is something going on...2 yrs w/o sex???? Sweety, always have confidence in yoursefl..Love yourself..If you dont, who will??? Dont let a guy make you feel inferior or unattractive...I've seen so many unattractive girls who have so much confidence!! So, why shouldnt a pretty girl like you have confidence?????
2006-07-26 15:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You've already answered the question, and probably just wanted to hear another human agree with you. When you are old and feeble is the time for no more sex, just friendship and talking, etc. You are a young and vibrant woman and I can assure you that a real man (such as myself) believes in making love at least 5 times a day on weekends and at least 3 times a day during the week. Have you considered that this guy might be gay?!
Good luck, and take care of number one...YOU!!!
2006-07-26 22:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is seeing someone else another girl maybe a guy maybe.....do you know? Are you sure you want to marry a guy that doesnt meet your needs. A life of love and closeness is to give love and be close with your partner. It doesnt sound like your relationship is an equal one. You should tell him that you have needs that are not being met and give him a deadline if he refuses to hear you on this. Be sure he doesnt get violent. Why spend the next three years hoping he'll change, sleep in anther room and when he asks what you are doing just tell him that your sick of being rejected and your needs not being meet. If he doesnt care about your needs then you shouldnt be with him anyway. Good luck.
2006-07-26 22:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Brad B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he very well could be cheating, and now that u live together he can do u whenever he wants so since he knos that he wont try to get u in the mood as much. Plus maybe its becoming to routine
2006-07-26 22:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's tired of you dear. Move on and get a man who will appreciate you. He may be cheating on you too. If he doesn't want to give as well as receive then the whole relationship is over.
2006-07-26 22:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a Heart to Heart talk with him and ask him what troubles him; or if he changes his mind about being/living with you. If he says there is no Problem, maybe he needs a physical checkup by his Dr. Good Luck.
2006-07-26 22:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by lousylaus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain this to him. If he doesn't love or want to be with you anymore, move on. I'm sure you have qualities that others like about you. You can find someone else. You don't want to live a life feeling smothered.
2006-07-26 22:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stop being with him.. maybe he lost interest in you because you have been together for a long time and you had sex.... sometimes giving too much is not good...
but if you really love him, try to be creative so that he will once again be interested in you.. be more fashionable and be more creative with your own style towards him.
2006-07-26 22:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by mystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is another Victoria Secret type woman in his life. This is a 100 percent sure. Good luck to you!!!! I'm always here to protect and serve you!!!!
2006-07-26 22:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well unfortunately.. guys take women for granted. I agree he prolly is tired and whateva... but he still needs to take care of yer needzzz. I guess you really need to sit down and explain whats going on, cuz its only gonna get worse as he gets older!!! Tell him to put out or get out...lol (now you know how us guys were feeling as teenagers..lol)
2006-07-26 22:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by mrbubbachowpuss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋