Now he does the same again 3 weeks later.....Prior to that he did the same **** to me before (5months) leaving to a trip the next morning! Can you believe. But then time went by (4 days) he apologized and said sorry...He thought we weren't good together, I wouldn't be suited to be a pastor's wife etc. Now he is away at a religious camp meeting with me and my family...(he doesn't come from a religious background) but he thinks we are 'not good together' It hurts me so bad, the guy just goes nuts and hutrts people. He always trys to change me , altough he say he don't. No one boy or girl is perfect so why does he insist this on me?? True love would accept the person who you are and not look at the bad right? B/c that's how it is when u in love right?
2006-07-26 15:22:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you know what your answer is, you just have to have the courage to follow through with it. This "boy" obviously is still trying to figure out what he wants, and it sounds like you are too. You need to find out what you want, which hopefully won't include someone that doesn't think you're good enough for him. You guys have been together for a while, so it's probably hard to imagine life without him, but harder still would be imagining a life without yourself. If you're allowing him to act this way, you're not being true to yourself. Find the door, get consolation in the people that do love and care about you exactly as you are....and lastly, publish the name of the church that this man is working at/ planning to work at, so that I'll never darken those doors. Someone who would act that way hardly qualifies as a spiritual leader.
2006-07-26 15:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by holleygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.
Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.
Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.
2006-07-26 22:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you seriously need to think long and hard about this relationship. It doesn't sound healthy for you or anyone else involved. If I were you, I would close the door on this past relationship and never open it again. You can find a man who is not so critical of you and will accept you for yourself..
Good luck..your prince charming will turn up if you let him...
2006-07-26 22:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is really hard, and breaking up over & over is even harder! I've been going through a similar situation lately, & I think love should just work, & neither of you should have to change. if you love someone enough you don't see the bad because theres so much good.
2006-07-26 23:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like he doesn't know what he wants so how are you suppose to have a clue?My advice is to move on.IF it's true love,he will be back and he will stay.Right now,he needs to have some time alone and grow up.BUT considering how he's acting,just move on.Find your real true love.HE(the real one)is out there waiting while your wasting your time on your ex.
2006-07-26 22:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone you don't try to change them.Also have you ever thought that the reason he breaks up with you before a trip is so that he is free to flirt and do other things with girls wherever he is going and so that it can't be considered cheating.He is a dirtbag who needs to be dumped.
2006-07-26 22:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's vacillating because he is not ready to commit and despite his religious convictions, may very likely be cheating on you (emotionally if not physically) with someone else. Don't turn a blind eye, follow your gut instincts. If he's not loving you 100% you need to let him go. You deserve better! (((((hugs))))))
2006-07-26 22:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by :) K-smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with ur life, get over him. Act like he means nothing to u, and hell come running back into ur arms, or just leave him, he is not worth ur time.
2006-07-26 22:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by InNamorato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him f*ck you in the *** then take a dump on his chest. That will solve any complicated relationship problems! (When he returns from bible humping camp, of course)
2006-07-26 22:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by vitamin_t1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right ....and you had better run from this person who will eventually take away all of your self esteem and beat you down spiritually, emotionally, and probably physically
2006-07-26 22:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by cheryl w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋